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Quoting glowinthedark:“ We don't even know the OP's situation... that is what I'm saying. People read that she is young and doesn't have her kids and automatically assumed it was something she did as a mother.”

yep , i can see eye-to-eye with you on that one . .

Quoting Lexus20033 *39 weeks!*:“ Because someone was offering them one day and I was bored. Besides..just because my LO isn't here yet ... [snip!] ... and I had her from when she woke up to when she ate dinner and went to bed. Basically her parents were overnight baby sitters.”

No, they were her parents.

It's just weird to have a kind of mom siggy about stuff like breastfeeding and pacifiers when stuff like that isn't up to you. Your baby might not want a paci and co-sleeping might be the only way they will sleep. All the planning goes out the window and baby is boss.

Quoting YANA`S MAMY x3:“ yep , i can see eye-to-eye with you on that one . .”

I just feel bad for her, she was getting tons of shit and most of it from people who's mothering skills haven't even been tested yet, you know?

Quoting glowinthedark:“ No, they were her parents. It's just weird to have a kind of mom siggy about stuff like breastfeeding ... [snip!] ... not want a paci and co-sleeping might be the only way they will sleep. All the planning goes out the window and baby is boss.”

No trust me. They were overnight baby sitters.

I'm aware that not all babies like paci's, My sister and I refused to take them. But I believe a paci over a year is way too long. If my LO decides to take one then she will only get it to 6 months or a year.

Co-sleeping will not happen in my house. She WOULD be smothered to death by my husband. He cannot even sleep thru the night without rolling over on me. It's a safety issue here not a matter of what baby wants. If need be I will rock her and rock her and rock her to sleep. Feed her to sleep. Lay her in her swing. Find some sort of way for her to sleep. She cannot be in my bed.

Quoting glowinthedark:“ No, they were her parents. It's just weird to have a kind of mom siggy about stuff like breastfeeding ... [snip!] ... not want a paci and co-sleeping might be the only way they will sleep. All the planning goes out the window and baby is boss.”

I personally find that you are the one being super judgmental. Remove yourself from your high horse. Does my life and my KOM siggy really effect you that much? No.

Quoting Lexus20033 *39 weeks!*:“ I personally find that you are the one being super judgmental. Remove yourself from your high horse. Does my life and my KOM siggy really effect you that much? No.”

Haha! I just think it's funny. I always think it's funny when pregnant women are set in what WILL happen, because (as I'm sure you know since you're an expert and all) babies are the most unpredictable beings.

Quoting glowinthedark:“ I just feel bad for her, she was getting tons of shit and most of it from people who's mothering skills haven't even been tested yet, you know?”

i dont feel mothering skills has anything to do with it . it's just really acommon beliefthat if you dont have custody of your kids & they are in fostercare that you have not mothered your children efficiently . so yes , they were not right to judge before knowing why it is they are not in her custody, but them not being a parent yet doesnt have anything to do with it . people that are mothers will share the same assumption .

Quoting glowinthedark:“ Haha! I just think it's funny. I always think it's funny when pregnant women are set in what WILL happen, ... [snip!] ... in what WILL happen, because (as I'm sure you know since you're an expert and all) babies are the most unpredictable beings.”

I agree with what you're saying!

PFSH AND IM MORE OF AN EXPERT THAN YOU
MY BABY IS OLDER
i win i win i win.

Quoting Viktorya:“ I agree with what you're saying! PFSH AND IM MORE OF AN EXPERT THAN YOU MY BABY IS OLDER i win i win i win.”

Haha!!

It'sa rule of BG, people who are "more pregnant" will always respond to people "less pregnant" with something like "oh just wait it gets worse", so why shouldn't it apply to moms of outside babys?!

Quoting glowinthedark:“ Haha! I just think it's funny. I always think it's funny when pregnant women are set in what WILL happen, ... [snip!] ... in what WILL happen, because (as I'm sure you know since you're an expert and all) babies are the most unpredictable beings.”

No kidding they're unpredictable  

Common sense.

But I suppose according to you I should just go into motherhood blindly. Which of course is why hospitals offer classes and whatnot for mother's to be...right?? Because we can NEVER know what to expect.

I'm perfectly aware of colic, gas, sleepless nights, babies who are so tired they refuse to sleep, babies who hate swings and those who love them, paci takers, paci refusers. Women who can't breastfeed no matter how hard they try. How to mix a bottle. How to swaddle. Diaper changing. Teething...so on and so forth. There is a ton of shit that goes into being a parent. I'm aware.

I have no set plans for my child. I just know what I know and I know what I think is right and what is wrong.

Quoting YANA`S MAMY x3:“ i dont feel mothering skills has anything to do with it . it's just really acommon beliefthat if you ... [snip!] ... but them not being a parent yet doesnt have anything to do with it . people that are mothers will share the same assumption .”

Thats not true I am a mother and I dont share that assumption.... but then I am not judgemental of people and situations I know nothing about....

Quoting Expectin Jellybean:“ Thats not true I am a mother and I dont share that assumption.... but then I am not judgemental of people and situations I know nothing about....”

notice how i put the word common before belief . im not saying everyone in the world feels that way but unfurtunately many people do .

Quoting Lexus20033 *39 weeks!*:“ No kidding they're unpredictable   Common sense. But I suppose according to you I should just ... [snip!] ... I'm aware. I have no set plans for my child. I just know what I know and I know what I think is right and what is wrong.”

No, in my opinion you should go into motherhood with an open mind. Planning is not the same thing as preparing. You can PREPARE yourself that your child might have colic, feeding issues, sleeping issues, etc... you can't PLAN that your baby WILL do x, y, or z.... and this is why I laugh at the idea of a "kind of mom" siggy while pregnant. It's silly.

Quoting glowinthedark:“ Haha!! It'sa rule of BG, people who are "more pregnant" will always respond to people "less pregnant" ... [snip!] ... people "less pregnant" with something like "oh just wait it gets worse", so why shouldn't it apply to moms of outside babys?!”

blah blah blah I cant hear you
Sorry my post count is higher and I have 1 and half babies

YOU DONT MATTER!!  

Quoting Viktorya:“ blah blah blah I cant hear you Sorry my post count is higher and I have 1 and half babies YOU DONT MATTER!!  ”

Whoaaaah I just read your profile... 9 lbs 11 oz! My daughter was 8 lbs even and she looked huge to me. We called her our Viking sized baby.