I don't know what to do...

My fiance currently lives in CT and I'm in NC so things are a little rough right now. He's wanting me to move up there with my son. Since I'm pregnant with his child now..I sort of want him to move down here...because I feel a little bit more comfortable being around my family..if I move away my mom and dad (I'm currently living with them) they'll hardly ever see the kids. Which would be shitty they already have 4 grand kids they never see.I also don't want him to move here though because he has a good job where's he's at. I don't want him to risk not getting a job when he gets down here... I really want to just be able to up and move with him but, I don't know if I can. I don't know if I've just gotten too comfortable where I am or I'm just scared or what. I'm trying to keep calm about making a decision and I know I don't have to make one RIGHT now. I want to do whats best for me and for both kids but I don't know what is best. Sorry if this was all over the place...I just have a lot on my mind.

Hey fellow NC'er. You are in a tough postioin. When is the wedding? I can tell you from a military stand point as a military wife, your place is with your husband. No it is not going to be easy leaving family and friends and the security that you have here. But sometimes you have to take that leap of faith. You trust this man enough to call him your fiance and promise him your hand in marriage. Trust him enough to know he is going to take care of you, and your kids. You need to move to be with him. I know all to well how hard it is to leave family! I did when I was three months pregnant. My mom has four grandchildren she barely gets to see as well, now five. But when you get married, you place is with your husband, he is your family. To start that transition now would be best before the baby is born because you are going to have to make changes and your son is going to go through some changes and getting use to a new place. If you wait til the child is born, then you have two children that have to go through the adjustment. He has a good job, and from what I can tell the economy here in NC(and a lot of other places) are not good conditions. Trust him, and trust your heart. I hope this helps.

I feel you.

I'm moving back to Vegas (all my family is in Phoenix) so that my SO can be near his family.

It's a sacrifice I'm willing to make for the time being, so that his family can be with our son, because they're missing out on the first 6 months (we're planning the move for possibly the beginning of next year) of his life.

Just go with what your heart tells you  

Quoting SoDeliciousBows:“ Hey fellow NC'er. You are in a tough postioin. When is the wedding? I can tell you from a military stand ... [snip!] ... the economy here in NC(and a lot of other places) are not good conditions. Trust him, and trust your heart. I hope this helps.”

We haven't set a date yet at the moment things are too hectic for that. I feel like I have so much more to worry about that I didn't want to worry about a date too. Even though that would be something a little more simple. I'm just so overwhelmed with having a 10month old and knowing that I'm having another kid so soon....It wasn't expected at all. Of course WE messed up and didn't do anything to prevent it (which I should have thought about =\) The distance right now is making this whole thing so hard on both of us. I'm just worried that I'm going to move up there with him and we're not going to be able to fully support everyone. I don't have a job here =( I'm trying to finish up school finally and it seems like at the moment no where that I've had interviews at can work with my school schedule. So I don't want to go up there with nothing...no money etc. I feel like I'm just babbling on about this. But I really don't have anyone to talk to here so this is my place to get everything out.
Thank you for replying. Even if I didn't really respond back to what you specifically said.

Quoting Aiden'sMomma:“ We haven't set a date yet at the moment things are too hectic for that. I feel like I have so much more ... [snip!] ... is my place to get everything out. Thank you for replying. Even if I didn't really respond back to what you specifically said.”

i know it is tough! But trust him! How long til you finish school???

Quoting SoDeliciousBows:“ i know it is tough! But trust him! How long til you finish school???”

3 more weeks!
I think I'm going to wait until I have a bit of money saved up and then see about moving up there. I want to be able to buy my car from my parents first (since I can't take it unless I buy it)
I'm about to start babysitting my friend's two kids since her babysitter had kneww surgery and can't do it anymore. She currently has them in daycare and can barely afford it... So she'll be paying me half of what she was paying them. Helps me out and her out.
I ramble a lot...wow

i dunno..i would be hard for me to make a decision since im REALLY close with my mom(i dont live with her but see her almost everyday)and she helps with A LOT of stuff...but..If I reallllllyyy loved my boyfriend/husband...and I do..and if he lived there and I lived here..id prob move up with him b.c i couldnt bear to be without him....hes the father of my child and best friend...ya know?but do whats rightt for you