re: Military Families

Quoting Zepplin's Mommy  :" Well this weekend was not the greatest :/ how do you ladies deal with deployments!? i mean my DH isnt ... [snip!] ... on the weekends but its just so hard not being with him when ive been used to being with him almost 24/7 when he was home :/"

There are tons of posts on this if you read over the past few pages but basically the best thing you can do is stay busy by spending time with friends, finding hobbies, working a job (or jobs), joining clubs or sports teams (like I have a friend who plays on a tennis team in Pensacola and they travel all over and compete a lot so she stays really busy every weekend on top of teaching during the week)... You could also start working out, spending more time with family, taking advantage of spouses' meetings and clubs (which you can usually find on Facebook or your base's web page), etc.

There are tons of things you can do to keep yourself busy but whatever you end up doing don't just sit around all day with your child and do nothing else. That's the quickest way to cause depression or even issues in your marriage.

Stay busy and you'll be fine.

Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:" Get a job, get hobbies, exercise, basically just keep yourself busy. The busier you are the less time you have to focus on him not being around. You'll adjust with time and become more independent."

yeah i used to be so independent before me and him got together, i was a single mother, i do have a full time job with the state and i have a 13 month old child i know there is plenty to do like this weekend i took my DS to the beach just to walk around since it was really nice out. but i guess everytime i talk to him and realize how much i miss him it gets hard :/ i know ill need to just get used to because he will deploy often..

Quoting Derp:" There are tons of posts on this if you read over the past few pages but basically the best thing you ... [snip!] ... do nothing else. That's the quickest way to cause depression or even issues in your marriage. Stay busy and you'll be fine. "

Thanks, im trying to stay busy. i work full time during the week and since its been crappy weather here i just havent been wanting to go out and do anything on the weekends. I used to work out almost every day after DS would go to sleep but then my DH didnt like the girl i went with and made me stop going :/ i really loved working out and i keep telling him i want to start again and all he says is "work out at home" but for me it just is not the same, when im home i just want to lay around and play with my son but if i actually get out the house to a gym i will actually work out and do something. maybe i need to find some mommy me activities to do with my son on the weekends.. just sucks when my husband expects me to stay home every weekend and do nothing besides clean and do laundry. I also have no friends where i live my best friend got stationed in Hawaii, so now its just me and my son..

Quoting Zepplin's Mommy  :" Thanks, im trying to stay busy. i work full time during the week and since its been crappy weather here ... [snip!] ... and do laundry. I also have no friends where i live my best friend got stationed in Hawaii, so now its just me and my son.."

He'll never understand what it's like, so don't ask permission, do what YOU need to do to stay happy. How did he make you stop going? That's just wrong, you need to stand your ground on some things. I would laugh if my so told me to stay home all weekend and clean, and he wasn't even there.

Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:" He'll never understand what it's like, so don't ask permission, do what YOU need to do to stay happy. ... [snip!] ... stand your ground on some things. I would laugh if my so told me to stay home all weekend and clean, and he wasn't even there."

yeah i know. im really just trying to keep peace between us thats why i havent gone out and done anything... He pretty much made me choose between him and her -_- i will never understand why he did that because i never did anything wrong besides go to the gym and sometimes get a bite to eat after. he would say me and her had a weird relationship kinda like we were a couple? i did laugh at that part because me and her friendship was no different than mine and my best friends. yeah like when i said i was taking DS to the park this past weekend his response was "you can never just relax at home" im like why be home on a nice day when we have been in the house all winter! and went on to say well you can clean your room, do laundry, go visit his mom who annoys me -_- and stuff like that. We have fought so much about letting me go out and do stuff and i honestly think he is just worried that i will find someone else while hes away since this is the first time we have ever been away from eachother like this. Ive told him i never would becasue i could never see myself with anyone else but i do need a little more freedom. He eventually agreed to easing up on me a bit, so lets hope he does. i told him once i get my military ID then he has no say in when i go to the gym because im gonna go whether he likes it or not lol he still a lil mad about that but idc it makes me feel good  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Zepplin's Mommy  :</b>" Thanks, im trying to stay busy. i work full time during the week and since its been crappy weather here ... [snip!] ... and do laundry. I also have no friends where i live my best friend got stationed in Hawaii, so now its just me and my son.."</blockquote>




I know how you feel, I quit my job when I found out I was pregnant because I was having issues and was put on bed rest. I'd only been living here for like two months, and now I dont have any friends. I sit at home everyday with my dogs, and wait for my husband. I want to get out and do something, but I have no idea what this town is so tiny and crappy, and its snowing and freezing everyday anyways. Then once the baby comes I'll have no time to do anything! :/ but my husband wouldnt care if I went out to do something, but he's not understanding either. He thinks its amazing to be able to sit around everyday. And once the baby is here he'll be the only company I need! Ugh its annoying!!!

Quoting Carissa Biron:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Zepplin's Mommy  :</b>" Thanks, im trying to stay busy. i ... [snip!] ... its amazing to be able to sit around everyday. And once the baby is here he'll be the only company I need! Ugh its annoying!!!"

awww yeah! i really enjoyed being home with my LO once i had him! i cried going back to work, and now i want to be home with him all the time but i dont want to be in the house 24/7 when its warm and nice out i would like to take him places like the park and everything. i just hope once me and my husband get stationed somewhere that he will be less of a worry wart and let me go do stuff with my DS which he has no problem of me doing stuff with him, he just doesnt like how i know alot of people where i live manly males and thinks ill be meeting up with one of them when in all reality i dont have their number, i dont talk to any of them anymore, and i just want mommy son time thats all so i wouldnt even try to invite another male. ;/

Quoting Zepplin's Mommy  :" Well this weekend was not the greatest :/ how do you ladies deal with deployments!? i mean my DH isnt ... [snip!] ... on the weekends but its just so hard not being with him when ive been used to being with him almost 24/7 when he was home :/"

I have 4 kids to chase.. they keep me occupied   plus hubby and I talked every day via webcam or phone. we sent pictures like crazy (before we were so into posting all our pics on facebook) and the kids and I looked at pics of him every night before bed.

we only have about 2 weeks left  

Quoting J+D=4:" I have 4 kids to chase.. they keep me occupied   plus hubby and I talked every day via webcam or phone. ... [snip!] ... (before we were so into posting all our pics on facebook) and the kids and I looked at pics of him every night before bed."

Yes we skype and talk on the phone every night plus text right before he goes to school and right after he is done with school everyday. But as soon as we start saying i miss you i miss cuddling and all that crap it like puts me down because i really miss all that!!! you are so lucky to only have 2 weeks left!!! he was supposed to be done by june but now its looking like july, and he said if it keeps going the way it is with him being put on hold for classes he could be staying there till Aug or Sept  

Is this thread supposed to helpful?

Quoting mαkαnαni:" Is this thread supposed to helpful?"

I really don't know how I'm supposed to read that.

It's sticky' d for a reason..  

Quoting aℓyssa™:" I really don't know how I'm supposed to read that. It's sticky' d for a reason..   "

I know I first read it before my coffee and I was like huh? How do I take this?

Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:" I know I first read it before my coffee and I was like huh? How do I take this?"

Right??  

<blockquote><b>Quoting mαkαnαni:</b>" Is this thread supposed to helpful?"</blockquote>

No?