re: Military Families

S/o leaves on Friday and just found out. They said he's leaving for 3 months, but he probably will for longer? I don't know how to cope   this is my first time experiencing this. My son is 2 months on Friday. I've been in such a depressing mood  

Quoting Marissa[+1]:" S/o leaves on Friday and just found out. They said he's leaving for 3 months, but he probably will for ... [snip!] ... how to cope   this is my first time experiencing this. My son is 2 months on Friday. I've been in such a depressing mood  "

I know it's different for everyone but three months really isn't that bad. Just think about how it feels like late November/early December were yesterday, you know? My husband was gone for three months between September and December and I just stayed with my father during that time in my home town since we were between bases. It was actually nice getting to see family and friends since we've been so far apart for so many years now.

I'm guessing he's going away from training and you guys are new to the distance thing. Think of it as a learning experience if possible. Take it day by day and don't think about how much time is left. Keep yourself busy, confide in family and friends, and definitely find some women who can understand how you feel (whether it's online, a Facebook group for your local base, close friends, etc.).

You will be just fine. In fact, a lot of people surprise themselves with how well they handle seperation. With that being said some also fall apart totally and end up thinking they can't handle it at all. If the latter happens there are ways to face it but don't expect anything likie that to go on. Chances are you'll do just fine if you stay busy and talk to him when you can.

Golden, sorry your husband is leaving so soon =( How long is his deployment for?

Quoting Derp:" I know it's different for everyone but three months really isn't that bad. Just think about how it feels ... [snip!] ... you stay busy and talk to him when you can. Golden, sorry your husband is leaving so soon =( How long is his deployment for?"

I guess it could be A LOT longer. I just think the worst things possible. E.g him being gone 6+ months (cause he said he could be gone that long) and that be won't come back... I've been staying with my mom for the past while cause I didn't wanna be alone with a new born while S/o was deployed. I usually only see him once a week anyway, so I guess it won't be that bad.

When he's back were getting a place together so I have a lot to look forward. I can't keep busy... I don't know anyone here and don't drink yet, so it sucks. I'm home alone a lot with my son so all I do is think constantly.

Quoting Marissa[+1]:" I guess it could be A LOT longer. I just think the worst things possible. E.g him being gone 6+ months ... [snip!] ... I don't know anyone here and don't drink yet, so it sucks. I'm home alone a lot with my son so all I do is think constantly. "

So, he's deploying for 3 months? Where is he deploying to?

Quoting Derp:" SO EXCITED FOR YOU!"

Thank you!!  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Derp:</b>" I know it's different for everyone but three months really isn't that bad. Just think about how it feels ... [snip!] ... you stay busy and talk to him when you can. Golden, sorry your husband is leaving so soon =( How long is his deployment for?"</blockquote>


They're saying 8 months 5 days. But, it's a float, and the last ones to come back were late 3 weeks (not too bad), the ones before that were gone 10.5 months.

I have a lot to do. He gets out on May of 2014. So, The kiddo and I are moving back to my parents until he gets out. We bought a house, and I wanted to get the sucker rented out asap thay way when the time does come, we are not going to miss mortgage payments. It's a crap situation, but you gotta do what you gotta do, ya know? He has a job lined up through my dad, and I have over a year to find one. Hopefully, he can get out, and spend time with his daughter for a little before going back to work.

I'm just worried about getting the house rented. So, if you know anyone looking for a 3 bedroom 1 bath with a fenced in yard in Jville, lemme know!

Quoting aℓyssa™:" So, he's deploying for 3 months? Where is he deploying to? "

Either Mali or Afghanistan. They still haven't told him. It's so annoying to wait last minute to find out everything (how long he's gone for and where he's going)

I feel like everyone's SO is leaving in the next week. Mine leaves next week for a year.  

Quoting Stefan Salvatore:" I feel like everyone's SO is leaving in the next week. Mine leaves next week for a year.  "

I've still got about 2 months till mine leaves for a year.   Been working on packing up our house. Not very easy to get much done during the day with 13month old twins though. lol

Could someone explain this to me? My DH just signed for our house on post today. We were under the impression that our BAH would stop April 1st.

The lady told him he won't see BAH on his March 15th paycheck.

To me, that seems off, since his 15th paycheck is still for the month of February..so, my thinking is he should still be getting BAH.

The reason I'm stressed about this is we're still paying rent on my home in MT (I'll be out of here April 1st).

Quoting aℓyssa™:" Could someone explain this to me? My DH just signed for our house on post today. We were under the impression ... [snip!] ... getting BAH. The reason I'm stressed about this is we're still paying rent on my home in MT (I'll be out of here April 1st). "

It shouldn't come out until April 1st. It takes longer then 14 days for allotments to process

Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:" It shouldn't come out until April 1st. It takes longer then 14 days for allotments to process"

That's exactly what I thought, but finance is saying otherwise.

Which really pisses me off because since January DH is getting paid two grade levels lowered (God knows how, where, when it got messed up) and they "can't fix it" until April.. but yet, they're so fast to take his money.

Well...we got the schedule for the day DH is deploying. Seems...surreal. He got off early to go to a going away for his gunny, that is not deploying with them. I miss him already.

I just found this forum and im so glad i did! i was just thinking the other day if there were any other military ladies on here!!   anyways

Im Kylie, i have a 1 year old son, and my DH is in the Great Lakes, IL for tech school right now.  

Quoting Stefan Salvatore:" I feel like everyone's SO is leaving in the next week. Mine leaves next week for a year.  "

mine leaves for 9-12 months in a few weeks.