re: Military Families

Quoting J+D=4:" well he is deploying in a month, and only has about a month left once he gets home. dont think he has ... [snip!] ... he has time for that.. unless he reenlists again.. and I dont know the rules on "indefinite" but this will be his 3rd re-up..."

Has he even bothered to ask how you feel about it? Idk if they're even still doing indefinite re-enlistments anymore, so it'll just be another 4. Well, I hope he takes everything into consideration

Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:" Has he even bothered to ask how you feel about it? Idk if they're even still doing indefinite re-enlistments anymore, so it'll just be another 4. Well, I hope he takes everything into consideration"

yeah he has asked. we talked about it and i told him i feel about getting out. we still have time i guess.. i want to go home so bad, so the offer is hard to accept

Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:" Has he even bothered to ask how you feel about it? Idk if they're even still doing indefinite re-enlistments anymore, so it'll just be another 4. Well, I hope he takes everything into consideration"

I don't know what kind of reenlistment my DH just did, but it only added a year on to his contract and he's stabilized at Ft. Riley. J+D=4, maybe that's something he can do?


It's the main reason why my husband did it, he's not sure if he wants to stay in, but since he's deployed, he hasn't been able to get any job offers or anything else lined up. He's also planning on finishing his bachelors before his contract is up.

Quoting aℓyssa™:" I don't know what kind of reenlistment my DH just did, but it only added a year on to his contract and ... [snip!] ... able to get any job offers or anything else lined up. He's also planning on finishing his bachelors before his contract is up. "

how old is your child? I was told being stabilized wasnt available until kids were in high school. and we don't want to be stabilized here, anyway... but every re-up has been for 2 years at least so far.

Quoting J+D=4:" how old is your child? I was told being stabilized wasnt available until kids were in high school. and ... [snip!] ... were in high school. and we don't want to be stabilized here, anyway... but every re-up has been for 2 years at least so far."

She's only five.   And there's a ton of people from his unit that have re-enlisted for stabilization, anywhere from 1-4 years, so I really don't know!

So, I have an odd question.

But is this.. normal?
My DH and I have always had a pretty healthy relationship, no insecurities or jealousy issues, so I really don't understand where my husband is coming from.

But it's literally like every time we've talked the last few weeks (which really is only like every third day), he makes some comment about "if I'm attracted to him still" or something of that sort.

And I mean, I respond with an of course or another positive statement, but we've never been that type to need reinforcing words/building each other up. Yes, we compliment each other and all that, but neither of us are ever negative about ourselves, if that makes sense.

I assume it's normal, right?

Quoting aℓyssa™:" So, I have an odd question. But is this.. normal? My DH and I have always had a pretty healthy relationship, ... [snip!] ... other and all that, but neither of us are ever negative about ourselves, if that makes sense. I assume it's normal, right? "

I think its normal, especially considering you've been separated by this deployment. He just needs some reassurance.

Quoting Sarah Bare-ah♡:" I think its normal, especially considering you've been separated by this deployment. He just needs some reassurance."

That's what I assumed. And I've definitely been reassuring him! I just.. haven't even considered that it'd be possible not to be attracted to him and vice versa.   So the first time, I shrugged it off.. But since he's made a comment about it a couple times now, I didn't even if it's something that I should be taking alarm too. (Not that I would even know what that would mean, so yeah, I realize now that was a dumb question.   )

My husband will be returning in a few weeks from his 5th deployment, but this is our first with kids. DD1 is 2.5 and DD2 is 13mos. I am nervous on how he will discipline our girls. I doubt he will be physical, but hard on them like he is to his Marines. Anyone else been through this?

Quoting very blessed:" My husband will be returning in a few weeks from his 5th deployment, but this is our first with kids. ... [snip!] ... discipline our girls. I doubt he will be physical, but hard on them like he is to his Marines. Anyone else been through this?"

My husband is the good cop usually. It bugs me.

Quoting very blessed:" My husband will be returning in a few weeks from his 5th deployment, but this is our first with kids. ... [snip!] ... discipline our girls. I doubt he will be physical, but hard on them like he is to his Marines. Anyone else been through this?"

my husband is harder on the boys than our girls. he has backed off on the boys a little, but he is still the enforcer. if they dont listen to me he just has to look at them and they change their tones. he is definitely easier on the girls than he was on our boys at the same ages.

Im not sure where else to post this. Dh just joined the army and left Monday for bct in fort benning. Im not sure how any of this works. And I'm not really sure how to deal with it I feel like I'm sad constantly. Any advice would be sooo helpful. my mil lives with us but I don't feel like I can really talk to her about it, I feel like it's different for her than it is for me. So I feel like I have no one to talk to.

Quoting *frisky2times*:" Im not sure where else to post this. Dh just joined the army and left Monday for bct in fort benning. ... [snip!] ... can really talk to her about it, I feel like it's different for her than it is for me. So I feel like I have no one to talk to."

It helps if you keep yourself busy so you don't really have time to focus on him being gone. Do you work, have hobbies or anything?

Quoting *frisky2times*:" Im not sure where else to post this. Dh just joined the army and left Monday for bct in fort benning. ... [snip!] ... can really talk to her about it, I feel like it's different for her than it is for me. So I feel like I have no one to talk to."

when my hubby left for bct I wrote him a letter every day.. even if I did nothing that day. just a short letter telling him hi and I miss him. that way not only did I feel connected, he got a letter every day as well. and when he left our son had just turned 1, so I was always busy. and we had a photo album we called the daddy book, and it was just pictures of daddy. we looked at it every night before bed.

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:</b>" It helps if you keep yourself busy so you don't really have time to focus on him being gone. Do you work, have hobbies or anything?"</blockquote>


No I don't really do much this past couple years have been really rough money wise so we are usually home. I do have a 5 week old so that is helping. I want to pick up some hobbies but I don't really know what lol I had my first son young so I never really went out or did anything except stay home with him, and I guess I just never really grew out of that.