re: Military Families

Quoting Tiffanie Rose:" I was curious how anyone younger kids did during deployments, our girls will be 1 on the 15th and hubs ... [snip!] ... or ends up on some weird work schedule he usually doesn't have.. makes me worried how they'll end up doing when he's gone. "

same :/
He leaves for 10 months in less than two weeks :/

My oldest boy is on his 4th deployment. His daddy, DH, left when he was 2 months, 13 months, 2.5 and almost 5. We got him a daddy doll and that has helped. But its hard because Daddy is his buddy.

During the 3rd deployment he was diagnosed with autism so that explained the regression, it wasnt the deployment itself. But my husband being away does make therapy harder because hes sad a lot. I just try to keep him involved. We skype as often as we can, it isnt much but its enough. And now that hes older I involve him in the care package process. He helps me decorate the box, draws him pictures and picks things out for him. He likes "taking care of daddy"

Quoting HisHoneyBee:" same :/ He leaves for 10 months in less than two weeks :/"

I'm wanting to try and plan as much fun family activities as I can before he leaves since we've still got a few months as long as the weather is nicer before he leaves. I feel so bad he's going to miss Christmas and their birthday next year.  

My daughter was 4 when my husband left, she's now 5. He was also gone for almost a year when she was 2/3.

Both times were hard at first and then we got into our routine and we made it by. She's a a huge daddy's girl and on our hard nights, she'll cry for about an hour and falls asleep with her army bear, daddy doll, and one of his shirts. It breaks my heart, but they get to talk once a week (and that's less communication than most get, so I'm sure you'll get more time than that!), so I think that helps. This time around, we enrolled her in Gymnastics twice a week and we have other activities the other days, so we're constantly on the go, so she can easily keep her mind of him being gone, if that makes sense.

Quoting Tiffanie Rose:" I was curious how anyone younger kids did during deployments, our girls will be 1 on the 15th and hubs ... [snip!] ... or ends up on some weird work schedule he usually doesn't have.. makes me worried how they'll end up doing when he's gone. "

Mine was 11 months when his dad left for a year and honestly it was like he didn't even notice.

Wow I haven't logged in, in a while! Let me start off by say I Smurfing hate Camp Lejeune/Jacksonville with a smurfing passion! This place sucks a hot bowl of dicks! There is nothing to do out here the nearest "city" is 45minutes away and its not even a real city!

Now that, that is out of my system.
I have a couple vents and questions!. Question. Number 1. I have been debating joining the navy for a year now I talked it over with dh and he supports my decision. I want to lose 30lbs on my own time and take my asvab before I talk to a recruiter, dual military pros and cons and what is required in navy basic? Question number 2. I need an actual legit photographer with their own studio not some SAHM with a Nikon. Ok vent good lord some of these wives are tropical smurfs! Om ob a fb support page I posted an anon vent and got eaten alive! All any one wants to do out here is pop out babies and get drunk off wine and gossip don't get me wrong I met 2 great girls here but after weeding out all the walking mattresses and lazy mofos I found some decent girls that I get along with.

Quoting -The Breeder and the brat:" Wow I haven't logged in, in a while! Let me start off by say I Smurfing hate Camp Lejeune/Jacksonville ... [snip!] ... girls here but after weeding out all the walking mattresses and lazy mofos I found some decent girls that I get along with."

I'm sorry   I made friends at our first duty station, and we are all still friends. they deployed soon after I got there, so we all relied on each other heavily. I think that's why we are so close. every place since then, it has taken more effort and produced few results... so far the only friends I have here are the ones we were connected to from previous stations.

Quoting -The Breeder and the brat:" Wow I haven't logged in, in a while! Let me start off by say I Smurfing hate Camp Lejeune/Jacksonville ... [snip!] ... girls here but after weeding out all the walking mattresses and lazy mofos I found some decent girls that I get along with."

I HATE IT HERE TOO! There are so many smurfing trailers in this area, it's sick... From what I can tell where we're at right now is the nicest place in this area (North Topsail Beach) and even this isn't that great. Saying it sucks a hot bowl of dicks is giving it too much credit. We're looking at buying a house out here but don't want to be tied to this area any longer than necessary. Then again, we'll probably be back here later on down the road and would easily be able to rent the place we're looking at out. I just don't know. Even the USAA people handling our money recommended not buying here, lol.

But yeah, this place blows. This is my fourth day here and I'm getting really smurfing depressed.

Quoting -The Breeder and the brat:" Wow I haven't logged in, in a while! Let me start off by say I Smurfing hate Camp Lejeune/Jacksonville ... [snip!] ... girls here but after weeding out all the walking mattresses and lazy mofos I found some decent girls that I get along with."

Sorry you're having a rough time. I never hung out with the military wives, I've only met a few that are good people.

Dual Military isn't bad. I joined the CG and my now xh is in the Marines. There's no guarantee that you'll get stationed together, so that part can be a little scary. There's also the chances of deploying at the same time as each other and when you have kids, that's scary as well. I would make sure that you have family that's super supportive of you joining that can be there if you do get deployed at the same time. Xh and I were stationed about 3 hour apart at my first unit, and now I'm in AK and he's in Socal, when I got orders here we were still married.

The benefits are great, you get double BAH, and I LOVE having a career of my own. I couldn't stand sitting back and watching him go on all kinds of adventures lol

I'm going to pull a post like The Breeder and the Brat just did. I have to complain about this place because it smurfing sucks. I don't know how I'm going to do three years in this hell hole. We've spent the past few days looking at real estate in this area and it's just smurfing depressing. We drove to Jacksonville the other day and holy smurf, if I see another jacked up Z-71 with USMC regalia all over it I'm going to puke. It wasn't like this in Quantico even and that's like ground zero.

It's like they filtered out the redneck Marines and put them all here. We went to Target to get some sheets the other day and there was a never ending supply of 18 year old girls carrying around multiple children while yelling at their Marine husbands. It's just smurfing depressing here. The people, the houses, the land... It all sucks. Usually I give a new home more than a week before deciding whether or not I like it but I'm 100% certain I will probably start counting down the days until we leave.... now.


I know I sound like a princess but really, I know a lot of you have been here before and if I recall just about everyone agrees this place blows. I'm pretty open-minded and I've actually been okay with the three places we've lived thus far. I dunno... There's just something extra smurffy about this area. I don't know how long I can last. I need to meet some decent women here, stat.

BTW, I need to clarify... The first post I made after getting here is how I feel about the actual house we're living in at this very moment. The latter post about NC is how I feel about the surrounding area. I like the actual house we're in a lot. I love that it has such a beautiful view, we are on the beach, etc. but my god... Just a short drive away and it all starts sucking really fast.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Raptor Jesus:</b>" I HATE IT HERE TOO! There are so many smurfing trailers in this area, it's sick... From what I can tell ... [snip!] ... not buying here, lol. But yeah, this place blows. This is my fourth day here and I'm getting really smurfing depressed. "</blockquote>




If you buy out hereyou will be screwed! Dh and I both agreed not to buy when our realtor was talking about buying is cheaper than renting but who the smurf wants to actually live here? I'm used to being in a city or really cloae or atleast having something to do on the daily. Don't get me started on all the lifted diesel trucks, this is hillbilly country!

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:</b>" Sorry you're having a rough time. I never hung out with the military wives, I've only met a few that ... [snip!] ... BAH, and I LOVE having a career of my own. I couldn't stand sitting back and watching him go on all kinds of adventures lol"</blockquote>




I'm jelly of dh too I want fun in my life I want to mewt people and travel and this will allow me to hopefully. Dh unit is nondeployable since he is admin but once he does his lat move to logistics and supply or motor t I'm sure he will. I'm looking right now at a dental mos which is less likely to deploy and be on or close to a marine base but I'm really torn about mos right now. I know I will have lots of choices because last time I took my asvab I scored like in the high 80s and I spoke to a few recruiters then

<blockquote><b>Quoting Raptor Jesus:</b>" I'm going to pull a post like The Breeder and the Brat just did. I have to complain about this place ... [snip!] ... just something extra smurffy about this area. I don't know how long I can last. I need to meet some decent women here, stat."</blockquote>




I've learned that is all their is here is 18yo with 3 kids, its like wtf when did you start? The lance on the end of my street has 5 kids and his wife is pregnant again I'm like good god woman slow down!

Quoting -The Breeder and the brat:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Raptor Jesus:</b>" I'm going to pull a post like The Breeder ... [snip!] ... did you start? The lance on the end of my street has 5 kids and his wife is pregnant again I'm like good god woman slow down!"

How does a LC handle six kids..? I just don't get it. My husband was just telling me he made $600 every other week when he joined in 2005. That's smurfed. How do all these young kids do this?

Anyway, my husband is going after his Master's so we're going to the base education office on the 2nd. I'm interested in becoming an EMT of all things. I've gone to college and all that good stuff but I need to figure out how to get certified. I thought about being a nurse but that would get monotonous... I like the idea of having a new "office" every day and really getting out there. I dunno. I just can't wait until he can retire in 12 years and we have his military pay, he's working another career, and I'm working. That's like three very good incomes all at once and I will still be in my 30s. I want to fast forward 10 or so years. We're trying to sort of rough it to have a nice nest egg but part of me thinks what's the point if we can't enjoy everything right now? I'm more of a here and now kind of person and he's the opposite. I know the latter is way more logical though, lol.

So how long do you think you'll be here for? And where do you live if you don't mind me asking? Are you on base?