re: Military Families

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kim ♥ 2247517922:</b>" I have a question for Air Force mamas... My husband's reenlistment is coming up. How does base of preference work for that? Would we be guaranteed to get where we want or is it still a coin flip?"</blockquote>

BOP can be denied. It just depends on the needs of the AF and where you want to go. I know people who tried for yeeeears and got denied multiple times. They just finally go it to Montana I believe it is.

Quoting Jerri _:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kim ♥ 2247517922:</b>" I have a question for Air Force ... [snip!] ... to go. I know people who tried for yeeeears and got denied multiple times. They just finally go it to Montana I believe it is."

Booo lol

we've been here the whooole time he's been in. But I've heard Langley is like a pit. Once you're here, you're stuck unless you find a way out. I think most PCSs here are selective, not forced.

Husband's an E-6. I don't qualify for the MYCAA and I was denied financial aid. Are there any other grants or scholarships for military spouses?

Well just got word today. Husband is discharged and we have to be out of base housing Wednesday... Oh and we have to do a DIY move since that's not enough time to get movers in here to do it. I'm cramping pretty hard from a miscarriage that started last night too.

Quoting Stephanie G. {2WW}:" Well just got word today. Husband is discharged and we have to be out of base housing Wednesday... Oh ... [snip!] ... that's not enough time to get movers in here to do it. I'm cramping pretty hard from a miscarriage that started last night too."

Oh Jesus, I am so sorry! I can't believe they're only giving you three days' notice to move all of your things. Not only that but do you have to pay for this move?? I'm really sorry about your MC too.

Brandon thinks there was a mistake in the paper work. He filed for an extension but we'll see.

We have to pay for the move but they're supposed to pay us back. If they give us the extension we should be able to get the professionals to move us. I pray they give it to us. There's just no way we'll be ready in time.

Anyone stationed in Fort Riley, Kansas?

Interesting. My husband went to a speech given by retired four star USMC General Neal and he was talking about divorce rates. The USMC has the highest divorce rate of any branch and enlisted Marines have a 95% divorce rate. Officers have a 50/50 divorce rate at the moment which is pretty much the national average if I recall correctly. The overall divorce rate was 70something percent, like in the high 70s. I believe it, especially with younger couples. Whether you're in the military or not your chances of a successful marriage dwindle drastically if you married under a certain age and married because of a baby. That's not to say young couples can't make it but, well, yeah. I'll probably stir the pot by posting this but I found it interesting.

Quoting Raptor Jesus (TTC):" Interesting. My husband went to a speech given by retired four star USMC General Neal and he was talking ... [snip!] ... not to say young couples can't make it but, well, yeah. I'll probably stir the pot by posting this but I found it interesting. "

That is interesting. 95% is crazy. My friend is going through a divorce right now, they werent young but I believe they got married because she was pregnant even though they had talked about it before hand.

Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" That is interesting. 95% is crazy. My friend is going through a divorce right now, they werent young ... [snip!] ... they werent young but I believe they got married because she was pregnant even though they had talked about it before hand. "

This is what happened with one of my good high school friends. She dated a guy who enlisted when he was like 20. Within months they were pregnant and married. They lasted for like two years. Their divorce was just finalized and she's engaged to another man now. Looking back on it she totally attributes the divorce to getting married at age 20 I guess it was. They weren't right for one another but they thought the right thing to do would be getting married. They even thought having a child would bring them closer. That's a huge mistake a lot of these couples make, I think. It's sad because they're trying to do what they feel is the right thing for themselves and their families but they aren't being realistic whatsoever. A lot of these kids (and that's what they are) haven't even come into their own and here they are all of a sudden with a baby and a marriage. It's no wonder the divorce rate is so high. Many of them try to say they're mature for their age, they're in love, etc. but realistically no matter how in love you are your chances of a successful marriage are slim at that age. You can see it on BG all the time. There are constant threads about wanting a divorce and these girls are like 21 years old. I'm not talking trash about them... I think trying to maintain a family at that age is a noble cause, I really do. I just think it's incredibly sad when it goes wrong (like any marriage, really).

Speaking of which, Gen. Neal said that enlisted marriages usually occur at a much earlier age.

Quoting Raptor Jesus (TTC):" This is what happened with one of my good high school friends. She dated a guy who enlisted when he was ... [snip!] ... people wait, the better. There's no denying it. I've never understood the rush, anyway. I guess playing house is appealing?"

I really dont know. I mean by all accounts my husband and I should be divorced if you look at the statistics.

Married at 22, met online only chatted for 10 months then married 9 days after officially meeting.

I think more than anything though people always think of divorce as an option, they go into it thinking well if this happens we can always get a divorce. They dont want to put the work in, they think it should come naturally and sometimes it does but even with love you still have to work.

Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" I really dont know. I mean by all accounts my husband and I should be divorced if you look at the statistics. ... [snip!] ... want to put the work in, they think it should come naturally and sometimes it does but even with love you still have to work. "

Well at least you were 22 and not 18 and pregnant though, you know? To me that seems like a lot of enlisted marriages (and according to General Neal that's exactly the case). The girls are often around 18-20 and are either pregnant or become pregnant almost right away. I'm not commenting on whether or not this is a good or bad thing, just repeating what I was told and what I have observed myself (before anyone goes off on me).


My husband was enlisted for seven years before becoming an officer and we actually got married long before he commissioned so I guess we're a little bit of both, lol. I met him right when we were finishing up college. I was 21 and he had just turned 26. We're now 24 and he'll be 29 on the 7th. Oh, how time flies!

Congratulations on your enduring marriage, by the way. I totally agree with you on marriage in general. People give up way, way too easily nowadays. I see posts on BG where women say they're not getting along with their husbands anymore and can't help but think, "Hellooooo, every marriage goes through phases where one or both partners become frustrated, annoyed, or even downright angry. That doesn't mean you give up and get a divorce though!" The things people get divorces over are downright ridiculous. (That's not to say divorces aren't good because they definitely are in many cases. The best thing my parents ever did was get divorced, heh.) Just because you hit a rough spot doesn't mean you walk out. You stood together in front of god or a judge or some random dude in Vegas and made a promise. Stick to it.

Quoting Raptor Jesus (TTC):" Interesting. My husband went to a speech given by retired four star USMC General Neal and he was talking ... [snip!] ... not to say young couples can't make it but, well, yeah. I'll probably stir the pot by posting this but I found it interesting. "

yup. XH is a Marine, and every single couple we knew are divorced now as well. 95% doesn't shock me one bit. Drinking and abuse are the main factors in most of the couples reasoning to divorce

Quoting The Icebox {MBRD}:" yup. XH is a Marine, and every single couple we knew are divorced now as well. 95% doesn't shock me one bit. Drinking and abuse are the main factors in most of the couples reasoning to divorce"

Yeah, it's really damn sad..