triplets still in hospital

So every day just seems sadder and sadder and longer and longer and makes me feel like im not a good mama cause my babies are 5weeks old and still not home lexi is 6'2 austin is 6'1 and corey is 5'6 and they are getting so big and doing so well i just can't stand to see them in the hospital and come homd and thier isnothing here for me its like killing me i know i had three babies but not to be able to touch them or just walk in their room and snuggle with them when i want to or hold them or anything makes me want to cry i am so messed up every time they get closer to going home they all three poop out on me and they slow down or something happens why does it have to be so hard they will be 38 weeks gesture this comming tuesday and it kills me to watch younger smaller babies go home and they are still in there... Is anyone else going through this or have any helpful hints on how to get through this i can't talk to family or friends because unless they have gone through it they don't know and it piss*s me off when they say u can do it it will be fine its like how do u know have u been throught it im going through a hard time and that is the last thing i want to know i know i can do it i just don't want to and i want it all to end............ I want to be the MAMA not the nurses they can never give those angels what i can and i need them just like they need me.......... Im sorry i have to talk to someone anyone HELP....................

awww im sorry mama i hope they get to come home soon!! and congrats on your triplets!

My baby was one of the biggest ones in the NICU but had to stay because of surgery. It is the hardest thing in the world to go home each night without your baby. do they have any idea when your babies will be able to come home??

Quoting tasha_dawn:“ So every day just seems sadder and sadder and longer and longer and makes me feel like im not a good ... [snip!] ... what i can and i need them just like they need me.......... Im sorry i have to talk to someone anyone HELP....................”

It's hard mama but keep your head up! I know that's not what you want to hear but remember being in the hospital is the best place for them. My twins were born at 34 weeks and I had the same feelings but I knew everyday they were getting stronger even if they took little steps at a time.


Don't feel like a bad mother because your precious babies are still in the hospital. They are getting the care they need. I understand about you wanting to do everything for them not the nurses. I felt the nurses knew everything about my twins & I hardly knew nothing : (

I dont have any advice as I have never been in your situation but just know that they will be home soon and you will have the rest of your life to love and snuggle them. The fact that you are so upset right now is PROOF your a good Mommy   They are all beautiful congrats!! Good job Mommy!!

\Quoting M&Ms Mama : ) [TCW]:“ It's hard mama but keep your head up! I know that's not what you want to hear but remember being ... [snip!] ... to do everything for them not the nurses. I felt the nurses knew everything about my twins & I hardly knew nothing : (”

I really try to keep my head up as much as possible and i know the nurses are there to help them its just some days are harder then others like today holding my litlte girl tears just droping down my face listing to another baby getting discharged and the parents so happy and it jsut killed me i can't even have one of my babies home or most ofall all three it kills me i know they all will be homd soon thanks to everyone for the advise im gonna get through this cause my babies need me to austin lexi and corey mama loves u and will be strong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Quoting Dest♥Bella [EBFB]:“ My baby was one of the biggest ones in the NICU but had to stay because of surgery. It is the hardest ... [snip!] ... thing in the world to go home each night without your baby. do they have any idea when your babies will be able to come home??”

well they told me lexi could have last week then she pooped out so it wasa hard day for me horrible day, all they have left to do is drink thier bottles straight for 48 hours and they can comehome but no one has a time frame thier due date is july 6th so hopefully by then pls by then

Quoting tasha_dawn:“ I really try to keep my head up as much as possible and i know the nurses are there to help them its ... [snip!] ... advise im gonna get through this cause my babies need me to austin lexi and corey mama loves u and will be strong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”

Oh mama, you must have been in my mind when my twins were in the NICU. Next to my girls were another set of twins in NICU and it seemed like all in the course of hours they were doing so well and were headed home. Of course I was happy for them but I still wanted my girls home. I had to take one of my girls home before the other & I nearly started bawling when they told me they had to keep Baby B for a couple more days.

It seems like it does get harder & harder but that's only because we couldn't love on them as much as we want too. I will keep you& your babies in my prayers though!!

First, I'm kinda new around here and wanted to say hang in there.
I had a special needs baby 5 yrs ago who spent 7.5 months (no joke) in hospital from the day of her birth until the day she came home. Talk about feeling like a horrible horrible mom. I also had a 2 yr old that I was dragging back and forth with me EVERY day for those 7.5 months. I wasn't much good to any of them, but I was doing what I could do to keep my little family together. It made me feel better to be there and just talk to the baby - and it made me feel a little better to bring a book to read to my 2 yr old... at least they both got the benefit of my reading to them.
My little one had breathing problems, and would go really well for 7 days being weaned of a ventilator before pooping out and landing back on full settings. It was hard, and I cried often, long and hard. All I could do was just be there for her. We didn't even get to the eating issues!
Now 5 yrs later, I'm back in a different NICU with a 31 week preemie (deja vu!) and struggling with it. But I know this one has less issues than our first go round.
Hang in there and be strong for your trips. But know that its okay to let your feelings go sometimes too. NICU time, no matter howlong or short is the hardest, saddest and coldest thing for a momma who wants nothing more than to hold her little ones. ((hugs))

Congrats on your triplets, but i'm sorry you're struggling so much. It sounds like they'll be home very soon though. I know what it's like to see other babies and families leave and wish it were you. You did a great job of getting to 33 weeks   I didn't even make it into the third trimester with our twins, and we lost one before our NICU journey even started. We spent 8 months in NICU, and we didn't get to leave hospital after that... we just moved to the wards in another area of the hospital. I used to be sad that we weren't the ones allowed to take him for a walk, let alone actually leave for good. I lost count of how many babies came and left and it felt like we hadn't even made any progress. I guess you can just be thankful that your LO's are only in there because they're learning to eat more, and nothing more serious or life threatening. I'm sure 5 weeks must feel like a long time to you, butjust stay strong and you'll be home before you know it.

I am sorry that you are having a hard time with all of this.......... Just know that very soon they will be in your arms and at home! They need the medical attention that they are getting so just be happy that they are helping them become stronger for you!!! Sometimes the nurses can make you feel like you do not have the ability to take care of your child and make you uncomfortable... That happened to my friend... she was so upset that finally she said no more! and took the baby home after 2 months!!!

I am sorry sweetie! I have 18mth old triplet boys, and I don't really have any advice for you except just be strong for them, they need you right now and they can tell when you are weak!

Hey mama, congratulations, three babies!! The NICU is hard. No one will tell you any different. But for us lucky ones, it isn't eternal. It will end and when it does, you won't believe how fast it went. My first baby spent 6 weeks in the NICU and my second baby spent 5 weeks in the NICU. Every single day was harder than the day before, but we're sitting 17 months outside of our last day in the NICU and you know what? We survived it. It's a sad, depressing memory but it's just that - a memory. You'll get there, I promise. Your babies are beautiful and healthy and it's only a matter of time. Those little people know you love them so much and they're just trying to get strong enough to come home with you. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time, but find strength in knowing it won't last forever. Hugs!

sorry its been a long road for you and 3 babys wow, must be hard   my son aidan was in nicu for 4 months and I remember every single day, seeing all the younger smaller babies leaving before us. it was hard
Just remember your babys will be home soon. the nicu just want them big enough and strong enough to do so
hugs at this time

Quoting Bailey & Aidan's Mummy:“ sorry its been a long road for you and 3 babys wow, must be hard   my son aidan was in nicu for 4 months ... [snip!] ... Just remember your babys will be home soon. the nicu just want them big enough and strong enough to do so hugs at this time”

threads 2 weeks old, her LOs are home