Etiquette... Some people get EVERYTHING and still want more!

Here is my issue...

I am sort of friends with this girl who is due December 26th. I say sort of because I really am better friends with her boyfriend who is a really nice guy and now that I introduced him to Jason, they're really good friends. So we're basically couple friends, but, she's really quite dull.

Anyway, we had them over a couple of weeks ago and when Jason, and her boyfriend, Edgar went out for a few hours, leaving me with her. And the WHOLE time they were gone the only thing she did was whine about how much she wanted to have something to eat. I have a Stiatic Nerve and am due December 7th, and I told her if you're hungry go get something to eat. Just go ahead and check in the cup boards and grab something. And she wouldn't get off her rear and go get it instead she continued to whine about food then basically demanded me to order a pizza. We don't have any money and she knows we don't have any money, my maternity is delayed for some reason... I haven't had income in over two monthes. At that point I raised my voice and told her "IF YOU WANT FOOD HERE IS THE PHONE CALL EDGAR" You also have to realise the girl is close to 300bls, she eats non-stop, I've known her since I was in the third grade, she's always been a big snacker.

On top of that I was laying on the couch and my shirt rode up a little bit (I'm carrying really, really low) and she saw a little bit of my belly and goes "ha-ha you have so many ugly stretch marks. And I hardly have none." It pissed me off so badly I almost asked her to leave. I said "That's because you started off a lot bigger than I did" (I was thinking that's because you're a cow, shut your fat face!)

And in the morning I made us all a nutritious breakfast. Pancakes and fruit with all the trimmings including precious maple sirup. She loads up her plate, dumps half the bottle of maple sirup on it, takes a few bites and says she's full!   So in short her personality has pissed me off to the point....

IMPORTANT MENTION: Her parents gave her at least $3200 to buy baby stuff. And she's been rubbing it in my face. Yes, most the stuff we have for our baby is second hand but it's all like new and we bought it ourselves. (Jason's mum helps me find it though) I did not have a baby shower because my mother in law insisted we have it late in my pregnancy and I had to leave work because of a medical condition and lost contact with all the people I would have invited. So I decided to forget it.

Anyway, Jason wanted me to ask her and Edgar if they wanted to go the the Christmas Parade with us. (Jason actually wants Edgar to go and it would be rude to get me to ask her if Edgar wanted to come with us and tell her to stay home... You just don't do that.) And she said only if I'd go to her baby shower on Sunday. I said I would, but, I really don't want to go. I don't feel that she needs anything (accept maybe a swift kick in the deriere!) And we really don't have the money to give them stuff... So close to Christmas too, its too short of notice really, I don't have the time to get her a gift. The buses don't run by her place on Sunday and she says I'll need to be ready for 9:30am to get a drive over there with Edgar's sister. Jason works late evenings and we usually don't get up until 11am. And I will be due in a week.

I'm very frusterated! I don't know what the best way to explain to a person I don't want to go espeacially since we're going to the Christmas parade together the night before. I also don't want to give away the fact that I find her obnoxious and iratating, as it would hurt Edgar's feelings. I'm thinking of on Thursday when I get back from the doctor's telling her he said I could go any day now. I'll use the excuse that her place is really far away from the hospital and it would be a dumb thing for me to go there (I live a few blocks away, she lives a 20 minute drive.) Oh, and she really isn't bright at all. Not trying to be rude, but the girl does not get the hint and you have to spell everything out to her.

I really don't know what to do...

i hope u feel little better after venting, i have a"sorta" friend like that also, i know u dont want to hurt anyones feelings but u are under enough pressure and stress with out anyone adding it too urself, and it does get to the point u snap at her and that is normal and the best advice i can give u is to level with her, or talk to he bf and tell him how u feel,. if u need a ear to liston email me pixies62581@yahoo.com

Oh you poor thing!!!I feel bad for you i don't know what to say but i hope you don't stress out about it!!And jus try and avoid her as much as you can.Good luck!

That's what I have been doing but these incedents were 2 weeks ago and I need to be nice for the sake of her bf. Thanks guys. I'll add you to my email. You can vent to me too... For as much as I can talk I can listen.

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If need be, be honest without being brutal (hehe). You dont have to hang around with someone just to make someone else happy.......be honest!

Fake sick to get out of her baby shower.. and as for her, there's no reason you should be nice to someone you don't like to be around just to please someone else!

I know a girl like that. I stopped talking to her a few months ago and she still won't leave me alone!  

  its so nice to know useless people are a common problem... kinda

Hmm...here's my opinion..the girl needs to get a grip and realize that it ain't all about her..don't go to her baby shower if you don't want to..just be honest with her because leading her on to think that maybe you guys have some sort of a frienship is just gonna hurt HER feelings later (you're not the one believing ya'll are friends..she is..lol..so she gets the negative part in the end)..I'd tell her to stick one up hers and if she gets mad that you don't wanna go to her BS..that's just all the proof you need that you didn't have to go in the first place 

I would just tell her it is too short of notice, even if you are seeing her at the day before, and since you are due so soon after you shouldnt over extend yor self...Iam sure she would be unhappy if you stole the thunder from her baby shower by goign into labor while your there! So I would personally say that you had been planning for a long time to go to the parade, and she *just* told you she wants you at the shower, and you just don't want two major activies so close together that near your due date because you need to rest!  

I understand the thought about not leading her into thinking you are friends; but its still important to try and not be harsh if you and your BF are close friends with her BF; since he may feel akward spending time with you if you made her feel bad. But I don't think putting some one off is that bad when they are so intolerable.

Everything is resolved now. I did have a huge note explaining what happend but I hit the wrong button and I'm not typing all that crap again. Maybe later.