advice on what to say

My neice is 15. She found out a few months ago that she was pregnant. . She was exactly 8 weeks when she had the abortion. She claims that they told her it was a girl, although i know that was impossible , i wont be the one to burst her bubble. Shes really struggling with this everyday. Everyone else in her life is being very cold to her about it. I dont know what its like to have an abortion but i do know too well the pain of losing a child. I just dont know what to say to her to help ease her pain. Im really worried about her. Any advice would be helpful. thanks.

In all honestly all I can say is to tell her that she obviously wasn't ready and that this is the way her life is meant to run, time is a healer, I believe that. x

Let her know that she's not alone, and no matter what happens, she made the choice that she felt was right for her and the baby, and you stand behind that, because contrary to what a lot of people think, abortion isn't purely selfish. It takes a lot of courage.

Just be there for her when she needs you, that's all you really can do right now.

While it would be impossible to tell the sex at that point, the doctor probably made one up to help her feel better. I wouldn't burst her bubble, especially if believing it was a girl helps her cope.
I agree with the pp about being supportive of her decision. I imagine at 15 she needs all the support she can get!

Quoting SPAZ'S WiFE:“ My neice is 15. She found out a few months ago that she was pregnant. . She was exactly 8 weeks when ... [snip!] ... I just dont know what to say to her to help ease her pain. Im really worried about her. Any advice would be helpful. thanks.”

The pain and depression will never go away, but rather come and go. I would recommend counseling with a professional and just a lot of love and support. Keep reminding her of all the things she's GOING to do, not all the things that a baby wouldn't allow her to do. It's kind of a catch-22. Just try not to remind her of it. She has a lot of self healing to do.