so sick and I need help.

Girls this is probably going to be a long rant, so if you've something better to do, I'd suggest doing it.

For the past 3 days I've been contracting every 5 minutes and it's nearly all been back labor. When I went to the doctors they told me that the contractions weren't strong enough and weren't changing my cervix. I'm still sitting at a tight 2cm. I'm miserable. I can't eat, I can't sleep, I can hardly keep down water even. I'm so sick of being pregnant I think I'm making myself physically sick. And the worst part about it is I'm so ashamed of myself for even saying that.

I tried having dinner last night with my in laws but was sick soon afterwards, and since then it's only gotten worse. I've been living in the bathroom vomitting my brains out every few minutes, and I know I'm dehydrated, but I can't force myself to drink because I start to dry heave as soon as the contractions start and I end up puking it up. I feel like such a shitty mommy and I feel like I brought this all upon myself for wanting her out so badly, but I just can't take it anymore.

God i'm sitting here crying cause I can't breathe hardly cause I'm so upset and so uncomfortable. My husband keeps telling me to call the doctor, but what are they going to do about it? They're going to tell me to come into L&D and then check my cervix again (which I'm sure hasn't changed), and then tell me it's all a normal part of pregnancy and send me home. I can't take that kind of disappointment again.

I just wish these contractions would get worse, and that this little girl would be here already. I want nothing more in the world than to hold her and kiss her and count her fingers and toes and change those stinky diapers and listen to her cry while I try to calm her down. I feel like the worst motheri n the world for being so impatient and for not being able to force myself to eat and drink, and for being such a big baby when it comes to 'normal pregnancy pains'. God I've had so many people tell me 'oh that's normal, that's pefectly normal, oh that's just part of pregnancy' I DON'T CARE. I don't care I don't care I don't care. Just because it's normal doesn't mean it doesn't hurt like hell every time I move. Just because it's normal doesn't mean I enjoy the fact that I'm hardly able to keep down water. God I LOVE being pregnant, don't get me wrong, but if this is normal I'm just NOT fit to bear children.

I just don't knwo what I should do.

Oh my I feel for you! And, on a more selfish note, I dread when things get like that for me... I don't know what to say, but if you continue to feel this way do go back to the dr or hospital! That's just awful. I wish there was something I could do for you...  

I pray you don't have to deal with this, I hope no one does. Thanks for the response, I'm trying my best to sip some water and stay calm cause I know stressing won't help, it's just so hard to keep a level head when you've been so miserable for days.

vomiting can be a sign of real labor your GI tract slows down when you go into labor and many people start to vomit (if you have high bp's though it can be a sign of HELPP syndrome and you need to be seen immediatly) I would say go in and tell em you want them to rupture your membranes and be done - never know it could work   good luck

Thanks sweetie that really raises my hopes. I've never had a problem with high blood pressure, so maybe just maybe it's real labor. I'll probably call my doctor in an hour when they open up and beg to be seen. I really don't want the nurses at L&D making fun of me (AGAIN) about coming in so often.

aww don't worry about it it is so warrented vomitting like that and days of contractions every 5 min I would go nuts! and hey one of our dr's has the policy that if someone is term and they come in for the same thing 3times on the 3rd time he keeps them pretty much no matter what maybe your guy will be the same  

Haha, maybe. I've been in twice, so maybe third times the charm? Thanks again. I'm gonna try and take my little ray of hope and nibble on something.

I had the same issues... for 4 days before i had my daughter , i was having HORRIBLE comntractions every 4 or 5 minutes....

i went to the hospital the first time and they sent me home cuz my cervix was still hard... the next morning (day 2) i went to the hospital cuz i couldnt walk they were so bad... they said i was dehydrated, they hooked me up to an IV for 2 hours and told me to go home my cervix was still ahrd and they werent "real" contractions...

day 3 i couldnt get out of bed... i couldnt eat... i was throwing up... my ex (my daughters rl dad) called the hospital, my mom came and got me and brought me to the hospital (again...) by now it was like 6 or 7 at night... and they hooked me BACK up to the IV checked my blood pressure (first time they did that)and it was normal... and they said my cervix was still hard but since i was dehydrated again they kept me hooked up till about 2 am... and i went home...

i had my stress test that day cuz i was a day late by then... and we couldnt hear my daughters heart beat, my blood pressure had skyrocketed (130/90) which for me is etremely high... and i was throwing up again... they sent me to the hospital and i was 4 cm dialated... it was 4 pm when they admited me...

10 pm they broke my water cuz i was 6 cm dialated and making no progess... and i have to say the contracions i was having during "real" labor were better than the ones before... any who... 11 pm the gave me demorall and i fell asleep till 2 am woke up screaming and needing to push... the dr came in and said i was 10 cm and to go ahead... so i did...

half an hour later Adison Hope was in my arms...

I hope what your going through is going to get better like mine did... and stick in there! your going to have a beutiful baby girl in your arms in no time, its all worth it, till they turn two that is.... (jk)


~peace and loves!~

With my third child, I was in labour but not the kind that gets "the work done"... since my water had broke, I had to be at the hospital. I couldn't sleep for 3 nights or eat or do anything without pain and feeling sick. And to make it worse, because I was in the hospital some damn person was sticking their fingers up me every half hour to check if I was progressing or not   At one point, you loose touch of the "nice person" that you might be and turn into a monster. I closed my legs up tight and wouldn't let a single person touch me down there anymore. Then I got up and got dressed and was going to go home but security got me. I was screaming that I just want to go home, that I was having a fake pregnancy and that obviously there is no baby in there and I'm just sick and tired of the whole thing       They had to drag me kicking and screaming back into the hospital and then had the nerve to ask my husband, "is she always like this?"       In the end my body just turned everything off and I had to have a c-section because of "maternal exhaustion".

Reading your "rant" has brought that memory up in me again. I really feel bad for you and am so sorry that things aren't progressing faster for you. ((hugs)) I wish I knew what to advise you, but as you just read, I did not master my own frustration over a slow labour very well....   The only thing I can say, is that once she does finally make an appearance, the "torture" is really forgotten (until you see a post like this and it all comes back again   )! I'll be thinking of you.

Thanks for your replies girls. I'm going to call the doctor as soon as they open (which hopefully is in a few minutes) and see what I can get them to do for me. I'm going crazy right now cause my nibbles earlier turned into a lot more vomiting and now to add to it all I've got diarrhea. Ugg, make it go away. *whine* yes I'd like some cheese with my whine please and thank you  

Ugh that sounds so shitty! I am experiencing alot of what you are, just without the vomiting. Is your doctor's office open yet? Update us  The time is so wrong on here compared to what time it really is for me, so I can't tell the last time you really wrote back, lol. Good luck hunny! Try to remember it will all be over soon.  

I'm back from my doctors office and stuff, and I've no good news.

I called my doctor's office when they opened and got scheduled in quickly. But the doctor, once again, was in a hurry, checked my cervix and said I wasn't dialating (big surprise) and said oh you're dehydrated (coulda told you that), and then proceeded to tell me that he wanted me to go over to L&D and get hooked up to an IV for a couple hours to get rehydrated, but would not induce me.   So I decided just to go home and drink more water here, my hubby and I had a fight so I've not been very successful with rehydrating myself, but oh well. I've basically given up. I'm so hopeless right now.

they rescheduled my 40 week appointment for after my due date and I'm praying by that point my doctor will finally get his head out of his ass and at least TALK to me ABOUT inducing.

Girl you have to stay hydrated and if you can't keep the water down you NEED to go get some fluids in you and that could possibly help the nausia. Did you ask about having your membranes stripped like the ot poster said? If so what did he say about that?

Well I'm pretty sure that's what he did while he was checking my cervix because he said I was 2cms then pushed his fingers in further and messed around with it for a few seconds.

Anyway, my hubby is all worried cause I was at the doctor's office on Monday and since then (the same scale, the same lady taking my weight) I lost 5 lbs.

I think that you should call the doctor again and tell them EVERYTHING that you are going through. I'm sure it's not good for the baby if you don'ot have any food or water in you, and its NOT YOUR FAULT.