re: Single moms and moms to be Group BOSM
posted 27th Dec
Hi ladies its been a long time!
quoteI have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in
Floridaposted 27th Dec
<blockquote><b>Quoting Suck:</b>" Hi ladies its been a long time!"</blockquote>
Hiiii! how have you been???
quoteposted 27th Dec
I need advice please. I'm so lost in this situation. Well when I was pregnant my BD denied the baby, created all this drama at work, and talk so low about me. I went into labor with her 2 weeks early and he didn't come to the hospital. I wasn't disappointed, it was expected. So I thought he really didn't want anything to do with her.
But now he comes to my apartment door and just stands there, doesn't even knock. Idk if he is being a creeper and trying to listen to me or if he doesn't have the courage to knock. He asks all my friends about my baby, yet he won't talk to me, he even went as far as to send his cousin my way so he could take a picture of her and show him.
I really thought he didn't want any part of her so he's not on the birth certificate, any of her medical files, nothing. And I didn't even ask him for child support. So why hasn't he went on with his life? Or why hasn't he asked for a DNA test? I don't like his games, but I don't know how to go about solving this situation.
quoteposted 28th Dec
Quoting Lalaj:" I need advice please. I'm so lost in this situation. Well when I was pregnant my BD denied the baby, ... [snip!] ... life? Or why hasn't he asked for a DNA test? I don't like his games, but I don't know how to go about solving this situation."
I would say that he was scared, I think you need to give him a call and ask him what his deal is.. Perhaps he feels like he needs to be in her life, but because he was so childish in the beginning, you are going to try and refuse that. I would talk to him, and if he wants to change.. I would give him another chance
posted 28th Dec
He was probably scared. I'm sort of going through the same thing.. but I'm 6 months, he's asked for a DNA test and for him to have his last name, but he hasn't said anything to me since I found out I was pregnant. He even went to the point of telling me that if the baby doesn't get his last name he won't have anything to do with his son. It's a mess all around. Maybe he's thinking about wanting something to do with the baby? Sometimes you never know with guys!
Quoting Lalaj:" I need advice please. I'm so lost in this situation. Well when I was pregnant my BD denied the baby, ... [snip!] ... life? Or why hasn't he asked for a DNA test? I don't like his games, but I don't know how to go about solving this situation."
posted 28th Dec
I haven't been the type to really put all my business out there.. but I REALLY need advice? :/ My BD has been nothing but rude to me my entire 6 months of my pregnancy... at the beginning he denied the baby was his, said he wanted a paternity test and that if the baby didn't get his last name he wouldn't be there. At first we always talked about the baby, now he doesn't even try and contact me.. and when I try and contact him he cusses me out and tells me to leave him alone, which I'm doing from now on. But I can't decide if I still want to give him his last name or just use mine until he gets the DNA test back? This is confusing and hard on me all at the same time!
quoteposted 28th Dec
Quoting Courtney Staggs:" I haven't been the type to really put all my business out there.. but I REALLY need advice? :/ My BD ... [snip!] ... give him his last name or just use mine until he gets the DNA test back? This is confusing and hard on me all at the same time!"
I'm just going to let you know from personal experience that it is a lot harder to change the baby's name TO your maiden name than FROM it. Ultimately the choice is yours, but this dude sounds sketchy and I wouldn't put his name anywhere near my kid if he was my BD. Clearly you guys aren't going to be together from the sound of things. Eventually you're going to want to date other guys and possibly even get married. And if this dude wants nothing to do with his kid ALL based on what last name you give him? PEACE. Don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya. Hit that man up for child support and focus on moving forward and providing for your baby. Do you really want that constant reminder of your ex hanging around every time somebody in the doctor's office mistakenly calls you Mrs. Sperm Donor? In order to change his name later on, both parents must agree. If you can't find the child's other parent, service must be done through a posting in a newspaper. Here in Georgia, when you go to court, you have to claim that he hasn't been involved in your child's life for OVER five years, which means your LO has to be at LEAST 5 before the judge will even look at changing his name. Save yourself the money and the headache and give him your last name. And giving him your last name does not absolve your BD from paying child support.
posted 28th Dec
Thanks, a lot! Him and I only dated for 2 months before I found out I was pregnant... I'll definitely give him my last name. I have my doubts about him being there but I have to stop worrying about communication between him and I, and focus on my baby boy. That's my only option. I'm definitely going to be getting child support from him though. It's so tough dealing with him, he's been to 2 of my appointments and those were sonogram appointments, even then he didn't say one word to me. So I'm just going to stop communication altogether.. especially if he's going to be the way he has been to me. We're definitely not getting back together, he's back with his ex of 4 years.. he's told me once before that she doesn't want us talking. I wish things could have turned out better on my part but I won't worry anymore.
Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" I'm just going to let you know from personal experience that it is a lot harder to change the baby's ... [snip!] ... and the headache and give him your last name. And giving him your last name does not absolve your BD from paying child support."
posted 28th Dec
Hey Guys! I'm Samantha and I've been a single mommy for 3 years... Tried again to make things work with the ex hubby and ended up being an expecting single mommy and better off that way!!! I'm now a single mommy of 2 little princesses and a little prince on the way!! Erica turned 6 in April and Ariel turned 3 in March. Nikolas will be here on (or before) April 3!! I can't believe that I have 3 babies with birthdays so close!!
quoteposted 29th Dec
I stay away from him because of his girlfriend. She is very insecure about me talking to him, and she is total drama. Like something you see on a soap opera. I decided before I had the baby that if he wanted to be apart of her life I would let him, but I wouldn't force him. Idk... I just want to know whats going through his head.
quoteposted 29th Dec
BD called me the other night.
We actually screamed at each other on the phone for half an hour, before we both just sat silent for another 10min. (while still on the phone)
When he picked up our daughter, he kinda apologized and went back to being his super-flirty self.
I snooped on his Facebook today, and saw that things are tough with his other kid's mama. She's trying to take his rights away, again. He's distraught and doesn't want to lose her (their baby) And literally, the reason why he's jumping through hoops for her (according to our "scream-fest" the other night, and his FB) is because he doesn't want to lose that child, so he's trying everything he can to keep her around (again, the baby)
IDK, I know I came on here and was like, "Baby-Dad bashing 101", but now I feel bad.
And now I want to give him a hug.
And it's silly, how I was ready to rip his throat out a few days ago, and now I just want to be there for him.
Why the hell do I feel this way?
quoteposted 30th Dec
Quoting FAH Q ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Suck:</b>" Hi ladies its been a long time!"</blockquote> Hiiii! how have you been???"
Getting better!!
How have you and the little princess been?!?!
I have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in
Floridaposted 31st Dec
<blockquote><b>Quoting Suck my PENIS:</b>" Getting better!! How have you and the little princess been?!?!"</blockquote>
Doing really well. I've been back w her dad now for almost 2 years. CRAZY! We have a house, things are going great.
quoteposted 31st Dec
Quoting FAH Q ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Suck my PENIS:</b>" Getting better!! How have you and the little ... [snip!] ... Doing really well. I've been back w her dad now for almost 2 years. CRAZY! We have a house, things are going great."
I remember you moving in with him and what not! I'm so glad you guys were able to fix things and move in together!!
I also bought my own home with SO. Having your own home is a wonderful feeling
I have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in
Floridaposted 7th Jan
So....how do you tell your BD that you're seeing someone new?
BD's not exactly in the "co-parent" mode right now, but he's pretty much in the "jealous ex-boyfriend" stage, and I can not get anything through to him without causing an argument.
We're also going through a custody/visitation battle, both of us attorneys. I don't feel that I HAVE to tell him I'm dating someone new, but I feel that I SHOULD, just because, I'm pretty happy with this guy, and I hate the fact that I have to hide it.
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