re: Single moms and moms to be Group BOSM

Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" I'm sorry that you've found yourself in this situation. The upside is you have 4 months to mentally ... [snip!] ... head off to when you're stressed. Take it one day at a time. And, of course, you can always use this thread for advice/venting."

This kind of made me cry. I just don't know how I will be strong enough to do it because I have never felt so much pain in my life. I would look to friends but all of mine live 2 hours away, and my closest family member is 45 minutes away. Which is my mom she always asks for gas whenever she does something for me. I was in the hospital because the ambulance took me last night after BD and I had our falling out and so then this morning I called my sister to see if she would come down and get me, but she called my mom and so my mom needed gas to come get me and take me home. I just hate things right now and I don't understand how the father can walk away or tell me the things he has told me.

Quoting Tabitha Barbour:" This kind of made me cry. I just don't know how I will be strong enough to do it because I have never ... [snip!] ... me home. I just hate things right now and I don't understand how the father can walk away or tell me the things he has told me."

Is there any reason you can't move closer to family or in with family? And I never understand how they can just walk away and say the things they do. How do they say these things to women they supposedly love?

Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" Is there any reason you can't move closer to family or in with family? And I never understand how they ... [snip!] ... understand how they can just walk away and say the things they do. How do they say these things to women they supposedly love?"

I live in the place my dad left to me, if he hadn't of left it to me I wouldn't have a place to live right now. I mean I could move in with my mom but (i love my mom and all so lord please forgive me) her and her roomate are money hogs. When my other sister stayed there just for a little while trying to get her life together they were making her pay most of the bills while she had 3 babies to take care of and then they were making her buy food and stuff and she barely had money for diapers. When I stayed for a few days they were trying to make me go and buy food for all of them and I had only like 25 buck to my name at the time. So that is the closest family member I have. I wouldn't mind helping them and all but I do have to think about my baby and I can't be supporting them and being able to pay the few bills I have at my place and buying the things i need for my son. I guess I am stuck on a rocky fence right now  .

Quoting Tabitha Barbour:" Hi, I am Tabitha, and apparently as of last night..I am going to be a single mother of a little boy in March. I don't really know what I am going to do and I just feel kind of alone right now."

((hugs)) sorry mama

it'll be ok... jsut be the best mama you can be to your LO. there are worse things than beinga single mom. I'm happier as a sngle mom than I ever was being wtih my ex smurf

Quoting snglemama:" ((hugs)) sorry mama it'll be ok... jsut be the best mama you can be to your LO. there are worse things than beinga single mom. I'm happier as a sngle mom than I ever was being wtih my ex smurf"

Thanks  . I like this thread I do feel a lot better just from posting on here. I don't need him and I Know that, I def don't need a man who laid a hand on me. I just pray no other woman will try to be with him just because of what happened to me. I hope things change I really do. I am happy to know i am not the only single mama who has been through a tough time!!

Quoting Tabitha Barbour:" I live in the place my dad left to me, if he hadn't of left it to me I wouldn't have a place to live ... [snip!] ... pay the few bills I have at my place and buying the things i need for my son. I guess I am stuck on a rocky fence right now  ."

No, I would definitely not suggest moving in with your mom then. It sounds like you're actually financially better off where you're at now. I'm sorry that you don't have a better support network than that. I live with my parents right now and that's more toxic for me than being on my own with my two kids, so I'm currently working at getting back on my feet so I can move to a completely different state.

Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" No, I would definitely not suggest moving in with your mom then. It sounds like you're actually financially ... [snip!] ... on my own with my two kids, so I'm currently working at getting back on my feet so I can move to a completely different state."

you live not that far from me or well I live in SC lol I just saw where it says you are in Georgia. And yes i am better by myself. I just wish my family or one of my sisters or something would come over and stay with me they wouldn't even have to give me money I just don't like being alone  . And my sister kept saying she would check the message I left her when she gets a chance but it's been hours and she kept saying she'd check it. I just gosh I feel friggin miserable  .

Quoting Tabitha Barbour:" you live not that far from me or well I live in SC lol I just saw where it says you are in Georgia. And ... [snip!] ... her when she gets a chance but it's been hours and she kept saying she'd check it. I just gosh I feel friggin miserable  ."

Sounds like my sister. Stuck so far up her own butt that she has no time to think about anyone else. I'm sorry you're lonely right now. It sucks so bad. But honestly, there is NOTHING better than snuggling with a baby. And PLEASE do your best to breast feed if you can. I had PPD with my son because we couldn't breast feed. He was 6 weeks early and spent 8 days in the NICU learning how to eat and breathe and then I couldn't get him to latch. With my daughter, we breast fed for 6 months and I loved every moment. My supply dried up because she's in daycare while I work and pumps never worked for me. I was hoping to make it a full year. But anyway. No PPD this time around. They say breast feeding also does wonders for the baby's immunity, reduces the risk of breast cancer, bonds mom and baby with all the skin to skin time, etc. There's a whole bunch of really good reasons to breast feed if you can. BUT that being said, if formula feeding is what's right for you, then that's cool too. Just my personal opinion from having done it both ways.

Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" Sounds like my sister. Stuck so far up her own butt that she has no time to think about anyone else. ... [snip!] ... said, if formula feeding is what's right for you, then that's cool too. Just my personal opinion from having done it both ways."

Yeah she has a new guy now, so that may be part of what is going on. My other sisters DH got a hold of me and asked if I was okay and while the one I was talking about is only 2 hours away, this one first thing he asked does Aurora need to come down and stay with you. And they are all the way in Kansas. I am thankful he is trying to help, so him and my sister are trying to figure out how fast they can get her down here to be with me. And I def. want to bf more then anything I know that is the one bond no one can break unless I stop doing it. I want to bf for a year and I won't be working until I finish my school career so I should at least make it to 8 months of doing it if not a full year since I will physically go back. But I do want to, i know my child will be so much healthier if I do and it would help me out a lot too!

Quoting Tabitha Barbour:" Yeah she has a new guy now, so that may be part of what is going on. My other sisters DH got a hold ... [snip!] ... physically go back. But I do want to, i know my child will be so much healthier if I do and it would help me out a lot too!"

Your BIL sounds like a good guy. Hopefully your sister can help you get ready for the baby and give you some support to get you through the shock of all of this.

Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" Your BIL sounds like a good guy. Hopefully your sister can help you get ready for the baby and give you some support to get you through the shock of all of this."

He is a nut, but at least he is there for me in this or at least knows that I need her so he doesn't mind letting me borrow her thousands of miles away thankfully. I hope so she was up here like just not even 2 weeks ago and left and then all of this happened I truthfully wish I'd had her stay with me for longer.

Quoting Tabitha Barbour:" He is a nut, but at least he is there for me in this or at least knows that I need her so he doesn't ... [snip!] ... like just not even 2 weeks ago and left and then all of this happened I truthfully wish I'd had her stay with me for longer."

Oh yikes. Yeah hindsight is 20/20.  

Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" Oh yikes. Yeah hindsight is 20/20.  "

Huh? I am confused by what you mean?

Quoting Tabitha Barbour:" Huh? I am confused by what you mean?"

It just means now that you look back, you see what you should have done. i.e. keeping your sister with you longer because this crap happened with your ex.

Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" It just means now that you look back, you see what you should have done. i.e. keeping your sister with you longer because this crap happened with your ex."

Yeah she came down for a month and she came down because we were having problems and stuff but nothing like we did last night, and now I know for sure I need her I know for sure it's not going to work I can't make it work so I might as well not try for the 100th time. I might as well look forward atwhat is to come.