re: Single moms and moms to be Group BOSM

Quoting Lizzie's Mama♥:" do you have any female friends that you are close too "

I have a few girls I work with, but I haven't known them for long, and they all or in serious relationships or married. So I don't want to open up, and have them judge me.

Quoting Lalaj:" Thank u I needed to hear that... It's just hard knowing I have ppl judging me just because of my situation."

let them judge you know who your are i have a ton of people that look at me with my daughter and ask if im babysiting because im "so young" or they look at my left hand then talk to me differently when they see no ring things happen you should be proud of yourself for doing it on your own! your a great momma!

I'm a recently single mommy to be! I would love to know if there were any single mommas in the west phoenix area of arizona??

I need some friends that are moms or going to be moms. pen pals, e-pals or something! :/

Happily a single mommy <3

I'm a single mommy!<3

My situation is a little unique, though. My ex husband actually has the kids most of the time (we have joint custody, though). We are dual military and he has a stable working hours (go to work and come home at the same time). I, on the other hand, have a very unstable working hours (working really long hours and working overnights and then days and then nights, etc). But I get them whenever I can. He also wanted the kids (he missed out on A LOT when he was deployed, so he really wanted them). So it really worked out. And we don't do child support so there's no drama over that (in the end, I spend more money on the kids per month, so it really evens out). So I guess, in a sense, I am pretty lucky to be able to work it all out with my ex (doesn't hurt that we get along).

What makes it hard, for me, is when people judge you and either 1. think you lost custody (and I feel like I have to explain myself) or 2, make you feel like an unfit mother because I don't have the kids.

Quoting Diana plus 2:" I'm a single mommy!<3 My situation is a little unique, though. My ex husband actually has the kids ... [snip!] ... custody (and I feel like I have to explain myself) or 2, make you feel like an unfit mother because I don't have the kids. "

Hey, whatever works for your family, right? It's not the same for everyone.

Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" Hey, whatever works for your family, right? It's not the same for everyone."

I know, right?
I'm really glad it worked out this way. Before we had this arrangement (and I had them full time and he barely saw them because he wanted to hang out with his friends),, my ex didn't really want to have much to do with the kids as a whole..especially my DD . He never really bonded with her because he missed out on half her life (due to deployment and of the like). But because of work (and I'm also in grad school but part time) and such, he agreed to take the kids, but what it did was it forced him to be a daddy and grow up. And guess what? He actually surpassed my expectations. He's not friends with the same friends and he became more "kid friendly". The best part is, my kids have that bond with him (esp DD) that he wouldn't have had if I just kept the kids and he came around once in a while.

Quoting Diana plus 2:" I know, right? I'm really glad it worked out this way. Before we had this arrangement (and I had ... [snip!] ... my kids have that bond with him (esp DD) that he wouldn't have had if I just kept the kids and he came around once in a while."

That's fantastic. My exes are very immature. Nice to see that they grow up sometimes.

I'm a single Mom to be! My name is Riley, and my little girl is due on the 6th of December.

I had never, ever, ever planned on being a single Mom. I married my best friend (Who happened to be my girl best friend's brother!) when I was 20, and this past year we had finally decided that we were ready to try for a child. My husband was so incredibly excited when he found out, and maintained that excitement throughout my pregnancy. Last August, though, just over two months ago, he was killed driving to his friend's place to watch a baseball game. Just like that, I've found myself widowed, pregnant, and trying to get used to the idea of being a single Mom.

I'm absolutely terrified of being a single parent, but I've been reading, and it sounds like you ladies are wonderful at it! Hoping I can do the same!

Quoting Diana plus 2:" I'm a single mommy!<3 My situation is a little unique, though. My ex husband actually has the kids ... [snip!] ... custody (and I feel like I have to explain myself) or 2, make you feel like an unfit mother because I don't have the kids. "

I can imagine you get a lot of judgement. Tbh, that's the first thought that comes to mind when I hear a woman doesn't have custody of their kiddos or have them for the majority of the time. But I always listen to the rest of the story since obviously that isn't the case.

My ex and I are both military as well, but I'm stationed in AK and he's in Cali, so he hasn't seen her in almost 2 years now. Mine doesn't show the eagerness yours does though lol. I'm glad it works well for ya'll!

Quoting Colton's Butterfly:" I'm a single Mom to be! My name is Riley, and my little girl is due on the 6th of December. I had never, ... [snip!] ... of being a single parent, but I've been reading, and it sounds like you ladies are wonderful at it! Hoping I can do the same!"

Oh wow. I'm so sorry for your loss. That's a lot to handle all at once. Do you have family close by? Definitely accept all the help you can get. You can definitely do it. Praying for a safe and healthy delivery and baby for you!

Quoting Blair Waldorf (SuperKink):" Oh wow. I'm so sorry for your loss. That's a lot to handle all at once. Do you have family close by? ... [snip!] ... Definitely accept all the help you can get. You can definitely do it. Praying for a safe and healthy delivery and baby for you!"

My parents aren't close by, but my in-laws are. (And my Mom's coming out for about a month after she's born) We live about 5 minutes away from my sister-in-law, so she's really close as well. I'm getting a lot of offers for help, from friends and family...It's absolutely incredible how much people are willing to help out.

Quoting Colton's Butterfly:" I'm a single Mom to be! My name is Riley, and my little girl is due on the 6th of December. I had never, ... [snip!] ... of being a single parent, but I've been reading, and it sounds like you ladies are wonderful at it! Hoping I can do the same!"

wow thats so sad im sorry but trust me you can do it and i know your husband is very proud of you! btw tell your LO to come on the 4th!  

I'm a divorced mom of 4... and split custody with my ex. I frequently consider giving him custody.. because the kids HATE the 50/50 agreement... we switch off every 2-3 days. He wont' cave... and for stability for hte kids, I keep thinking I should. But.. I worry they AND everyone else will think I walked away for selfish reasons. I think he'll convince them I didn't want them here.

Quoting I can see you:" I'm a divorced mom of 4... and split custody with my ex. I frequently consider giving him custody.. because ... [snip!] ... they AND everyone else will think I walked away for selfish reasons. I think he'll convince them I didn't want them here. "

That makes no sense to me. I know it's not what you wanted, but that seems inconvenient for him also. Is he just that stubborn holding out until you give in and give up custody? Can you petition the courts for a change in visitation or something to where you guys switch off weeks? At least they'd know where they were staying for an entire week at a time, although I'd even prefer every other month, even, just so the kids actually have time to get settled in at one specific place. That's just a crappy situation and doesn't seem like he's got the kids' best interest in mind at all.