re: Single moms and moms to be Group BOSM

Quoting Kaydence mommy:" Hi my name is Kristin and my bd and I haven't been together since I was 6 weeks pregnant and I am now ... [snip!] ... worried what if I can't handle it Im just glad that there are other women on this site that are kinda in the same situation."

its harder than i thought but trust me you can do it without him! i have been for 18 days on my own its a tough job but it is so worth it  

well BD was texting me everyday asking how Bentley is doing the last 3days i havent heard anything exactly like i knew he would do

So an update on my situation. We hung out father's day night and me and carter stayed the night that night...my bday was the next day and i always spend my bday with him. Well when he took us home it was the last time he talk to me til that Friday when he told me he got a job. He has yet to contact me at any form or way since may 18th when he asked if he could have him for the day and i did no cuz he hasn't done all his supervised visitation. He's gone to 3 but done enough time for 2., but with me goin outta my way he would only be at 7 visitation since mediation. I messed up my phone the beginning of June and informed him on Facebook that i didn't have a phone but i can still urn it on so i check it everyday, but get no messages from him at all. Not even father's day weekend. He's never paid child support so June 29th i gotta call the ag's office to see when our court date is. I actually met somebody the weekend after my bday. We went on a few dates and i let him meet carter. They instantly connected...carter messes up every now and then and says dada and i correct him and say juju (for Jr). I got crap from carter's great aunt because i didn't correct carter til after mediation about calling my ex chase dada. That and I've only been with Jr a month.

Well my BD has been so back and forth with me. The day I found out I was having a girl he just flipped a switch and he went from wanting to be involved to I want nothing to do with you. He told me that on a scale the child knowing him would be 0. He accepted the fact he will be paying child support but he isnt accepting the fact he has a baby on the way. So of course I was hurt. I left him alone. Then a couple of weeks after that he called me out of the blue. We have been talking off an on for about a month now. My thing is I dont text him or call him. I let him do it. He finally asked what name I picked out. He also asked again when I was due.
Here in a couple of weeks, me, my dad, and my step mom will be driving down there to get the rest of my things. I just heard from him today and he told me that he is taking my things to his sisters house tomorrow. Now my thing is I want to ask him if he will be wanting to see me but Im honestly afraid of asking him in cause he flips out. I just dont know what to do. Even though I want to see him I know that I shouldnt. But I feel that I will regret it. I need some advi ce!

Hello to all mommies and mommies to be. Just found this and was extremely interested since this will be my title for a while. My baby's father will not be in my child's life for several reasons but they all lead up to how it NEEDS to be. I'm actually fine with being a single mother until God decides to send the right man my way. I actually think it'll be less stress as well on my part not having to answer to anyone and making my own and better decisions for the well being of me and my child. I have no hard feelings towards my ex and although i would like him to be in my child's life, this is just how it has to be. So those mother's who have been single thus far, any advice/tips you can give would be greatly appreciated. My family and best friends are wonderful support systems as well so i'm sure everything will be fine for me and my growing Peanut  

i feel like i screwed up but im almost 7 months i dont regret getting pregnant i just wish it could have been with someone better now i feel trapped

Quoting Leigh Riggins:" i feel like i screwed up but im almost 7 months i dont regret getting pregnant i just wish it could have been with someone better now i feel trapped"

That's how I feel   And my boys are almost three  

BD wants to be with me, but I don't want to be with him.
I HATE how he only thinks about himself.
I HATE how he treats the twins.
I HATE his different mood swings every other day.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Samantha Dennis:</b>" Well my BD has been so back and forth with me. The day I found out I was having a girl he just flipped ... [snip!] ... know what to do. Even though I want to see him I know that I shouldnt. But I feel that I will regret it. I need some advi ce!"</blockquote>




How often have you guys been talking ? Honestly I probably wouldn't bring it up first, I'd wait for him to...

the dad of my baby boy (who is due on 10th of sept) started being overly nice and loving when he found out i was pregnant in a bid to get me to keep the baby (obviously i dont regret it as i love my son and he isnt even born yet) and then when i decided i would keep him he started ignoring me for weeks on end while he was living with my family who started ignoring me aswell which is a bit messed up anyway and then after i had a miscarriage scare caused by stress i txt him to let him no the baby was fine but i had to be careful with my stress levels and he text me back saying he didnt want to be with me since then he has tried to tell all his friends he is doing everything for his son so he looks like father of the year but he hasnt come to any appointments he hasnt bought anything and he has been ignoring me and when he does talk to me he txts to say he is so stressed he is thinking of walking out of his sons life before he is even born needless to say im better off looking after my son on my own but it is relli hard not to just have a massive melt down any advice would be great xx

I'm single and I must say it works for me...my attitude is low tolerance and I dont have time for the drama. I rather use my energy in my children, Liam and Lucy

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amber Park:</b>" the dad of my baby boy (who is due on 10th of sept) started being overly nice and loving when he found ... [snip!] ... off looking after my son on my own but it is relli hard not to just have a massive melt down any advice would be great xx"</blockquote>




Holy run on sentence  

& it is much better being single than w/ a lousy POS. Seriously.

Not a "single mommy" but got some dead beat daddy's! So i would count raising a 2 year old for 2 years being a single mommy and proud of it!

Quoting threeLs:" I'm single and I must say it works for me...my attitude is low tolerance and I dont have time for the drama. I rather use my energy in my children, Liam and Lucy"

i love the name Liam.

Hi, im liz
Im a single mom, with my first baby girl on the way in oct.

Im excited, but a little scared, I graduated high school in 2011 and im currently going to college and working a part time job and living with my mom.. i feel like this isnt going to be easy at all. dads not in the picture because he doesnt want to be, he got me prego. on puprose and then slept with my "best friend" of 8 years and has been stocking me sense then.. its died down a little now im going on to my second yr of college now and with the stuff i have gone through so far with my pregnancy it hasnt been easy but i hope it gets better, im sure im going to be a great mom and i have my whole family that is helping out.. and im trying to keep my head up and hope for the best.. is there any advice someone could give me about being a new mom and going to school anything would help   thanks for reading!

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