Ugh Question kind of

I'm in a relationship with a really great guy whom I love dearly. I know he just does it out of concern, but it drives me up the wall. I have a 19 month old son, well my BF likes to put in his opinion about topics concerning my son. He believes that I let him get away with to much and he whines to much. He loves my son and is very active with him, I am so happy, its just this one little thing that drives me crazy. Whenever we talk about it I cant help but shut down and get upset about it, and him and I do not have that type of relationship we are very open about everything. I dont really know how to communicate my feelings on it.

Quoting Courtney Ansley:“ I'm in a relationship with a really great guy whom I love dearly. I know he just does it out of concern, ... [snip!] ... not have that type of relationship we are very open about everything. I dont really know how to communicate my feelings on it.”

It's just your motherly instincts taking over. I had a daughter 13 years ago and have only been married to my husband for going on 2 years. I know he loves her as much as the son we have together. He takes care of her, provides for us, takes her to dr. appointments but on Saturday night he was a bit hateful to her and I wanted to scratch his eyes out. I know he has every right to correct her but I felt like a mother hen.

omg you sound like me and my fiancee. i can say it will only get worse if you dont talk about it or work out for the better talking it out. my son does whine alot because he is used to getting his way because for a while he was the only child and when i had my daughter it kind of changed and i didnt want to recognize that my son was being basically a spoiled ass brat. when i started dating my fiancee i told him he is not your son who was 2 at the timeso there will be no discipline by you. my son is now 5 and when we started living together he would try to get away with stuff with my fiancee because he knew he couldnt whup him or punish him. my son dad is not around that often but does interact with him still but after talking to my fiancee about my son actions i came to realize that my fiancee is the one taking care of my son who he loves dearly and my son looks up to him. i want my son to be respectful to him because in the end he is the father figure that myson sees every day so after all that i would say is you see yourself with you BF for the long run i see nothing wrong with him punishing your son unless of course he gets out of hand

I am not to worried about the punishment, and I do see him and I in the long run. I dont want the fact that a cant take criticism about my son to be one of our downfall. My sons father has never been around, and I have a feeling its the fact that I am getting a males opinion on raising my son that keeps making me close down. I dont mean to but anytime he says something I take it to heart as him calling me a bad mother, and he is a great guy and even though I know thats not what he is meaning by it, it still feels thats way.

Quoting Courtney Ansley:“ I am not to worried about the punishment, and I do see him and I in the long run. I dont want the fact ... [snip!] ... me a bad mother, and he is a great guy and even though I know thats not what he is meaning by it, it still feels thats way.”

yeah i completely understand how you feel and since your son father isnt around i think that it shouldnt be a problem after talking about it. just let him know how you feel when he says these things cuz trust me i have been there but i have seen a change in my son though now that my fiancee disciplines him. he does better in school, acts better with everyone and looks up to him. he knows who his ad is but he will say my fiancee is the one that takes care of me and thats my stepdad. there are times where my kids doesnt want to be with mommy but my fiancee which i take advantage of and sleep off the time lol

No one likes to hear that someone may be disappointed in how their child acts. Its as if they are telling you your child is bad or you're a bad parent. Try to listen and see if you agree with anything he is saying and if you do make small changes in how you react to your son's behavior or how you discipline him. In all fairness, he has to be around and deal with your son too. The easier you make it on him the happier everyone will be

Quoting MAMA LION:“ No one likes to hear that someone may be disappointed in how their child acts. Its as if they are telling ... [snip!] ... In all fairness, he has to be around and deal with your son too. The easier you make it on him the happier everyone will be”i

i couldnt have said it better. i hated when he said you know your son is acting like a spoiled brat and need to toughen up. my son was 4 and my daughter was 1.5 and he would cry and scream when she hit me knowing it didnt hurt and i came to realize that my son is acting soft and is spoiled by all means. i relaized that my fiancee is going to be there since hes joining the militay and will be the male role model in the house