To any housewives or stay at home moms~

I dont know if this is a common thing but I am really tired of hearing about how much he works when I just "get to stay at home all day". I am due in one week, am I not entitled to be at home? Class ended a month ago, I wasnt going to get a job at nine months pregnant so yes I have been staying home. But it isn't fun! I get no sleep at night between BH contractions (which HURT), heartburn and peeing, then I have to make him his 4 meals a day and clean the house because he is a complete pig! We just moved April 1st and I have been the one unpacking everything and cleaning everything which is hard when your this pregnant.

I understand that since I am not working that this is my role now but it just seems so unfair. Ya he goes to work for 8 hours then comes home and has "fun" time but I don't get "fun" time. He hasnt helped with any baby stuff, Ive been preparing for the baby all on my own. He literally has no house chores, not one. Not even on the weekend. So how do you guys deal with it when you have a baby? I mean, what is your answer to the constant "well you get to stay home all day" or "you do nothing all day".

When I spent all day painting his reaction was "why are you tired? all you had to do was breath and move your arm around a little". If its so easy then why couldnt he have helped? I am just so tired of this attitude. I dont get to just sit around all day! And I am going to be even more busy when the baby comes. I dont know how to make him see that I am quite busy during the day and would like a little appreciation....

Quoting porsha_pacific:“ I dont know if this is a common thing but I am really tired of hearing about how much he works when I ... [snip!] ... the baby comes. I dont know how to make him see that I am quite busy during the day and would like a little appreciation....”

its a common thing trust me. you need to explain to him that your growing a life inside of you, and even if you were jsut sitting on your ass watching movies that would be tiring enough, but when your doing housework, cooking his meals, unpacking boxes and painting then thats even worse. Get your doctor/midwife to speak to him and explain that you need your rest for your babys safety.

All I can say is it dont get much better than that lol I am a stay at home mommy and yes I get tired but you get into it and just keep going, Its going to take you awhile to get it down but all men do this most of the time. Good luck to you. I have a 3 yr old and a almost 2 yr old and I will have a newborn in 1 week. But like I said you will get it down, I cant give you advice about the man dill because I am going through it myself.

I don't know what to tell you. My SO has never been so pig headed. It sucks he's being such a dick.

DON'T DO ANYTHING ALL DAY. Show him the difference!  

I think that's just ingrained into a guy's head. I work AND do all the housework and I still "do nothing all day". LOL

Tell him to try to make a life inside him and see how tired he got! I told my DH that, he stopped saying anything about it, not like he helped any. I am a stay at home mommy and if he come home and says why didnt you clean, I say oh, ok, so In between TRYING and Failing to get babys naps, Food, diaper changes, bath time, Play time, bed time, fussing and everything else with a baby, I have ALL this extra time to clean his shit up! He stops complaining, and then I eventually on a rare occasion get him to help.

A lot of us are going through the same thing. I appreciate his hard work. but I work hard too! Being a mommy is a 24/7 job, even if you're still pregnant. I pick up his mess, cook for us. clean, do all the stuff with the baby, and i still go to college part-time! I wish he would help me out more, but he just comes home and sleeps. Sorry this wasn't much help, but I totally understand what you're going through

Quoting porsha_pacific:“ I dont know if this is a common thing but I am really tired of hearing about how much he works when I ... [snip!] ... the baby comes. I dont know how to make him see that I am quite busy during the day and would like a little appreciation....”

pfffttt....if you think his bitching sucks now wait until you have a kid and a belly full   It never ends....LOL

oh girl i feel you there. my DH is exactly like that. i had to quit working (exotice dancer) when i got pregnant. i was terrified of m/c since i previously had several. we were also looking for a new place. i packed up everthing myself. when we moved i was 6 months pregnant. i unpacked and cleaned MYSELF! then i was put on bedrest for one weekend and got hell. he yelled at me and said it was bullshit. who was gonna hire me at 6/7 months along? i was put on moderate bedrest for high BP at 9 months.
after the baby came i had to recover. i had a c-section, then developed an infection in my uterus. still he acted like i was lazy. i stopped cleaning and being a wife. i didnt get appreciation. now 6 months later i am a stay at home mom, i clean, cook,and do everything around the house/childcare. am i appreciated? no. it wasnt until i threatened divorce and actually left that he see's what i really do. but even still i just stay home and do nothing all day. its so easy to maintain(SP?) the house and take care of an infant.

When the baby's born I suggest you get him as involved as possible so he knows what looking after a baby entails! As far as I'm concerned; my partner works all week and i look after the baby all week, so weekends are fair game! On sat and sunday he gets up early with the baby and does a lot of looking after him while I rest, or get a few bits done, and he always comments about how full on it is or how tired he is at the end of the day! Hence, he appreciates what I do during the week, The other thing I did when I was pregnant was make a pouch full of bags of flour weighing roughly the same as my bump and made him carry it around and would constantly tell him how much i peed during the night and how bad my heartburn was etc, so he knew how uncomfortable I was.

Quoting duemay4th2009:“ DON'T DO ANYTHING ALL DAY. Show him the difference!  ”

I agree.

my answer to dh when he pulls that crap is to tell him even when I WAS working full time hours I STILL had to do all the house stuff by myself, so him using working as an excuse to not help around the house is jacked because that sure wasn't the rule when I too was working.