re: Medical Termination

Quoting Lindsay*J:“ I think you ladies need to remember that not everyone is emotionally capable of raising a child with ... [snip!] ... to say those babies don't suffer in the womb? She's looking for support. If you can't offer it, maybe you shouldn't be here.”

The children with DS that do die is generally due to heart complications, which are common to people with DS, but could be found in a child without a genetic disorder as well. It's alot like AIDS, you don't die because of DS, but the complications that you are suspetable to because of it. Did that make sense?!?! I hope so because it did to me. haha

Quoting Sammma [GDS]:“ The children with DS that do die is generally due to heart complications, which are common to people ... [snip!] ... but the complications that you are suspetable to because of it. Did that make sense?!?! I hope so because it did to me. haha”

It makes sense..

Quoting Lindsay*J:“ I think you ladies need to remember that not everyone is emotionally capable of raising a child with ... [snip!] ... to say those babies don't suffer in the womb? She's looking for support. If you can't offer it, maybe you shouldn't be here.”

I would 110% terminate a DS pregnancy. I am capable of taking care of a special need child but, IMO all of their health promblems and numerous surgeries is just cruel to make a child go through.

when parents die, who takes care of an adult who cannot fully funtion? either the siblings or a group home. Who has that kind of money???? IMO it's pretty selfish to leave your children another person to take care of.

that may all be sunshine and roses for some families. It wouldn't be for mine.

It's a tough choice and I think we need to try to support her as much as we can. No Matter what our views are.

I can understand where the OP is coming from and fully support her choice no matter what.

Best of luck to you. I think that the financial part factors in to this decision in a big way. Not only the medical expenses but child care as well if you still have to work. DS children have special needs that cannot always be met by regular daycare providers. Also your own mental capabilities. Look at yourself honestly and ask if you have the patience and understanding to deal with the struggles of a child with DS. I'm not sure I do but if I was faced with the situation I might be able to change.

Quoting Elliot ROCKS:“ I would 110% terminate a DS pregnancy. I am capable of taking care of a special need child but, IMO ... [snip!] ... No Matter what our views are. I can understand where the OP is coming from and fully support her choice no matter what.”

Never once did I say I didn't support her decision, I don't know her situation, so I have no right to judge her choice, it's her choice to make. She's the only person that knows what best for her and her baby. I am simply offering advice from the experiences I've had.

I don't think it's selfish for me to ask my children to watch out for their brother when my husband and I pass away. We have a savings that we have started so that they will have more than enough money to take care of him, and have him live however he feels comfortable. It's not fair for you to make assumptions about people with DS and their capability to take care of themselves and such, just like it's not right for people to make assumptions for her reasoning behind the choice she is going to make.

Quoting Elliot ROCKS:“ I would 110% terminate a DS pregnancy. I am capable of taking care of a special need child but, IMO ... [snip!] ... No Matter what our views are. I can understand where the OP is coming from and fully support her choice no matter what.”

For me personally, with something like DS I don't think I'd terminate. Then again, I don't know for sure in the long run.

However, there are conditions in which I absolutely would terminate, especially if it meant the fetus had no chance of survival outside of the womb. I know I'm personally not strong enough to handle certain things.

I just pray I'm never in that situation..

Maybe someone should make a thread about this in D&D. This is starting to steer away from the Op and become a matter of what people think is right versus what others think is wrong.

Quoting Lindsay*J:“ I think you ladies need to remember that not everyone is emotionally capable of raising a child with ... [snip!] ... to say those babies don't suffer in the womb? She's looking for support. If you can't offer it, maybe you shouldn't be here.”

I like to think that god only gives a person as much as they can handle but some days I wish he didn't have so much faith in me!

Quoting Sammma [GDS]:“ Never once did I say I didn't support her decision, I don't know her situation, so I have no right ... [snip!] ... and such, just like it's not right for people to make assumptions for her reasoning behind the choice she is going to make.”

i didn't say you specificly. Every family has to do what they can w/ the cards they have been delt.I saw plent of folk nearly attacking her for even asking.

I'm glad you have the means to start saving for his care. Not every family of a DS child can.. When I said it was selfish, I meant I couldn't imagine asking Piper and Elliot to take care of a sibling. The whole point was to tell the OP, I understood why she was questioning, not to attack you.

Quoting *Jarretts mommy!*:“ I like to think that god only gives a person as much as they can handle but some days I wish he didn't have so much faith in me!”

For most things I believe the same thing..

However, not everyone does and in cases like this, I ere on the side of caution and offer support, and my personal experiences.

I'm a naturalist. I don't think god has anything to do w/it it.

Quoting Helen Baggett:“ Well the amnio says she has it, the blood test was positive, and the ultrasound showed she has no nasal ... [snip!] ... she has serevere downs. I cant stay home, i need to work. i cant afford all the theropy or medical expensices she would have.”

you'd be amazed what the state programs offer for kids with down syndrome. my husband and i didn't know our little man would have it, and when he came and it turned out that he did indeed have down syndrome it was a total shock to all of us. we were afraid that our insurance was going to have some issues as there was a chance he would (he was perfectly healthy - n o heart issues or any other issues that can be associated with down syndrome) but when we moved, we were able to get early intervention via the state for him as well as get enrolled in a program that allowed him to go on medicaid so all of his medical bills are covered. considering that most fetuses can survive outside of the womb as of now and the stage of your pregnancy, i don't think i personally would be able at this stage of the game to terminate regardless of the disorder...
good luck with your decision...its not my place to judge you, i can't say i was ever in that situation..

If you have been in my shoes i really want to talk to u please PM me. Weather u decided to keep or terminate would u still make the same descion or would u terminate, i really want to hear from you. i havent heard from anyone that did decide to terminate, would you make the same descion over again do you feel u made the right choice? please PM me.

sounds to me like you've already made up your mind..... you keep saying you cant afford to have her.....



whatever you do decide i hope that its the right one for you and a decision that you can live with. dont worry about what everyone is saying. only you can decide what to do. i really hope someone who is in your situation or has been in your situation sees this thread and gets to you before you need to have made your decision. good luck.

I am 100% pro choice but these things just upset me.

I have an illness, not half as bad as DS but I sit here and think "what if my mom aborted me just because I have MS"? Do you know what I mean?

I totally understand it would be extremely difficult to raise a sick child but I just can't help but feeling terrible about it. If you wanted this child before you found out she MAY be sick, what makes you not still want her? I dunno. Sorry if I'm coming off rude.