re: ... Please dont judge

Quoting Yvonne [♥]:“ i know how tough it is to raise a child. I was stupid when i said that i wantd to plan it. ... [snip!] ... i did weigh the pros and cons of it with family members.. And i also didnt do it just becus of me. I also did it for my son.”

So not to be rude or a bitch, but how can you terminate a pregnancy after having a child? Is it really difficult mentally? How are you dealing with it? Do you feel guilty?

I have kids so close and now its even closer, I just wonder whats in your head when all this is going on...

I don't think the girls here who are asking why she would intentionally plan a pregnancy and then terminate that pregnancy are being callous. I think their point is valid.

Quoting Kissemme:“ So not to be rude or a bitch, but how can you terminate a pregnancy after having a child? Is it really ... [snip!] ... you feel guilty? I have kids so close and now its even closer, I just wonder whats in your head when all this is going on...”

Thats a reasonable questoin......
umm... It is hard for me mentally after having my son. I think for anybody it would be hard... for those girls that do as a form of birth control [I despise those type of girls that get it done many many times...]; ummm I dealt with it by crying my eyes out, and idk.... its hard for me to explain. Sometimes I do feel guilty for doing it.... I mean especially when I look at my son and see what my other child might have looked like

Quoting danielle & cade:“ I don't think the girls here who are asking why she would intentionally plan a pregnancy and then terminate that pregnancy are being callous. I think their point is valid.”

you are right.....

I myself am pro-life. You specifically asked for people who would reply with pretty much hate post to leave out their comments. You heard it all before, right? I'm not here to hate post. Anyway, your situation was for sure a tough one that I personally have never had to face. Yes, that kid would have had a screwed up dad. The kid probably would have had problems its whole life because of him. You would have had to deal with getting child support and having to deal with that sick freak the rest of your life. It sucks! I know that everyone answers for their decisions whether good or bad. I honestly couldn't tell you what decision I would make in that circumstance. Or a circumstance of rape for that matter. It would be hard to look at a child everyday of your life and have to be reminded of that horrible night all over again. Life can be screwed up and difficult sometimes. It's support from our friends and family and occasionally strangers that keeps us from going insane. I really do pray for easier days ahead for you. Be thankful for a BF that at least lets you cry on his shoulder. He may never understand all the pain you feel but he is there.Good luck!

I just dont understand why you say it was a miscarriage, I mean I had a miscarriage..... could you please explain to me how you feel thats the same thing?

I miscarried at nine weeks before having my first child. It was the more painful emotionally than anything I have ever been through before or since, and physically more painful than even my daughter's birth.

I can't imagine how much that pain would be compunded if it were a decision I had made, even knowing it was for the right reasons. TBH, I concieved that pregnancy in a markedly similar way that your situation played out. In my case, I got back together with my now husband after a few weeks, just before I miscarried. We had decided to raise the baby as though it were his, and never tell anyone (except the sperm father who already knew and gave us his blessing) the difference.

Point of my ramble (other than soul cleansing) is that I feel what I can only presume is pain akin to yours. The pain, oh the pain. To lose the promise of life or to bid it goodbye early, it shows your own goodness to mourn.

My dear, there are people who carry torches for and against everything. Someone will condemn us for hell (or the lable of 'bad mother') for anything from abortion to cheating to using the CIO method. We are our own judges, and by far the most harsh.

You have my thoughts.

Quoting stephaniewalters:“ I miscarried at nine weeks before having my first child. It was the more painful emotionally than anything ... [snip!] ... from abortion to cheating to using the CIO method. We are our own judges, and by far the most harsh. You have my thoughts.”

Thank you...