re: Birth Mom Support Thread

Quoting Incognito Ninja™:" Oh it's okay, no biggie. I had got to thinking earlier and was like, oh smurf, in 5 1/2 years, there's ... [snip!] ... I do meet her and she asks about her birth dad. He was murdered last year. Pure craziness going on in my head right now."

I can imgaine. Adrian is on the other side he iswanting to go visit.. and Im not in that place to go visit ethan yet... :hugs: You know if you need to talk you can PM me any time <3

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I can imgaine. Adrian is on the other side he iswanting to go visit.. and Im not in that place to go visit ethan yet... :hugs: You know if you need to talk you can PM me any time <3 "

Same to you!
I always wondered what it would have been like to have the option to visit. I don't think I would have been strong enough to do that.

Quoting Incognito Ninja™:" Same to you! I always wondered what it would have been like to have the option to visit. I don't think I would have been strong enough to do that. "

Right now Im still in the mindframe that I want him back. And I know I cant do it. I mean he is young enough that he wont remember if I came or not.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Right now Im still in the mindframe that I want him back. And I know I cant do it. I mean he is young enough that he wont remember if I came or not. "

It has been almost 13 years, and I still feel like that from time to time. How long do you have the choice of visiting?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Incognito Ninja™:</b>" Hello ladies.  I have a question; At what age do you think it's appropriate to explain to your child that they have an older sibling, and explain the adoption situation? "</blockquote>




from Birth.

Quoting Incognito Ninja™:" It has been almost 13 years, and I still feel like that from time to time. How long do you have the choice of visiting?"

As I know, they have left it open. But who knows.

I'm 16 weeks, and have recently decided on adoption...I'm scared, I don't know how it works or what to expect. I don't know how I'm going to explain this to my other children, who actually still don't even know that I'm pregnant - but I know they'll notice eventually as the amount of lap I have to sit on shrinks. I don't know what to do or think....I just know I'm in no position to do this right now.

I'm really torn between two decisions.. I am currently 20 weeks with my first child. My boyfriend and I don't live near any of our families for the moment. Yet we had planned to move to where his family is from this summer.. around my due date before we found out about my pregnancy. We both work "menial" jobs.. I am a server and he is a manager at a store. He was adopted and is "supportive" of either decision I make but I don't feel like he really will be if I make the "wrong one." I fear that I won't be able to have another child due to some issues I've had have with my body, previous cysts and bacterial infections, added to my family's issues with pregnancy, mother had several miscarriages and her mother passed away during child birth. I've made it so far already and have been excited about this new adventure in life. I've been looking up all these nursery ideas, what to expect, budgeting moms, etc the usual stuff. And I feel now that it was for nothing. We both have only a year left of school but my boyfriend feels that we will never be able to go back or do anything else that "we want to do" because now we have someone else to take care of. I just want someone to talk to who has been through this before or debating the same situation. I've been really down the past few days since we've had our main discussion on adoption/keeping the baby.

Quoting lmeredi3:" I'm really torn between two decisions.. I am currently 20 weeks with my first child. My boyfriend and ... [snip!] ... the same situation. I've been really down the past few days since we've had our main discussion on adoption/keeping the baby. "

Do what YOU want to do. If you dont know if you will be able to have another child, then keep the baby. Yes a child changes your life no matter if you keep it or adopt it out.