re: Birth Mom Support Thread

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ darah ♥:</b>" Do you know what blog you found that from? I feel that way every single day of my life. I regret it so smurfing much. "</blockquote>



when I get on the computer I will look for it. and I know how you feel.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ darah ♥:</b>" Do you know what blog you ... [snip!] ... I regret it so smurfing much. "</blockquote> when I get on the computer I will look for it. and I know how you feel."</blockquote>




thanks. I haven't been in here in forever I am just too negative about adoption. I have nothing positive to bring to the table.

Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... thanks. I haven't been in here in forever I am just too negative about adoption. I have nothing positive to bring to the table."

No problem. Neither do I. I hate it with a passion. Its just an industry that thrives on making money and doesnt really care about the birth moms.

And here it is.... http://shesonlythebirthmother.blogspot.com/

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" No problem. Neither do I. I hate it with a passion. Its just an industry that thrives on making money ... [snip!] ... on making money and doesnt really care about the birth moms. And here it is.... http://shesonlythebirthmother.blogspot.com/"

Exactly! legal human trafficking imo. Thank you, I will read it for a bit. Theres another called Motherhood Deleted that is good too.

I just read a bunch of the blogs linked to her and a lot of her posts and was just in awe. That lady took the words out of my smurfing mouth. I cannot believe I'm not the only one. I literally just blogged about this a couple of days ago, before ever seeing your post because I've been thinking so much about it and feeling so completely and utterly bitter about it.

Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" I just read a bunch of the blogs linked to her and a lot of her posts and was just in awe. That lady ... [snip!] ... before ever seeing your post because I've been thinking so much about it and feeling so completely and utterly bitter about it."

I know right?! I spent a whole DAY D A Y... looking up blogs and I was in shock that other people felt the same way that I did. Yeah I only placed a year ago, but still... Being told that I couldnt call myself mommy yvonne because it might cause confusion with ethan? wtf. he has 2 dads. And that as a mom already that I should know the importance of the title "mom". But I will always have a connection with him.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I know right?! I spent a whole DAY D A Y... looking up blogs and I was in shock that other people felt ... [snip!] ... And that as a mom already that I should know the importance of the title "mom". But I will always have a connection with him. "

OMG! So similar! I placed my little girl to two women. She calls them both mom, or at least I was told that was the arrangement. But me? I'm just Darah. I'm not important. She knows who I am. But she doesn't know WHO I am. They're probably brainwashing her ask we speak. The connection will NEVER go away. I think about my girl every day and I have thought of her every day for the last nine years. By the time I can bond with her it will be too late, I just know it. They dropped off of the face of the planet once my grace period was over. I have been against adoption for so long now and people just thought I was talking crazy talk.. but it's such a read problem. Birth mothers are treated like absolute smurfing worthless smurf. Ughhhhhh

Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" OMG! So similar! I placed my little girl to two women. She calls them both mom, or at least I was ... [snip!] ... was talking crazy talk.. but it's such a read problem. Birth mothers are treated like absolute smurfing worthless smurf. Ughhhhhh"

Yeah. I mean I guess Im llucky they update me once in a smurfing blue moon on FB.   but For me the updates are once a month for the first 6 months anf then every 6 months after that. then once a year after the 2nd year -- I think. It pisses me off. And Im trying not to get pissed off tonight about this smurf tonight. I have to be happy for adrian tomorrow morning. I swear that kid is my rock. lol. He is the strongest kid I know. To have a brother and sister a month apart and then see his sister but not his brother, sorta regularly... its gotta smurf a kid up.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Yeah. I mean I guess Im llucky they update me once in a smurfing blue moon on FB.   but For me ... [snip!] ... a brother and sister a month apart and then see his sister but not his brother, sorta regularly... its gotta smurf a kid up. "

Holidays are the absolute worst - especially Mother's Day. They get better with time.. but they still suck, there's no denying that. Tonight is a good night for wine. Luckily we celebrate on the solstice instead of Christmas. But I probably shouldn't be getting worked about about this either. :-\

Did any of you already have children (in your custody) when you chose adoption??

Quoting MissAshley+3:" Did any of you already have children (in your custody) when you chose adoption??"

Yes. Me.

Quoting MissAshley+3:" Did any of you already have children (in your custody) when you chose adoption??"

Yes, I did.

Quoting ♥`n my girls:" Yes, I did."

Hey lady!!! How have you guys been?

Just found out I was pregnant, I don't think I'm going to be able to have this baby when I'm so stressed about bills, and have 2 daughters already, and I'm close to getting my AA, and I'm in the middle of looking at 4 yr universities...

I've had an abortion before, but I don't think I could do it again after having my daughters.

So I can either keep this baby or give it up for adoption.

What was the final decision making factor for some of you ladies? Like what made you go, "yes, this is it, this is why I have to do it"?

And the other thing is, how hard truly was it to give the baby away right after it was born?

I think thats the scariest part for me to think about.

Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:" Just found out I was pregnant, I don't think I'm going to be able to have this baby when I'm so stressed ... [snip!] ... how hard truly was it to give the baby away right after it was born? I think thats the scariest part for me to think about."

It was very easy for me, because I was living in lala land. But I would say that putting your girls through an adoption is going to be rough. If I had known what it would do to my son, I would have had another abortion. I regret my adoption more than my abortion.