re: Birth Mom Support Thread

I wonder if anyone is on another BM support group? Andi f they are willing to share?

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I wonder if anyone is on another BM support group? Andi f they are willing to share? "

Not me. It would be nice to know of others though!

Quoting ♥`n my girls:" Not me. It would be nice to know of others though!"

I just realized that you live in the same state as Ethan and Ryan and Julio. I dont know what city.  

I found this.... http://www.blogtalkradio.com/birthmoms

Also I made this a while ago.. Thought I would share it. http://www.facebook.com/groups/363404007076716/

I am apart of Big Tough Girls. I've talked about it on here before. They do the Skype group once a month. They have a private Facebook page. I can request to get you guys added if you PM me your Facebook.

I have to write this somewhere and this seems to be the right place.

The reason I resent my adoption is because I didnt want to be put in that place to do it. I didnt want to put more on Adrian because he was already going through enough. I didnt give Ethan to my dad and stepmom because I didnt know that he would be right there in reach where I could take him. It doesnt matter that they wanted it so I wouldnt regret it. But when I conutined the pregnancy that is when I regretted it. It is not an easy thing. I dont know how it would have been if he was just 10 minutes away. I dont understand why all the sudden my dad wants us to come around, especially when I have yet to receive some sort of a sorry from him and my grandmother for trying to putting me in that place where I would be more worse off.

I just had to get that off my chest.

I didnt know if I posted this or not.. but here it is again. http://monksporkers0711.blogspot.com/

I found this from a a blog...


I got an update today. I wasn’t expecting one. I never really expect one. They are so few and far between. They just send them when they feel like it so I never know when it might be. There it was like a slap in the face. My heart instantly started pounding. I knew I should wait until everyone was asleep to open it but I didn’t. I should have.
It was filled with the typical things. Tiny crumbs of my daughter’s life. Then I read the line that ripped my heart out. She lost her first tooth. Her first tooth and I wasn’t there. I will never be there for anything. I missed it. I will miss everything. Every important moment in her life will just be a line in an email to me.
I can’t breathe. It hurts so deep my soul is screaming. I don’t want to do this anymore. I don’t want to be this anymore. Yet I have to smile so my 2-year-old won’t realize there is something very very wrong with Mommy.
This is the face of adoption. The total destruction of a mother. Oh so beautiful
And the last paragraph and last sentence is prefect.

Quoting ♥Amanda♥:" I feel out of place on BG sometimes... I mean I don't have a kid (legally). She's not mine. I dont raise her everyday and experience her learning new things."

This has been the hardest part for me over the years... the daughter I released at birth turned (gasp) 17 this summer! People have NO idea how hard it is. They think her birthday is the hardest day, NO, I celebrate her BIRTH that day like any other mom. The HARD day is Mother's Day. No one (almost no one) acknowledges a Birth Mom on that day, ya know? It hurts..

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I found this from a a blog... I got an update today. I wasn’t expecting one. I never really expect ... [snip!] ... the face of adoption. The total destruction of a mother. Oh so beautiful And the last paragraph and last sentence is prefect. "

I love this. I've been M.I.A for about a year now. I was having a hard time tonight and this pretty much sums up why I came here looking to vent. I just found out my Aunt who adopted my son is moving him even further from me and now I feel like I will never have a relationship with him. Are there any Birth Mom's in here who waited to give their baby up? I never planned on it and did not have to give him up at the hospital, so I have so much respect for all of you that did. I've never been farther then 2 hours away from my birth son and now I'll be 15 hours away. It feels like the more I try to be a part of his life the more shoved away I feel.

Quoting *Sue*Bugs*Mommy*:" I love this. I've been M.I.A for about a year now. I was having a hard time tonight and this pretty ... [snip!] ... my birth son and now I'll be 15 hours away. It feels like the more I try to be a part of his life the more shoved away I feel."

Not me. But I know how you feel. I live in DE and my son and his parents live in CT. And At first it was great but now its like I want my son back. And I didnt even get a video on facebook of him walking yet and they are telling me that he is walking and yeah. I have a feeling that the updates will be once every couple of months. Its a horrible feeling.

How do you know If adoption is the right choice for you? What factors do you consider and how do you know if you can go thru with it in the end? Is it nornal to be upset about giving a baby up for adoption? I am seriously debating it but I want to know more before I make a decision... once I say yes can I say no when I deliver? Help please I dont know whats going on like I want this baby but I dont know if I can do it mentally or physicaly I just dont know if it would be best or not right now and I need help determaining that...

Quoting Baby peaches mama:" How do you know If adoption is the right choice for you? What factors do you consider and how do you ... [snip!] ... if I can do it mentally or physicaly I just dont know if it would be best or not right now and I need help determaining that..."

You need to make a pro and con list. I chose adoption because I didnt have enough money for abortion. You can say yes and then no. But DO NOT SIGN ANYTHING before you deliver.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I found this from a a blog... I got an update today. I wasn’t expecting one. I never really expect ... [snip!] ... the face of adoption. The total destruction of a mother. Oh so beautiful And the last paragraph and last sentence is prefect. "

Do you know what blog you found that from?
I feel that way every single day of my life.

I regret it so smurfing much.