re: Why I Believe in Extended Breastfeeding (Beyond 1-2 years)

Quoting Andrea...:“ Its not about denying everything. We are still human. but what it is about is to know the substances ... [snip!] ... knows her facts. Most Dr's even recommend an hour per standard drink. So if anything she was saying the info the Dr's stated.”

Thank you.  

Quoting Andrea...:“ Its not about denying everything. We are still human. but what it is about is to know the substances ... [snip!] ... knows her facts. Most Dr's even recommend an hour per standard drink. So if anything she was saying the info the Dr's stated.”

I did educate my self. I googled it just like you did.. but just like you said "its about knowing the potential danger". I would choose not to take that risk and that is my choice just like she chooses to breast feed long term. Go her. I just wouldnt.

Not only that but I didnt appretiate the accusation that I was making breast feeding in to a "sexual thing" wtf is that?? I by no means feel it is sexual I just agree to disagree and be done with it.

Quoting AAE--JSD:“ I did educate my self. I googled it just like you did.. but just like you said "its about knowing ... [snip!] ... feeding in to a "sexual thing" wtf is that?? I by no means feel it is sexual I just agree to disagree and be done with it.”

I just read back over my posts and no where did i ever mention that you thought it was sexual.... If its not sexual though then why is it a negative thing? Again i am not accusing you - i am curious as to the reasons behind your standpoint.

I have now had 2 children. My first is 6 yrs and my son is nearly 10 months. I bfeed one and not the other. I can see the difference now in regards to health.

Quoting Andrea...:“ I just read back over my posts and no where did i ever mention that you thought it was sexual.... ... [snip!] ... 6 yrs and my son is nearly 10 months. I bfeed one and not the other. I can see the difference now in regards to health. ”

She was talking about me. She said that bf'ing beyone 2 years was disgusting. I said that the only reason it would be gross is if someone were to sexualize it.

Quoting Andrea...:“ I just read back over my posts and no where did i ever mention that you thought it was sexual.... ... [snip!] ... 6 yrs and my son is nearly 10 months. I bfeed one and not the other. I can see the difference now in regards to health. ”

You didnt accuse me of being sexual about it, the other girl did. I took it offensively and Im pretty opinionated, thats why I continued to voice. I dont think breast feeding is sexual in any way shape or form, its beauatiful and I wish when i had my daughter I had the chance to do it, or even when I have more children (might not able to, due to a lack of production) I just dont agree with LONG term breastfeedingif you wanna pump and give it to them Im sure it isbeneficial for them and you get to keep your boobies =) I just dont think its appropriate for a child to be able to go up your shirt in public at age 5 and take what ever they want. Yah know? As far as the whole drinking when your breast feeding, I know you CAN do it if you are cautious, I just know I wouldnt.. because as much as they give you the stats as to how long you should wait and how many you can dirnk exc. I just wouldnt be able to trust it. I wouldnt want to risk it. Thats just me. Im pretty much a worry wort and I have lost a child there fore making me more aware or what ever you want to call it. Thats just me =) Sorry if I offended anyone.

Quoting AAE--JSD:“ You didnt accuse me of being sexual about it, the other girl did. I took it offensively and Im pretty ... [snip!] ... lost a child there fore making me more aware or what ever you want to call it. Thats just me =) Sorry if I offended anyone.”

Well, that's your choice. I know that my son gets emotional benefits from extended nursing, and I always do what's best for him. I might wean him if he doesn't wean himself around, I dunno, 6?  

Quoting AAE--JSD:“ You didnt accuse me of being sexual about it, the other girl did. I took it offensively and Im pretty ... [snip!] ... lost a child there fore making me more aware or what ever you want to call it. Thats just me =) Sorry if I offended anyone.”

there is milk sticks ... just like pregnancy tests that you can test your milk with to see if there is alcohol left in it

I am so sorry about the loss of your child. I myself have not but my cousin whom i am close to has lost 2 and it is absolutely devistating for it to happen... It would make you like to cautious but being to paranoid can take away some of the pleasure of raising children and can also harm the bond with your child.

honestly i dont get it if it is still acceptable (in what you are saying) for a mother to express and give it to the child in the cup.... then what is wrong with the child latching? I am sorry if it is not sexual (which you have said its not)then i do not see the logic or even reasoning behind it... So i honestly dont understand.

To me before i breastfed i also didnt believe in extended breastfeeding because I didnt understand it and i didnt understand the "emotional" bond breastfeeding causes between the mother/child. The trust your child develops in you the closenes and the bond. No that i do believe in it i looked back on my reasons and the only thing i could understand about myself why i found it wrong is it was social construction. It was something by looking around and seeing people and i allowed the mass view to impact my belief and it was just something i always felt and done... So with a lot of things in my life the feelings and thoughts i took for granted i starte to challenge them and find out the reason why.

Quoting Tanner's Mom*BDC*:“ Personally I think when they are old enough to ask for it they are too old. REGARDLESS of health benefits.”

I agree. I also believe that anything beyond the medically recommended time limit could be seen as somewhat of a sexually gratifying thing that is highly questionable on the parents end. It's just creepy. That's likebeing sick, getting medication to take 7-10 days, but you get a 15 day supply. Duh.

Quoting LoveyDovey:“ I agree. I also believe that anything beyond the medically recommended time limit is somewhat of a sexually ... [snip!] ... parents end. It's just creepy. That's likebeing sick, getting medication to take 7-10 days, but you get a 15 day supply. Duh.”

if you get some sexual pleasure from breastfeeding

its probably best you dont even try (i dont think i have EVER said that before, but in your case ii truly believe it)

ugh, i am happy i dont get that from feeding my baby

you are a FREAK

Quoting LoveyDovey:“ I agree. I also believe that anything beyond the medically recommended time limit could be seen as somewhat ... [snip!] ... parents end. It's just creepy. That's likebeing sick, getting medication to take 7-10 days, but you get a 15 day supply. Duh.”

Which medical time limit are you refering to
Australia recommends you breastfeed for a min of 1 year - but preferably 2 years and beyond
America recommends 2 years
WHO recommends 2 years at the minium but preferably 4 years or beyond.

So which one do you listen to? Or what about countrys that recommend 4 years?

Why is it creepy and why is it sexual? I am lost, i thought my breasts had milk glands to feed. If my breasts are still producing milk and my child is still drinking it then isnt this what the body was meant to do? Designed for? When did the breasts just become solely sexual?

As for the being 'sick part' most antibiotics recommend be taken for 7 or 8 days but most Dr's give you a repeat because they recognise 1 dose may not be enough and recommend to keep taking them until ALL symptoms are gone. Some Dr's also want to see you and reassess your situation 90% of the time you will need another dose... So buying the 15 day one would have used forsight and prepared you - so in my mind that would have been the most logical thing to do.

Soooo we should get this thread going again minus all the debating!!! It would really be great to talk to other moms about extended breastfeeding since my daughter is 11 months and I plan on letting her self wean.

I don't understand why people are so horrified by extended nursing. It is so natural. http://www.kathydettwyler.org/detwean.htmlI found this to be really interesting!