Quoting Kimberly Paul:" i am having my first child hopefully very soon and my goal is to do it all natural as well. my theory ... [snip!] ... i'm not sure. does anyone who has been through natural labor and delivery have any advice to cam my nerves? thanks. :-/"
My little girl is 9 weeks now and I had a natural delivery with no pain relief at all. The first time was a lengthy complicated delivery because of all the drugs they administered to me in the UK with my son. So this time I decided no drugs.
I didn't go to the hospital until is was REALLY uncomfortable. So shopped, went to mcdonalds, just made sure I stayed on my feet (to keep my mind off the very mild contractions and let gravity help). Went into the hospital when the pain became very uncomfortable.
I was hooked up to a machine that showed babies heart beat my heart beat and the contractions. The contractions show an rise in number before you actually feel them - just breath through those and keep your eye on the machine. This way you are expecting the pain and can control your emotions and breath through the contraction. One at a time. Without drugs, this stage can develop quickly into the next stage.
The 2nd stage is the most painful. This is the pushing stage. It can last a very short amount of time(30 min) or a long time (1 1/2 hours). My doctor gave me advice that worked wonders (just remember to get you bowels cleaned out with an enema before this part)... Push, like you having a poo and relax your pelvic floor muscle. Keep you mouth closed when pushing. If its open when pushing, you loose power/pressure. As much as you want to scream, put all that energy into keeping your mouth closed and pushing.
I had a special gel bought in by me that lowered your pushing time by 30 %. I can't remember what is called off hand, but my pushing time was 5 min and that part was the worst pain I had ever gone through, but it was over quick and I walked out the hospital 12 hours later with my baby girl. Very healthy with only 1 stitch that I couldn't feel or see (lol).
Oh I remembered what the gel was called - DIANATAL GEL - google and try this out. Also remember to massage your perinium and stretch with your fingers if you can. As disgusting as it sounds to make the skin supple can REALLY help.
Hope this helps you feel confident!