Quoting Smokey_Taboo:" I personally feel like any reason is good reason for a women to make that choice for themself. Would you maybe like to share here why you want too, and whats also holding you back?"
Well, let me start off my saying that I got pregnant with my daughter at 18. I had her when I was 19, and she is now 4 years old. Her father was my "highschool sweetheart" but wasn't there for me through my entire pregnancy. From day one, he's been involved VERY little. He hasn't practiced his visitation in years, but blames EVERYTHING on me. (the fact that he's in and out of jail for child support, has no liscence or car, ect..) Bottom line, he makes my life very difficult. But I love my daughter to death, I couldn't imagine my life without her.
Then about a year and a half ago, Dan came into my life. He was everything I had ever wanted in someone- responsible, driven, motivated.. we've had a wonderful relationship. We work together and when we weren't working, we were spending time together. Then I found out I was pregnant. He broke up with me. H told EVERYONE about the "situation" (I stopped taking BC to get an IUD, they couldn't get me in right away so I went two weeks w/o BC & I failed to tell him.) I know, terrible. So now, everyone thinks I got pregnant on purpose. Mainly to "trap" him into being a father to my daughter.
May I just say right now, that is utter and complete bullsmurf. But for the last month he has been pushing abortion on me. At first I wasn't even considering it- I just thought he was angry and scared. Well, a month later things are even worse. His family is completely unsupportive & he has made it clear that he absolutely does not want this child. (But will be there for him/her if I decide to continue)
My stance is, I just don't want to be a single mom to two kids with two fathers. It took me a very long time to feel content raising my daughter alone. I know that I COULD do it again.. but the thought of being connected with someone who I thought loved me unconditionally.. makes me so so sad.
It's not finances or anything like that... it's simply that I don't know if I could emotionally survive another pregnancy alone again. Like I made that mistake once, do I really want to make it again?