re: Inside The Abortion Clinic

Quoting Smokey_Taboo:" I can understand that, Im having a hard time bouncing bad too. Im really bitter and angry towards just ... [snip!] ... actually healing that part that is broken is the best thing to do, but really all I can do right now it duct tape it a little. "

I dont live with my daughter, my parents take care of her and they're getting my parental rights terminated. I got the abortion because my mom told me if i didnt get it that i wasnt allowed home to see my daughter. Then she found out i was still dating the father of the baby that i aborted and kicked me out and is still taking my daughter away. So i only got the abortion (for the baby me and SO tried for) so i could keep my daughter. And i actually just called today to get into counseling, currently waiting for them to call back.

Quoting -ℳama-:" Ever since my abortion (11/19/2012) I've been more depressed than ever. Im currently BACK with the father ... [snip!] ... killing myself the week after it was done.... Im just a total different person now ever since then... Its exhausting and scary."

im going through the same thing...u can message me if u want to talk.

Quoting -ℳama-:" I dont live with my daughter, my parents take care of her and they're getting my parental rights terminated. ... [snip!] ... so i could keep my daughter. And i actually just called today to get into counseling, currently waiting for them to call back."

Im so sorry, I hope counseling gives you a safe place to heal hun. I can really relate to doing it for your child that is here with you know. whatever the reason may be. you can email me more if you would like <3

Thank you ladies... Im going to sleep, if i have time im gonna message you both tomorrow.

Another question, have any of you gotten pregnant RIGHT AFTER your abortion?   I've been taking birth control ever since but like an idiot, have had unprotected sex. Now im freaking out.  

Quoting -ℳama Sweez-:" Thank you ladies... Im going to sleep, if i have time im gonna message you both tomorrow. Another question, ... [snip!] ... abortion?   I've been taking birth control ever since but like an idiot, have had unprotected sex. Now im freaking out.  "

No I havent, Im not on BC currently we are just using condoms we have had a few mishaps are well but nothing has come of it. I would just use condoms BC and spermicide.

Quoting -ℳama Sweez-:" Thank you ladies... Im going to sleep, if i have time im gonna message you both tomorrow. Another question, ... [snip!] ... abortion?   I've been taking birth control ever since but like an idiot, have had unprotected sex. Now im freaking out.  "

if you need anything feel free to message me too  

Quoting -ℳad Hatter-:" Thank you ladies... Im going to sleep, if i have time im gonna message you both tomorrow. Another question, ... [snip!] ... abortion?   I've been taking birth control ever since but like an idiot, have had unprotected sex. Now im freaking out.  "

i got preg the month after my abortion (mostly bc i really wanted to due to how i felt & thought that would make things better) but it was a miscarriage  
but from what ive read, you ovulate about 2 weeks after an abortion...

Quoting supermommy☠:" i got preg the month after my abortion (mostly bc i really wanted to due to how i felt & thought ... [snip!] ... would make things better) but it was a miscarriage   but from what ive read, you ovulate about 2 weeks after an abortion..."

Greattttttttttttttttttttttt  
Since my abortion was on November 19th, when do you think is a good time to test, just for peace of mind really.

Quoting -ℳad Hatter-:" Greattttttttttttttttttttttt   Since my abortion was on November 19th, when do you think is a good time to test, just for peace of mind really."

i would test about 3 weeks after unprotected sex but also know that depending how far along u was remanding HCG could possibly show up as a false faint positive from the abortion, so dont test TOO soon

Quoting -ℳad Hαtter-:" Thank you ladies... Im going to sleep, if i have time im gonna message you both tomorrow. Another question, ... [snip!] ... abortion?   I've been taking birth control ever since but like an idiot, have had unprotected sex. Now im freaking out.  "

I did like a few weeks after

yea it is def not the easy way out glad u said that cuz thats what men think and some women either way abortion or labor your life is changed forever either experince you will never forget I have been to abortion clinic and I know exactly how it feels but I did not go threw with the procedure atmosphere was just to much seeing all those girls there I actually think it takes a very strong person to go threw with it. having abortion might have been best for my situation but i just coudlnt do it now i just know I will do anything to give my baby boy the best

I have so many feelings inside that it seems I can't share with anyone. I'm hoping this is a safe place.

I had an abortion when I was 15 and then again when I was 16. When I was 15 I went by myself, it was painful. Lots of sadness. When I was 16 I told my mom, we went to the hospital, she was supportive, they knocked me out, not too much pain. But I swore that I would NEVER ever have an abortion again if I was over 18, had a steady job and was married. Because only irresponsible teenagers have abortions.

Well. Here I am at 34. Happily married, have 3 kids and would be considered middle class. We are a 2 car family, big screen tv, leather couches, cell phones...you get the picture. We are not poor. However, we bought our house with my parents. So they live in this house too. We split everything 50-50 (otherwise dh and I wouldn't be able to afford our lives). Well last year I got pregnant with my 3rd child and it was like the end of our happy world. EVEN typing that out makes me feel guilty because I ADORE my baby.

Anyway, to make the story short I went on mat leave with no pay for one year and my husband lost his job in September. Since October my mom has been supporting us in the sense that she's paying ALL the house bills and mortgage. We are barely paying for the cars, insurance, kids' expenses, etc. I got a job in november and am trying REALLY hard to make money so I can get us out of this hole we're in.

Well...2 days ago I find out I'm pregnant again. I always wanted 4 kids. I told my mom casually that I could be pregnant and she freaked out. She said that I was being selfish, that we barely have enough time to devote ourselves to our 3 kids, that we can no longer afford the house or the cars and daycare. That after our 3rd was born (who she was against as well), that the other two were pulled out of their activities, etc. This is all true. I lied and told her I was just kidding.

I talked to my husband and he agrees that an abortion is the way to go. It breaks my heart because what my mom says is true. I BARELY have enough time to play or pay attention to my 6 and 5 year old because my 1 year old takes up a lot of my time and so does work. I know INTELLECTUALLY that this is the responsible decision. But emotionally I just want to hide.  

I have a D & C scheduled for next monday, jan 14, 2013. The first day of my last period was Dec. 1, 2012 so that puts me at about 5 weeks or so. My brain knows this is right but the emotional part of me is having a hard time coming to terms with it all. I am hoping to have a 'natural' miscarriage before Monday. I'm taking a bunch of vitamin c. I just find it really difficult to face.

I'm a wreck and can't talk to anyone.      

Sorry for the long post.

Quoting CuriozMama:" I have so many feelings inside that it seems I can't share with anyone. I'm hoping this is a safe place. ... [snip!] ... c. I just find it really difficult to face. I'm a wreck and can't talk to anyone.       Sorry for the long post. "

You can PM me.

Make sure you think very long and hard about this. If it is what you feel is best for you and your family then you are woman so that means you have the strength to deal with it.

But if this is not something you really want but feel you should do it because your mom or money or someone other than your self wants it then I think you need to really think about how you will deal with your feelings after.

For a lot of women it is very hard to deal with the feelings after and they end up feeling like the emotional aftermath is worse than the stress the baby would have brought.

I don't know you and your whole situation but sounds like you might feel a little bit of pressure to do this. Just make sure it is your decision and yours alone because you are the only one who has to live with how you feel after

My story is on here I think on the top of this page of the one before if you are interested.

I wish you the very very best

Quoting CuriozMama:" I have so many feelings inside that it seems I can't share with anyone. I'm hoping this is a safe place. ... [snip!] ... c. I just find it really difficult to face. I'm a wreck and can't talk to anyone.       Sorry for the long post. "

oh mama. I am so sorry you are going through this inner conflict. I am probably too late in my post, but please remember that whatever decision you make, needs to be YOUR decision and not your mom's, even if she is the one paying all your bills. It is something that YOU will have to live with (as you know). That is such a tough place to be in and I hope you are able to find peace with whatever decision you ended up making. *hugs*

I feel horrible for leaving so long, a lot went on and still is... health and mentally wise. I am back though, returning slowly. Thank you all for such amazing support on this thread while I have been gone!

Dani! Huge hugs to you! xx