re: Inside The Abortion Clinic

Where to begin? All i know is i need advice help anything to help me make a good decsion. Im going to start with im 22 with two beautiful kids that i love to death. Right now im pregnant 8 weeks, last week i found out my supposedly boyfriend and father to my daughter has been cheating on me the whole time, he has two other females pregnant as of rite now both due this year. Im devastated lost and hurt. That would put him at five kids in less than two yrs.   Im really against abortion but i cant see me bringing another child into this world specially into this circumstance.

Quoting Jessic@ G:" Where to begin? All i know is i need advice help anything to help me make a good decsion. Im going to ... [snip!] ... yrs.   Im really against abortion but i cant see me bringing another child into this world specially into this circumstance."

I'm so sorry you have to go threw this (I was also in the same boat just a few weeks ago)
You need to do whatever you think is best in your heart, if bringing another baby into this world will make your life much harder and would make things harder for you and your kids I would chose not to go threw with the pregnancy. The way I look at it was I did it, its not in vain I will now accomplished everything I wanted to do just for the babe that was once inside me. It much harder to make this choice once alrdy having babies. If you need someone to talk to feel free to email me or pt me. I've been having a hard time with it all too, so I understand compleatly where you are at right now.

Quoting Jessic@ G:" Where to begin? All i know is i need advice help anything to help me make a good decsion. Im going to ... [snip!] ... yrs.   Im really against abortion but i cant see me bringing another child into this world specially into this circumstance."

I would try to look at the situation WITHOUT him in the picture and decide if having the child is something YOU want.

i posted my story in a separate post...
but i finally decided to have an abortion 2 days ago...
and im feeling so sad  
i hope this feeling goes away, because i cant imagine carrying this guilt and regret forever..
i feel so bad...i hate this

Quoting supermommy☠:" i posted my story in a separate post... but i finally decided to have an abortion 2 days ago... and im ... [snip!] ...   i hope this feeling goes away, because i cant imagine carrying this guilt and regret forever.. i feel so bad...i hate this"

Time will make it better, I hope you feel better soon. I'm just starting to feel ok its been almost a month..

i hear you totally i had one and one was enough for me i feel bad to this day about getting one i know i wasn't supposed to do it but was really confused at the time and scared even though i had two kids already then i'm on my fourth child and i promised God and myself that i would never do something horroific like that again i really regret doing that i feel bad just thinking about it God bless you everyone has to learn from theur mistakes it's life.

Quoting Jessic@ G:" Where to begin? All i know is i need advice help anything to help me make a good decsion. Im going to ... [snip!] ... yrs.   Im really against abortion but i cant see me bringing another child into this world specially into this circumstance."

I'm so sorry!   I can't even imagine how awful that must feel like. My fiance cheated on me before I got pregnant, but I don't know how it would feel to know he cheated and knocked other girls up. That's so awful   I hope you find some peace and that you can heal.

Thank you for sharing your story. I have never had an abortion, I've always been against it, but your story actually gave me more reason other than I just feel it's morally wrong. I am so sorry for what you had to go through, and I hope girls learn something from it.
You are a very strong woman to have posted your story for others to learn from, and relate to.

I read almost all of your stories and they all made me sad :/

I'm getting an abortion this coming Wednesday and am going back and worth between feeling sad/numb.

Quoting Jacquie Gallo:" I read almost all of your stories and they all made me sad :/ I'm getting an abortion this coming Wednesday and am going back and worth between feeling sad/numb."

make sure you are 110% SURE its what you want to do..  

Quoting Jacquie Gallo:" I read almost all of your stories and they all made me sad :/ I'm getting an abortion this coming Wednesday and am going back and worth between feeling sad/numb."

I think thats a really normal thing to feel, I felt that way too. I feel some longing now, but I know it right choice.

Well, I got home from my abortion nearly 2 hours ago.

The clinic was this tiny little place. It didn't even really look like a clinic from the outside. We had to wait outside for 20 minutes because we got there too early. There were no protestors or anything like that. There was no waiting room full of people. I was the first one there for the day and they saw me within 5 minutes of getting there. They had no counselor to talk to you before the procedure. They took a urine sample, weighed me, and pricked my finger for some blood before I went to one room where I had to fill out papers and a nurse explained some things/asked some questions and gave me my prescriptions - although they didn't ask me anything about any kind of birth control. Maybe they'll do that at my followup? I don't know.

I changed into the open-back gown and the nurse came back and put another gown on me backwards to cover me. A overweight, older man came and got me and lead me to a different room, where I laid down and put my feet in the stirrups. There was a little bit of small talk, like him saying the spelling of my name was interesting, and asking me how tall I am (I get that a lot, since I'm 4'10").

After originally saying I didn't want to look at the ultrasound, I changed my mind and looked at the last minute, although I couldn't really see anything. I'm 7 weeks, so it was too early to hear a heartbeat or anything anyway. I felt numb all throughout this, until they stuck my IV in. My chest felt a little heavy, and the last thing I remember was asking the doctor if breathing was supposed to feel weird - I was out before he answered though.

When I was woken up, my nurse was friendly. I was allowed some time to recover a little, although I still felt really strange when she handed me the bag with my clothing in it and walked me to the bathroom. I nearly fell asleep again on the toilet while I was putting my shoes back on. I was given a cup of soda, then waited for a couple minutes while they told my fiance to pull around with the car. And that was it. My fiance and I stopped and got some food at Chick-fil-A, although everything tasted funny and it was sort of hard to swallow.

I'm still feeling emotionally numb, and I'm waiting for it to hit me, but it hasn't yet. I sort of put a wall up once I realized the day of my abortion was getting closer, and I still don't feel much. I'm sure I will though :/ When I got home, I kissed my 7 month old son, and my first thought was that I was so glad that I hadn't aborted him when everyone pressured me to. He truly is the best thing that's happened to me, and I can't imagine my life without him.

I also thought of a Chinese movie I saw awhile ago where a lady went to a different dimension where she met a little girl. The little girl said she didn't have a name, so the lady named her. Later on, it's revealed that the little girl was her daughter that she aborted like 8 years ago. The lady said she wanted to take her daughter with her when she was being pulled back to her dimension, but the little girl said she couldn't :/ I've been thinking of that since I got home...who this baby would have been.

Although my experience wasn't as bad as some of you ladies, I don't ever want to go through that again. Abortion is NOT something that I ever wanted to go through, and I don't want a repeat experience. I will be more careful with protection from now on.

As for cramping and bleeding, I'm only having light cramping and very light bleeding so far.

Thank you for letting me share my experience.

Quoting Jacquie Gallo:" Well, I got home from my abortion nearly 2 hours ago. The clinic was this tiny little place. It didn't ... [snip!] ... and bleeding, I'm only having light cramping and very light bleeding so far. Thank you for letting me share my experience."

thank you for sharing your experience.
hope everything goes ok with recovery.
hugs

i can completely understand this whole story. when i was 17 i got pregnant, and for the simple fact that i thought i wasnt ready i had an abortion without really thinking about it. that day i felt horrible, after i had that procedure done, i went home and went straight to bed, i stayed there for about 3 days before i actually got up and started livng my life again, of course i still felt horrible about it, i just hid my feelings about it. i was so ashamed i told everyone (except my mom and my bf at the time) that i had a miscarriage. sadly everyone believed me. i would go into stores and avoid the baby section, i wouldnt like being around my nieces and nephews, i just felt so bad. im 19 now and im 15 weeks pregnant, when i found out, abortion didnt even cross my mind, i may not be as ready as i need to be. but i know i can do it and raise this baby the right way. i dont need to take the easy way out of anything