Going on child #2 and scared - anyone relate?

Here is the situation at hand... I have a daughter who is 2. Before I found out I was pregnant my life was busy - I was 22 years and living life as a young person... After I had my daughter... my life changed SO much... There is nothing better in this world for me then her... I live each moment of each day - happy - because of this little, cute, adorable little girl...

So... How will I be with two kids... I worry about splitting up time between them and giving them both attention... If I have so much love for my daughter - how will I feel with the next child ... I mean I have no doubt about loving this one... but to start all over with another child - scares me...

Can anyone relate?

I can relate with you 100%. My son will be 2 in January and I am due with #2 in April. I can't imagine being able to love another one just as much as the first. I know I will though. I too worry about spending equal time with both kids. I don't want my son to feel left out. He has had all of our attention for 2 years!

I understand how you feel. I had my first little girl last December, and then found out the first part of February that I was pregnant. I was devastated! I felt like I was being unfair to my daughter, and for the first couple of months it was really hard to accept that another one WAS coming whether I liked it or not.

My daughter isn't even 11 mths old yet and I am being induced tonight!! I am quietly freaking out inside!! I had a extremely rough pregnancy the first time, and this second one has been different but worse in many ways. I have been on bedrest for weeks, and feel like I have missed so much time with my little baby already because of the pregnancy. And in a couple of days I will be bringing home another baby. I do want this baby, but I am not ready for it on so many levels! I just want to cry thinking about all the things I have wanted to do with my daughter before her little sister was born, and I haven't been able to do hardly anything. I am really scared about having another baby, and it's not that I don't feel like I will love her. I just wish I had more time with my first before having my second. One positive side is that my first is still so small she really doesn't know what it's like to just have Mom to herself, so splitting time between the two won't be as tramatic for her. I am really scared about the first couple of weeks and getting into a normal schedule again, but hopefully things will go smoothly and I am just freaking out for no reason.

oh... I agree with both of you so much... Sometimes when I am out shopping - I watch the moms with 2 kids... I sometimes wonder how they do it... and how I will be in those situations... It scares me and makes me laugh at the same time...

I also am afraid of spending equal time with each child... Obviously the second child will not experience me all alone like my daughter lillian... but how will she react to sharing mommy - I have heard some bad stories relating to kids acting out... I sure hope not... I try to talk to her about having another baby around ... but she really doesn't understand and she really doesn't want to talk about it... She likes to tell me that there is not a baby in my belly - once she told me it was a sheep... not a baby and I could not convince her otherwise... Kids are funny!

I just want to reassure you that this is TOTALLY a normal feeling. I have two children and they are 12 yrs and 8 yrs and I was SO scared of this BUT all I can tell you is that there is nothing to worry about, everything works out. It an adjustment but a total blessing. I think all children go through some sort of adjustment period depending on how old they are and how much you have prepared them My son wet the bed for a couple of weeks when we brought his lil sissy home and he was already potty trained. It passed and we just reassured him alot. Dont worry about your time ....you just do it...it works out, trust me. Good luck...