Ughhhh wtf! [vent]

So my BD stepmom has been running her mouth, she was telling my BD that she feels sorry for our son cause we are his parents and that we dont take care of him right. She said all of this because me and my BD had a disagreement, we werent even arguing and i dont see how that is herr business anyways.

But now she doesnt want me and the baby there during the day at least until she gets home from work and thats at like 5 and 6 at night.
Well the thing is i pick up my BD every morning because they want him up and out early to try to get a job but dont provide him with a car to look for work so i take him to look for work and obviously the baby is with me so we run around until the affternoon well by then the baby just wants to be home and is sick of the carseat and he needs his bath and to calm down and relax brefore bed.

So now they are getting pissed at me for not bringing him over well sorry that i dont want to wait untill late in the evening and have my baby out until 10 at night, its fucking dumb you want me there to get my BD early in the morning but want me out late so you can see the baby. Ummm no it isnt going to work that way.

Well i took the baby to see them today and my BD carried the baby back to his dad cause he was in his room and he stared running his mouth about how i never bring the baby over and how i never put the baby in the clothes he bought and that he wanted the baby to come over yesterday but i didnt bring him, well he didnt tell me he wanted the baby to come over maybe he should ask me and then something could happen but not just expect me to know you want MY SON to come over. My BD parents are acting like adriel is their child and im getting mad because they are trying to make me out into this terrible parent and im the furthest away from that.


I NEED ADVICE. Sheould i be straight up with them and tell them how it is and risk me never having a good relationship with my in laws or just sugar coat it till i blow up on them?

Quoting Katie[marie]:“ So my BD stepmom has been running her mouth, she was telling my BD that she feels sorry for our son cause ... [snip!] ... tell them how it is and risk me never having a good relationship with my in laws or just sugar coat it till i blow up on them?”

Im in the same boat. My fiances mom HATES MY GUTS. I wouldn't hold it in because when you do finally explode you might say LOADS of things taht could make it worse. Sit her down and just be straight with her.

I would talk to them

Quoting Brittney{3 weeks left!}:“ Im in the same boat. My fiances mom HATES MY GUTS. I wouldn't hold it in because when you do finally ... [snip!] ... when you do finally explode you might say LOADS of things taht could make it worse. Sit her down and just be straight with her.”

Its like they dont want us there but they bitch that i dont take the baby over well sorry i dont just drop my kid off on other people i have no reason that i would need him watched and im his mom so why cant i just take care of my son ya know

Your never gonna please your in-laws thats just the way it is. In their eyes almost everything you will do is wrong.

At least in most relationships.

Quoting Katie[marie]:“ Its like they dont want us there but they bitch that i dont take the baby over well sorry i dont just ... [snip!] ... on other people i have no reason that i would need him watched and im his mom so why cant i just take care of my son ya know”

yup. SHe keeps telling me 'Just remember i AM her grand mother.." and im like WELL CONGRATS!! IM HER FREAKING MOM!!!! I haven't even had mine yet and she is telling me when i can and can't drop her off and now she is doing this whole Woe is me CRAP and is telling EVERYONE SHE KNOWS that im not even going to let her see my daughter ever! Im like WTF!?!?!?! GRRR in laws are so stressful!!!

Quoting Mommamia0207:“ Your never gonna please your in-laws thats just the way it is. In their eyes almost everything you will do is wrong. At least in most relationships.”

not mine I love my MIL, we get along really well and tony's dad is only in America for a few months out of the year usually summer time and even though he doesn't speak much English his awesome as well

Quoting jessika g:“ not mine I love my MIL, we get along really well and tony's dad is only in America for a few months ... [snip!] ... America for a few months out of the year usually summer time and even though he doesn't speak much English his awesome as well”

I did say in most relationships. Consider yourself lucky


Sometimes in-laws are good, but not always or even for most people.

Quoting Mommamia0207:“ I did say in most relationships. Consider yourself lucky Sometimes in-laws are good, but not always or even for most people.”

I know that's why I said mine was good...

Quoting Katie[marie]:“ So my BD stepmom has been running her mouth, she was telling my BD that she feels sorry for our son cause ... [snip!] ... tell them how it is and risk me never having a good relationship with my in laws or just sugar coat it till i blow up on them?”

Definitely say something!