re: **Drug and alcohol abuse support thread**

Quoting sταrry skies:" To decide to have children with an addict. I'm struggling with the decision."

Am I allowed to ask questions?

<blockquote><b>Quoting sταrry skies:</b>" Am I allowed to ask questions?"</blockquote>




Yeah, of course, lol...

Quoting S U Z I E:" <blockquote><b>Quoting sταrry skies:</b>" Am I allowed to ask questions?"</blockquote> Yeah, of course, lol..."

No one responded so I wasn't sure.

<blockquote><b>Quoting sταrry skies:</b>" No one responded so I wasn't sure."</blockquote>




Lol... Sorry, I've been studying for a.huge.final! When I got pregnant, I wasn't an addict yet an d apparently he was but I had no idea. if I was in a relationship with an addict and I knew about it I would definitely not have a child with them until at least 6 months after they had received treatment!!

I need some advice. Please don't take this like I'm against methadone. Too each their own but my husband is still on it. Its been 8 months and he is only on 50mgs and has been the whole time. His counsoler at the clinic said that he could start his taper in august but changed his mind then said November. My husband gets 3 days of take homes a week because he has passed all the piss tests.

we live in different places because he uses air ride which takes people to doctors and other health stuff because we can't afford the gas on a 45 minute trip to the clinic one way. Our newest will be here end of February to middle march. I'm afraid I'm going to be doing it on my own again. With our son he was to busy being a reclusive hermit and junkie while I was being a mother and junkie.

I have 8 months clean. I used naltrexone for 1 month then got pregnant and went off of it and stayed clean. I told him it is time to start getting off the smurf before he becomes a lifer which I know the clinic won't mind cuz most people there are. So basically what should I do? Just wait or put my foot down

Quoting Moody Momma:" I need some advice. Please don't take this like I'm against methadone. Too each their own but my husband ... [snip!] ... which I know the clinic won't mind cuz most people there are. So basically what should I do? Just wait or put my foot down"

I think he should be able to start weaning off Methadone by now...

I was the ultimate party girl. I would binge drink constantly and would do about any drug I could get my hands on. Coke & Weed were my fav though. I got clean in September of this year and was so proud of myself.
Just 2 days ago I had 2 glasses of wine and smoked pot. I'm 9 wks/5 days pregnant.
I have never been SO unbelievably ashamed in my entire life. I'm already being the mother I said I would never be.
I'm getting on the right track again but I've never been so depressed in my life. I was irresponsible and my baby isn't even here yet.

Quoting erinbri:" I was the ultimate party girl. I would binge drink constantly and would do about any drug I could get ... [snip!] ... on the right track again but I've never been so depressed in my life. I was irresponsible and my baby isn't even here yet."

first of all you did the right thing by telling someone and second there is a difference between falling and getting right back up and falling and staying down. I used heroin when I was pregnant with my boys. At that point I was scared of telling people that I needed help so I kept using. My first son passed away from downs syndrome at 32 weeks. Until we found out it was downs I truly thought I had killed him. That added fuel to my addiction fire. When I got pregnant with my second I cut way down but couldn't stop. He came out completely healthy but still there's not a day that goes by I don't think about what could have happened. He will be 4 in April. I celebrated 9 months clean on February 1st. I wasn't a great mom to him. I made sure he was fed, clean and healthy but I wasn't emotionally there for him. It finally hit me when I got home from rehab and he told my parents he didn't have a mommy anymore. He had just turned 3 at the time. It was heart breaking but we have bonded so much. We are expected a little girl in march. It feels so great to crave things that won't end my life. I wish you the best and also seek help in na or some sort of mental health treatment.

Quoting Moody Momma:" first of all you did the right thing by telling someone and second there is a difference between falling ... [snip!] ... to crave things that won't end my life. I wish you the best and also seek help in na or some sort of mental health treatment."

You're truly an inspiration. Congrats to you for sure!
I felt like this was the only place I could go to tell anyone. My other friends do things like that and say stuff like "oh your kid will come out fine, it's no big deal. Just relax." Not cool. I thank God for this website, truly.
I'm so scared they will drug test me at my next OB appointment. I've heard some places they do it every single visit.
Just not where I had expected to be emotionally or in my sobriety at this point. It's disappointing  

Any women pregnant on Methadone or have had babies on Methadone? I'm almost 7 weeks, on 100mg daily. They don't ween you or lower you due to risk of miscarriage, but I'm honestly terrified what to expect differently with this pregnancy and child. Feel free to PM me if you do not want to discuss it publicly.

Quoting Moody Momma:" I need some advice. Please don't take this like I'm against methadone. Too each their own but my husband ... [snip!] ... which I know the clinic won't mind cuz most people there are. So basically what should I do? Just wait or put my foot down"

Tough call. Everyone is different and needs it for different times. I have permanent injuries from a car accident and it is the only thing that has worked for me in my 10+ years of pain and addiction. I DID NOT plan on becoming pregnant on it but that's just what happened. Try and look at it this way, would you rather have him there clean sometimes or out getting high all the time? There really is no magical answer but I hope the two of you can work something out so you'll both be happy sober and healthy and can raise your children together

Could anyone help me with benzo withdrawal ( xanax and valium)? If so please let me know, so I can explain the situation.

Quoting Sherri + 3:" Could anyone help me with benzo withdrawal ( xanax and valium)? If so please let me know, so I can explain the situation."

Yes! You NEED to be in the hospital, you can die from Benzo withdrawal unsupervised

Quoting J WOWW:" Yes! You NEED to be in the hospital, you can die from Benzo withdrawal unsupervised"

No, I don't need the hospital. I have not been on it long enough or at strong enough doses for that. I made an appointment with my Doc for this afternoon to go back on Xanax and taper off of it slowly. He had cut me off the Xanax and gave me Valium after about a month or two. I am having a lot of withdrawal symptoms but nothing too serious. Some nausea, headache, dizziness. Things like that.
Thank you for your answer though. I should have never taken this crap to begin with.

Quoting ♥crazybitch:" Hi my name is Emily and I believe my ex is still an addict, he may not be currently using, but he has ... [snip!] ... be a happy family again, how do I just get him out of my head and STOP... I just wanna be happy without him! He's BD by the way"

CODA meetings. Co-depenency