re: **Drug and alcohol abuse support thread**

I need some non judgementle advise... please anyone on here if you can help or even just talk.... it's about my SO and his drug usage/money spending......

Quoting BigG{30+}:" Hi ladies, don't know if anyone follows this anymore, but I need help. I am an alcoholic. My marriage ... [snip!] ... has helped you. Here are my posts: http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2368462.html http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2366681.html"

I am picking up my 6month chip Friday. I didn't go to rehab. I went to an AA meeting and have been going at least 5-6x's a week for the past 6 months.
I love my meetings and the fellowship. My life is so much better, clearer , brighter..Recovery is not an easy task but if you are willing to work a program I know it will work for you too.
I am finally living a life I deserve and want.
But AGAIN...if you are not willing, wait until you are. This smurf is WORK. A lifetime dedication.

btw, I went into recovery while managing a bar. It was a bitch, hard and cruel at first. White knuckled it everyday but it was all worth it. I now do not even have a desire to drink. If I can be around alcohol 24/7 and still remain sober, you can get sober...
If you need any advice, I am here to share my experience, strength and hope. All I can tel you is what worked for me.

Quoting Captain Tiny Tits....:" I am picking up my 6month chip Friday. I didn't go to rehab. I went to an AA meeting and have been ... [snip!] ... sober... If you need any advice, I am here to share my experience, strength and hope. All I can tel you is what worked for me."

Wow, thank you so much for sharing. It's really rough. I know everyone says I have to do it for myself and not for anyone else, but I am still at the point of just doing it for my husband. I KNOW I will feel better and it's best for me, but I don't know if I'm there yet, if you know what I mean. I haven't been to a meeting yet, so I guess we'll see how it goes. Again, thank you.

Quoting B-Baby:" I need some non judgementle advise... please anyone on here if you can help or even just talk.... it's about my SO and his drug usage/money spending......"

what kind of advice? Not only was I an addict but my husband was one also.

Quoting BigG{30+}:" Wow, thank you so much for sharing. It's really rough. I know everyone says I have to do it for myself ... [snip!] ... I'm there yet, if you know what I mean. I haven't been to a meeting yet, so I guess we'll see how it goes. Again, thank you. "

you will know when the time is right. And like I stated before, you will have to be willing.... willing to work a program. It's really just about re-programming your thought process, believing, having faith in something greater than yourself. And it doesn't have to be God. It can be anything...
I was completely hopeless, pretty much dead. Almost lost everything. My bottom had become bottomless.... I had to get help..for myself, my daughter and my family. I had to figure out a way to live life again... My family is in Germany and medication was out of the question... And so I found AA. When I went into recovery I was managing a bar. I stayed at that bar for 5 months.
It was smurfing hard but I white knuckled it and made my sobriety my priority. It came before my job, my daughter, my finances..everything.

And here I am. Picking up my yellow chip Friday. It really does work when you work it..
You will figure it out. It is about your path..Your life.. Not anyone elses... And your family benefits from it...
Let me know if you have any questions. I'm here.  

drug and alcohal is like a medicene but some time its overdose effect the health...

<blockquote><b>Quoting urwithiqbal03:</b>" drug and alcohal is like a medicene but some time its overdose effect the health..."</blockquote>




Drugs and alcohol are not like medicine! Medicine is something you take to make you better when you're sick, drugs and alcohol make and KEEP you sick!!

Quoting urwithiqbal03:" drug and alcohal is like a medicene but some time its overdose effect the health..."

sounds like you need a dose of some medicine. and a spell check

Quoting Captain Tiny Tits....:" you will know when the time is right. And like I stated before, you will have to be willing.... willing ... [snip!] ... path..Your life.. Not anyone elses... And your family benefits from it... Let me know if you have any questions. I'm here.  "

Well I went to my first meeting on Thursday. It was ok. It was a discussion about Step 3, which was kind of weird for me. I am not sure AA is for me, but I will go to a few more meetings to see if I like any of them. I know it's not for everyone, but I promised my husband to try AA first. It is nice to know it's there and that there are other people out there with similar issues, but it just doesn't seem to feel like a good fit for me.

Quoting BigG{30+}:" Well I went to my first meeting on Thursday. It was ok. It was a discussion about Step 3, which was kind ... [snip!] ... there and that there are other people out there with similar issues, but it just doesn't seem to feel like a good fit for me. "

Congrats on going to your first meeting.   
I'm sure you felt out of place.
If you tell them you are new they will do a first step meeting. That's when you really get to hear that you are not alone.
I cried my first meeting. I raised my hand and told them that I was new and thats when everyone opened up about how they came to AA..told their stories of their bottoms.. It was real and sincere. I couldn't believe that what I was going through, many have gone through. I saw many miracles in that room....
I went to different meetings until I found the one I thought was best for me, where I felt the most comfortable. It ended up being the first one I went to.
The one I go to they call the "rockstar" meeting.
One of the main characters from Walking Dead and True Blood attend that meeting as well...Yummmm!!
There are also women only meetings that are awesome.
There is no shame to these meetings. They have all been there and done that.
That's the awesome part about it. If you can open up and be honest, help will come. These people really do care about your sobriety and life. They do not want you to die..

Quoting BigG{30+}:" Well I went to my first meeting on Thursday. It was ok. It was a discussion about Step 3, which was kind ... [snip!] ... there and that there are other people out there with similar issues, but it just doesn't seem to feel like a good fit for me. "

Congrats! Don't be afraid to stand up and talk. You will find that the people know exactly what you are going thru. Also if you don't have one, get an AA book. Also tell you husband that they have meetings for family members called Al Anon meetings. That is where family members go and share their experiecnes. My mom went to some and she really learned alot. Another thing is to find out who is sponsoring. Having a sponsor will help a lot! Good luck!

Thanks so much ladies. It really was weird and I was so scared I couldn't say anything. I think they could tell it was my first meeting since I was terrified. I am trying to find some others to go to, but it's hard around here because there aren't all that many I can get to. Again, I really appreciate it. I have the books and I have also downloaded the app which is nice to have.

Quoting BigG{30+}:" Thanks so much ladies. It really was weird and I was so scared I couldn't say anything. I think they ... [snip!] ... many I can get to. Again, I really appreciate it. I have the books and I have also downloaded the app which is nice to have. "

The books without meetings and a sponsor really won't help.
There is so much more to it then just the literature.

Quoting Captain Tiny Tits....:" The books without meetings and a sponsor really won't help. There is so much more to it then just the literature."

Oh, I know that. I'm just still not sure it's for me. I know it's a hard thing and I am really trying. My family and my life is so much more important. But, I have to believe in it and I'm not sure I do yet. I am going to go to more meetings. My friend told me it can take a few to find the right fit.

Quoting BigG{30+}:" Oh, I know that. I'm just still not sure it's for me. I know it's a hard thing and I am really trying. ... [snip!] ... in it and I'm not sure I do yet. I am going to go to more meetings. My friend told me it can take a few to find the right fit. "

Believe in your self.... try to have an open mind about it. =)