re: **Drug and alcohol abuse support thread**

wow i cant believe i found this page i love it well here is my story . I started using pain meds and then i went to heroin .when i found out i was prego with my first child i wanted to stop so bad but i couldnt and i was scared to ask for help because i was scared they were going to take my child well thank god she came out safe but when she was a year old my house got radied for drugs well it was out there now i was on the news and in the paper my mom took my lil girl cause i thought i was going to jail well i got lucky cause they put me on drug court and got me into a doctor to help me detox .I have been doing great and they saved my life i now have my lil girl back home and im having another lil girl at the end of oct . I have been clean now sence may 21 2009

I just want someone to talk to about a loved one who is an addict. And like the front page said no drama and please no judgement but I already lost one marriage to drugs I cant lose this one. I met him when I was 13 my parents didnt like him much and so we moved away (military family) we found each other again 11years later on facebook.

but i am 35 weeks and i dont know if he is lieing, or if he is being truthful im tired of crying and i dont know anywhere else to turn that wont judge me. we have 6 kids right now. 2 are mine, 2 are his, 1 is his ex's because she was on drugs and we have one 11 month old together.

I just dont get it. im tired of being stressed out about this. I just need someone to talk to that is going through the same thing

Quoting Sheena Trusty:" I just want someone to talk to about a loved one who is an addict. And like the front page said no drama ... [snip!] ... dont get it. im tired of being stressed out about this. I just need someone to talk to that is going through the same thing "

if you don't mind me asking what is he addicted to or what do you think he is? Is he very secretive or is money or valuables missing?

Quoting Moody Momma:" if you don't mind me asking what is he addicted to or what do you think he is? Is he very secretive or is money or valuables missing? "

We never have money he is always oweing people money. he sold his instruments and its mostly pills like roxy's.

iS ANYBODY here on methadone>?

I was but now im on Subutex

Quoting nicole dailey:" I was but now im on Subutex"

how long on methadone and did you swith to subutex from m done?because of pregnancy?how is it working do you notice any diffrences/

I was on methadone for a lil over a year and yes when i found i was prego i swiched cause its safer on the baby they see 80% less withdraw on the subutex

This is awesome! i totally would have posted my isses here befor just throwing it out there and getting comptley bashed for it a few weeks ago!

If someone hasnt walked in ours shoes they will never understand .sorry they did that to you

Hi ladies, don't know if anyone follows this anymore, but I need help. I am an alcoholic. My marriage is suffering. You can see my last few posts to see what is going on. I just need to get it out that I am going to get help and also ask what has helped you.

Here are my posts:
http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2368462.html
http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2366681.html

Quoting BigG{30+}:" Hi ladies, don't know if anyone follows this anymore, but I need help. I am an alcoholic. My marriage ... [snip!] ... has helped you. Here are my posts: http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2368462.html http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2366681.html"

first off congrats on wanting help. I just got passed my 6 months clean. Go to a rehab. I have seen alcoholics detox on their own and it never ends good. Rehab is hard but its like that for a reason. Good luck

<blockquote><b>Quoting Moody Momma:</b>" first off congrats on wanting help. I just got passed my 6 months clean. Go to a rehab. I have seen ... [snip!] ... I have seen alcoholics detox on their own and it never ends good. Rehab is hard but its like that for a reason. Good luck"</blockquote>



Thank you for answering. What kind of rehab did you do? Inpatient? I don't need to detox because I honestly don't drink that much or even everyday, it's just that I keep falling back into old habits of thinking I can have one or two, then it's more, then it gets worse, then I stop again for a while. It makes my depression keep cycling and I just need to stop. I've looked at AA but that doesn't seem like a good fit for me. I am meeting with a friend tomorrow who has been sober for 2.5 years now so I will get some insight from her too. Thank you again.

Quoting BigG{30+}:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Moody Momma:</b>" first off congrats on wanting help. I just ... [snip!] ... meeting with a friend tomorrow who has been sober for 2.5 years now so I will get some insight from her too. Thank you again."

I have done the inpatient and outpatient. I found that going and staying was best. It took me 4 times but it finally worked. Maybe try outpatient and get some counsoling if you aren't in any yet. You litterally have to retrain your brain and its not an over night thing. Hell I have 6 months and still think that I could just do it one more time. And if I wasn't pregnant that would probably be what would happen. Its such a tricky subject. Maybe see if your friend will be your sponsor. Even if you don't go to AA its good to have the support. I didn't go to NA because I don't like anyone of the groups around here. But I wish you luck! If you truly but your mind to it you can do it!

Quoting BigG{30+}:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Moody Momma:</b>" first off congrats on wanting help. I just ... [snip!] ... meeting with a friend tomorrow who has been sober for 2.5 years now so I will get some insight from her too. Thank you again."

Hello!! I'm the OP of this thread, very nice to meet you! I BEGGED Mara to make this a sticky because I just knew there were addicts who were going through the same thing I was and unfortunately, SOME BG mamas are extremely judgemental when it comes to addicts and addiction, especially if you are pregnant or in a relationship with an addict... (you should leave, if you don't you're stupid...  ) Unless you've been there, you don't know smurf!
To answer your question though, I have been to AA, CA, and NA, as I'm an addict in general and a poly-substance abuser...I found the people (at least here in MY city...) at AA to be rather judgemental of each other, especially the older members to the younger members. I've heard some of the older men saying things to younger girls like, "you don't even know what alcoholism is! I've drunk more in a day than you could have possibly ever drank in your whole (young) lifetime..." "you're just a baby, you're just barely off the breast.."   I found CA to be focused ONLY on the topic of cocaine instead of focusing on the addiction that goes along with it's use. Almost as if cocaine didn't exist, they wouldn't be addicts.   On the other hand, the support I've received at NA is unlike ANY other support I've ever experienced! They really focus on the disease of addiction in general and the toll it takes on your body, your mental state, your family/friends and your life as a whole! It's also the only group I've seen where addicts of all kinds are met with open, understanding and welcoming arms. We have people with eating disorders, gambling addictions, alcoholism, etc. They don't ask why you're there or what your addiction is, only "what you want to do about your problem and how we can help" (quoted from their reading) They believe that addiction is addiction, is addiction, the only difference is the poison you pick. ALL addicts experience the same things, regardless of WHAT they're addicted to. I would say to at least give it a shot and see if it can help you...For me, it was the only thing that actually helped me to get clean and sober... I didn't have the option (either financially or time-wise) to go to an inpatient rehab. If you have that as an option to you, that would be my #1 suggestion. If not, NA is the next best thing! The emotional connection that the group has with each other is unlike anything I've ever seen. They are closer than friends, they are a family! When I relapsed, they welcomed me right back, without judgement! Hopefully that was helpful to you or someone else here...Welcome and keep us updated!!
~ Suzie ~