re: **Drug and alcohol abuse support thread**

Awe, thanks guys!! 

Quoting shes*almost*one!:“ hahahah. cute. my kid would try to eat her, thats her favorite food. how's she doing?”

haha. she's good. I have her every weekend and we go to see her like every other day. Still going to NA meetings everyday. I've always been against them, but man they rock. I love my meetings. AAAAND I start my job at Carters today!  

I dont write here often, but Im almost a year and half clean from coke..my mom just bought me this ring..

it says "god grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change"
i love it.

Quoting Shanley [BGFM]:“ haha. she's good. I have her every weekend and we go to see her like every other day. Still going to ... [snip!] ... everyday. I've always been against them, but man they rock. I love my meetings. AAAAND I start my job at Carters today!  ”

carters?? sweet. hook me up with a discount. send me coupons.. lol SOMETHING! i love that store.

thats awesome you see her so often. meetings really are awesome, glad you are liking them. good luck with everything. definitely sounds like you are on teh right path!

I just found this thread.

I'm Charlene  .

My dad is a drinker for 20 years, he is a very abusive drinker.
just what I have been going through the last month has been hell. His drinking has been VERY bad. My mom and him split up in 2001, but he has been living with my mom since 2007, long story.

well in october my mom moved into her own place, I moved into mine, and he moved into his. But his drinking got worse, on October 27th,2009 around 4 pm he called my mom's house saying he is going to blow his brains out on her front steps, but before he does that he is going to blow her brains out and kidnap my sisters. His drinking is getting bad.

We had him admitted to the hospital to be looked at, but he denied any help they was willing to give. A few weeks before he did all this, he put his hands on me because he was so drunk he didn't know his actions.
[ the story ] - I was at his cook out, and I was hungry, I went to take a bite of my food and he pushed me HARD flying me across the room, smacking me hard into the sink. All because his friends had not made it yet and he wanted them to eat. [/end of story].

well, I had to press charges and file for a restraining order on him.

Since October he would come and bang on my door at 3 am and he would bang on my mom's door. For a week now, I have been having to stay at my mom's home to keep her safe ( my daughter & SO ), because her & my sisters are scared. He would threaten to beat down the door. He was NEVER sober.

Last night, he told my mom that he wanted to be admitted to the hospital but had no way there. Even though he has a truck. He was speeding up & down the street almost killing himself. He showed up at my mom's door at 3 am POUNDING THE DOOR DOWN because he was ready to go, my mom said okay whatever, but he in stead wanted to fight. I had to call the police.

He was then arrested.
he wants out so bad, but this is the only way I feel he'll get help and become sober.

my family has been to hell and back with his drinking.
my sisters are scared to go outside because he is/was stalking their house. he's living them messages on their phone saying he's sorry but don't forget him. blah blah blah.

on top of drinking, he was a active drug user, i mean a BAD drug user but he is cleaned up from that. But he just needs to clean up from drinking.

He's tried to kill himself before, but the rope he used was to think and broke. He has tried to kill my mom numerous of times.

We are always trying to help him. but he don't want to help himself, we're putting ourself through so much for someone that does not appreciate it. He does not notice, his friends aren't going to help him and he is fucking up with his family.

We took my daughter a few weeks ago to chuck e cheese, and HE WAS DRUNK =x. It's embarrassing. I wanted to leave. On my daughters first birthday, HIS FIRST grandchild he left to go get drunk on her birthday party =| . Drinking is his family. He would go out from 8 am till 4 or 5 am and DRINK none stop. come home sleep and do it all over again. He would drink Monday thru Sunday. He was NEVER EVER EVER EVER sober.

He would not give my sisters a dollar for lunch at school, but he would go out and buy beer. He just put beer before his own daughters.

I wanted to just give a general statement on what I have been going through, there is so much more it's crazy.

Quoting Turner. ™:“ I just found this thread. I'm Charlene  . My dad is a drinker for 20 years, he is a very abusive drinker. ... [snip!] ... own daughters. I wanted to just give a general statement on what I have been going through, there is so much more it's crazy.”

Hey girl!
I'm sorry about your dad... .
I can honestly tell you that the ONLY reason that I got clean and sober was because my entire family cut me off, and my husband told me he was going to file for divorce, get custody of the kids, and I would have to find somewhere else to stay..... NOTHING else worked.....

Quoting Turner. ™:“ I just found this thread. I'm Charlene  . My dad is a drinker for 20 years, he is a very abusive drinker. ... [snip!] ... own daughters. I wanted to just give a general statement on what I have been going through, there is so much more it's crazy.”

That shit's crazy Charlene. Is he still locked up right now? Im not sure what kind of insurance your dad has, but usually it makes all the difference in the world for treatment. "free bed" treatment is usually just a quick spin dry, sounds like he REALLY needs at least a 60 day residential program. He has to learn to live his life sober. That's not something you can do in a few days. The disease is part of him. While i feel really bad for you and your family, I can relate to him as well. Sure he's a huge crazy asshole, but he's so far into the addiction he cant control himself. It also sounds like he hashuge issues with his family being broken up, he misses you guys and the only way he can show his emotions is psychotic anger. Good luck. You deserve a dad, and your daughter deserves a grandfather. We're all around if you wanna chat.

Quoting Turner. ™:“ I just found this thread. I'm Charlene  . My dad is a drinker for 20 years, he is a very abusive drinker. ... [snip!] ... own daughters. I wanted to just give a general statement on what I have been going through, there is so much more it's crazy.”

I'm so sorry!!!

Ugh.. My ex SO sounds a lot like him  

I still get the "i'm going to kill myself" phone calls...   

How long is he in for? I often wish Josh would get arrested in the hopes he gets the help he needs AND (this might sound mean) but it would be make me feel safe... I haven't felt safe in a LONG time...

OP - Hopefully this will be his wake up call... They say you need to hit "rock bottom" I pray for your families sake that this is his "rock bottom"...

Quoting Turner. ™:“ I just found this thread. I'm Charlene  . My dad is a drinker for 20 years, he is a very abusive drinker. ... [snip!] ... own daughters. I wanted to just give a general statement on what I have been going through, there is so much more it's crazy.”

Oh mama, i'm sorry. Alcohol is a crazy crazy thing. In my eyes the worst drug there is because its so easily available.

My dad's an alcoholic as well he's been sober for 3 years I think.. but it took our family cutting him out and not "saving him" anymore.

I think if you all work together you can get through this and hopefully get him sober. Goodluck.

I'm so fuckin bored  

Quoting RockinItSingleStyle[TSB]:“ Oh mama, i'm sorry. Alcohol is a crazy crazy thing. In my eyes the worst drug there is because its ... [snip!] ... not "saving him" anymore. I think if you all work together you can get through this and hopefully get him sober. Goodluck.”

i totally agree with you. alcohol is the worst "drug" out there. i couldnt even imagine how hard it must be for alcoholics who are in recovery.. you really CANNOT avoid it unless you stay holed up in your house 24 hours a day.. alcohol is everywhere.. you really have to be committed to your sobriety, and have some ridiculously good self control. my grandfather is an alcoholic. he hasnt had a drink in 23 years. im 100% sure i'd fuck up if i went toa party and they had a fre "bar" full of pills and heroin, and liquid percocet.... wow. that would be hard.

Quoting RockinItSingleStyle[TSB]:“ Oh mama, i'm sorry. Alcohol is a crazy crazy thing. In my eyes the worst drug there is because its ... [snip!] ... not "saving him" anymore. I think if you all work together you can get through this and hopefully get him sober. Goodluck.”

That's really the ONLY way to do it!

Quoting shes*almost*one!:“ i totally agree with you. alcohol is the worst "drug" out there. i couldnt even imagine how hard it ... [snip!] ... fuck up if i went toa party and they had a fre "bar" full of pills and heroin, and liquid percocet.... wow. that would be hard.”

In Amsterdam, you can order that shit at the bar...
"Yes, I'd like a Sex on the Beach and 3 lines of Cocaine, please"... "That'll be $25 dollars ma'am..."
I would never survive if it was that easy, lol.....

Quoting Suzie *Diosa Venezolana*:“ Hey girl! I'm sorry about your dad... . I can honestly tell you that the ONLY reason that I got ... [snip!] ... to file for divorce, get custody of the kids, and I would have to find somewhere else to stay..... NOTHING else worked.....”

that didn't work for my dad, being in jail is the only thing that will work for him  .

Quoting shes*almost*one!:“ That shit's crazy Charlene. Is he still locked up right now? Im not sure what kind of insurance your ... [snip!] ... is psychotic anger. Good luck. You deserve a dad, and your daughter deserves a grandfather. We're all around if you wanna chat.”

Yeah, he is still in jail. He'll be in until end of January. He was set with a 15,000 dollar 100 % bond today.

With us being broke up, that's not the issue he has. When he started to drink heavily he was living with my mom.

& thank you.