Ugh.. so stressed over the whole situation..

So we've choosen the name selena melba-jean for our lil girl.. Problem is my mother is so jealous because the middle name is after my husbands deceased mother, Selena is after the singer but because husband has a cousin named selena shes all pissy about it but really I didnt get the name from his cousin.. Well my mom wants me to name my daughter after her but she has a neice named after her so why would I name my daughter after her ? She keeps throwing it up in my face and I just cant stand it anymore.. For christ sakes Im giving her the grand daughter she been wanting !! Why does she have to keep this up ? Im at the point to just change the whole name and not tell anyone till shes born..  

You could always add an extra name in there. Or. Tell her to bite you. I'm not naming my child whatsoever after my mom if it's a girl... She'll be named after my fiance's nanny.

Go for it....it's YOUR baby...

It's your baby! Your mother needs to butt out. First of all, she already has a child that is named after her. Secondly, she should be understanding that your husbands mother is deceased... it seems respectful that you would give your child her name as a middle name since she is now gone. Your mom is acting childish, tell her to grow up!

We're going to tell everyone the sex, but we're not telling anyone the name until the baby is born! Too many people have too many opinions and really it's none of their business. Name your baby what you want. It's your baby!!!

there is no way in hell i am letting anyone but me and my husband have any say in what i name my child. my mom desperately wants me to name her emma or emily, even though i like those names they are really popular right now, so i kindly told her not gonna happen. Then my FIL told me why don't i name her after my MIL or my mom! can you say YEAH RIGHT! my way out of that is to say well in the jewish culture you name after the dead not the living... and i don't want to do that either!

She should be a bit more understanding about it. My sons middle name is my fiancees deceased fathers name. Although my dad was hopefull that at least one of his grandsons would have his name (my sister named her son after my mom)
in the end he understood.