His Ex passed away?
posted 12th Dec '08
Well, I've been with my fiance for 3 1/2 years now and we recently had a beautiful baby boy who's now 4 months old. Before my fiance and I got together he was with his now ex and they were together for about a year and a half. In that year and ahalf myDfs sister passed awayat the age of 16drunk driving and his ex was by his side. Anyhow, to get the to point,my DFs best friend called him todayto let him knowthat this ex hadbeen killed in a car accident a couple days ago. And now he told me and I don't really know how to act? I asked him if he wanted to talk about it and he said no so I've let it go.....What split them up was that she constantly lied to him and finally cheated on him so I don't know if he really just doesn't want to talk about it b/c he almost doesn't really care..or he's hurt about it...eaither way I'm just a little confused but of course will give him his space..Just thought I'd share...I've never really been in a situation like it so I thought maybe I wasn't the only one or some advice would help..thank ladies
quoteposted 12th Dec '08
My ex husband died in 2006 soon after my now DH deployed and we were only engaged then. He was there for me to talk to when he could be and when he called he didn't ask about it or anything he just let me open up.
All you can do is show support for him, I'm sure he is upset he did spend some amount of his life with her and she was there for him when she needed him. Just support him and he will open up eventually, dont push the issue is all I can say
quoteposted 12th Dec '08
He probably is a little upset since they did have a past. It always sucks to find out someone you know has passed away. Even if you weren't on the best of terms. Don't bother him about it, but if he seems to need to talk or comfort, definately give it. But I'm sure you knew that Just don't bring it up, unless he does. That's what I would do anyway. Sorry I couldn't be more help.
quoteposted 12th Dec '08
Thanks ladies..sorry it took me so long to respond..had to make the baby a bottle hehe..anyhow I appreciate the responses and advice and I'll definitely just support him whether he wants to talk about it or not....Thanks again! =0)
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