pregnant with my 4 baby

Hello all! my frist time here. I jsut needed someone to talk to
Im pregnant with my 4th child I have 3girls 7,4, and 1year
Im so scared my youngest just truned 1yr Im so worryed
about how things are going to go I think my husband hates me
for being prenant again he just wont say it but i can tell just by the way
he acts around me. I told mom and she hates it.
It really dont brother me that Im pregnant again just bothers me how others
treat me now,everyone acts like its a bad thing lol Like they will say stuff like
How are you going to take care of another child lol the same way i take care of my other 3 duh, lol I get so stressed out at times I dont have anyone I can talk to I a house
wife that dose not get out much at all. all i really have is my 3girls,
My husband and I have been together 14yrs But we never talk I mean never
Hes ether workin on his comp game or a sleep. Its almost like hes never here lol
Im glad i found this site if any of you would like to say hi please do so =)
Well thanks for listening.

  Sorry to hear about the negativity...If I were u I would'nt stress urself out. Its not good for u or the baby. No matter what anyone says u r truly blessed to be pregnant with another child. And even though I don't know ur husband or familee personally, Im sure as time goes on and after the baby is born EVERYONE will see things differently. In the mean time, (as hard as it may be) u should focus on urself, ur unborn child and ur kidz.
I am currently a mother of 4 expecting my 5th child...Everytime I was pregnant I get very ill and my mom was not happy at all about my pregnancies...my husband on the other hand would thankfully be happy about it. But, I know how it feels to have other people that mean a lot to u be upset about it or be like..."again?" I would have people say, "when r u not pregnant ?" But, I know that we r blessed with r kidz. Theres so many people out there that can't have children...To me our kidz will be taking care of my husband and I when we get older and if anything was to ever happen to my husband and I (much much further down the line)my kidz will have eachother. Try to look at the future bigger picture. It may seem hard now...but, things will get better. Sorry for the novel...lol But, if u need someone to talk to I'll be glad to lend a listening ear...I'll be checking back periodically.   Until then, Good luck and God Bless.

ShadowAngel.......don't stress, your husband is just dealing with the fact that he has another mouth to feed.There is no excuse for the way he's acting its not like you made the baby all by yourself!!He's acting really imature by shutting you out, but you try to be the one to open the door. Talk to him tell him you understand.......Its going to be hard with 2 babies and 2 toddlers running aroud.......but that there is always room for one more.......Let him know you guys will make do. Good luck and God bless

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I cant talk to my husband he jsut wont listen when i try talking to him about anything he saids im fussing lol so I have gave up. It gets real hard not havein someone to talk to I mean another grown up =) I dont really have a friend just me and my 3 girls.
all i ever do is set here in my house doing nothin I dont drive cause i have bad eyes and cant pass the eye exam.I dont work because well i wanted to stay home with my girls
I wanted to go back to work cause i knew it would help us out with the new baby comin and all. but hubby said no you need to be at home with the kids lol he dont help me at all with gilrs never has he told me that it was my fault that i got pregnant again lol that i should had something done with our last baby. see I feel that a baby is a gift from god and if you are meant to have baby your going to have a baby =) and I just didnt feel ready to have my tubes tied like everyone was trying to make me do when i had my last child lol. and everyone is tellin me now YOU BETTER GET THOSE TUBES TIED THIS TIME LOL.shouldnt that be my choose?
you know when you have your 1 baby everyone is like Oh how wonderful cant wait til it gets here so happy and then u are having you 2 one Ok now everyone is saying get your tubes tied thats all you need lol then oops you are havin your 3 one Oh my you are havin another one and then here is your 4 one OMG not again what are you going to do with another baby how are you going to take care of another baby what was you thinkin I told you you should have tied your tubes lol But its never the daddys fault all the blame is on the woman because she didnt get her tubes tied or she wasnt taking the pill lol...you know in the old days woman had like 14 or more babys lol but now days if u have over 2 theres somehing wroung with u lol...
haha thanks guys for listening GOD BLESS you guys to

i know how you feel about the whole tubes being tied thing... I'm only 20 and i am working on my second baby right now... i actually find out what it is tomorrow and my first child is almost year old...and everyones like WHY didn't you get your tubes tied or why werent you careful... and i keep saying... it takes two to make a baby! blame something on him for once! haha

Men are such assholes!! lol...sorry but they are. I was told I would never have a baby and I will tell ya what Zayla is my little miracle. I am glad I am not married or that I don't have to deal with a man when it comes to her. I can understand being stressed about having another kid but damn he was the one that laid down with you to make it so tell him to chill out. Whatever you do don't let yourself stress over it, it's not worth it. You need to take care of yourself and your kids need you to be strong for them. If hubby doesnt like it or wants to act like a little kid let him, at least when he is away you don't need to hear him being negetive. I wish you the best with everything.

That is sorta how I feel too! I am a housewife and I am always at home too! I just had a little boy in March and I am 17 weeks pregnant now! My husband isnt happy about it at all and I havent told anyone that I am pregnant yet! I am sooo scared that they will treat me like shit! I am sooo scared and I dont know what to do!

Why is it your responsibility? Why are you the one that HAS to have your tubes tied? If your husband doesn't want anymore children he can get a visectomy. I already told my husband that under no circumstances will I have my tubes tied. I'm not going to undergo major surgery when all he has to have is a simple outpatient procedure...and it IS an outpatient procedure. My father had a visectomy....they don't keep them in the hospital....Yeah, it'll hurt him but it'll hurt you too to have your tubes tied and it is major surgery...My husband isn't exactly thrilled at the thought of having a visectomy...but he says as soon as we have our second he's getting it done...lol He knows how I feel about it. You're not the only one responsible here....and if your husband really wants you to get your tubes tied, tell him you'll only do it if he gets a visectomy...fair is fair, right? lol Well, good luck. I think there's nothing wrong with wanting four children. Neither of my parents parents stopped at 3...heh

I know how you feel. I'm pregnant with my third baby and I'm so excited but it's getting to the point that when people ask, "Is this your first one?" I just want to say "None of your business!" Because I know exactly what their reaction will be. Something like this   So I try not to worry about it anymore and say "Nope, this will be my third little blessing." It's tough nowadays cus society has changed so much and it's kinda not "acceptable" to have more than 2 children when not too long ago people would have sooooo many more than 2. So screw everyone who gives you negativity and focus on your children and the one in the oven, cus in the long run, they're the ones that matter (and you of course!).

Do you have yahoo? I do not think that we could be anymore alike except the fact that i have three boys. Everyone is mad except for me and my hubby about this baby, my side of the family is asking how am I going to take care of it? Well hello the same way I do my 3 now. My mom, is really coming around she was very mad in the beginning, I hope your does as well. You know I think you and I could really talk, let me know if you have any instant messaging.

shadowangel wrote: Hello all! my frist time here. I jsut needed someone to talk to
Im pregnant with my 4th child I have 3girls 7,4, and 1year
Im so scared my youngest just truned 1yr Im so worryed
about how things are going to go I think my husband hates me
for being prenant again he just wont say it but i can tell just by the way
he acts around me. I told mom and she hates it.
It really dont brother me that Im pregnant again just bothers me how others
treat me now,everyone acts like its a bad thing lol Like they will say stuff like
How are you going to take care of another child lol the same way i take care of my other 3 duh, lol I get so stressed out at times I dont have anyone I can talk to I a house
wife that dose not get out much at all. all i really have is my 3girls,
My husband and I have been together 14yrs But we never talk I mean never
Hes ether workin on his comp game or a sleep. Its almost like hes never here lol
Im glad i found this site if any of you would like to say hi please do so =)
Well thanks for listening.

I am sorry others didn't take the news so well. I know exactly how you feel. My mother-in-law has said on more than one occassion that us having another baby "is ALL we need!" She thinks we can't afford it, etc., but you know what? Babies are blessings from God, and GOD is not going to put more on us than we can handle. If God didn't want you to have another baby, He would never have allowed you to get pregnant again. I have faith in God that whether I am or am not pregnant, God is going to take care of me and my family no matter what! He won't bring you TO something he won't bring you THROUGH! :-) I am SO TIRED of living like teenagers, scared of an "accident". Children are not "accidents"! I want to just be a normal married couple and not worry about getting pregnant all the time...it kind of takes away from the enjoyment of sex sometimes, in my opinion! Your family will change their minds once the baby gets here. They might as well go ahead and get over themselves, because the baby is coming whether they want it to or not! May God bless you with a healthy pregnancy!

I am sorry others didn't take the news so well. I know exactly how you feel. My mother-in-law has said on more than one occassion that us having another baby "is ALL we need!" She thinks we can't afford it, etc., but you know what? Babies are blessings from God, and GOD is not going to put more on us than we can handle. If God didn't want you to have another baby, He would never have allowed you to get pregnant again. I have faith in God that whether I am or am not pregnant, God is going to take care of me and my family no matter what! He won't bring you TO something he won't bring you THROUGH! :-) I am SO TIRED of living like teenagers, scared of an "accident". Children are not "accidents"! I want to just be a normal married couple and not worry about getting pregnant all the time...it kind of takes away from the enjoyment of sex sometimes, in my opinion! Your family will change their minds once the baby gets here. They might as well go ahead and get over themselves, because the baby is coming whether they want it to or not! May God bless you with a healthy pregnancy![/quote]

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Well said!!!!

WOW!! you guys have made me feel so much better.
man its been so long since I have really talked to anyone
it feels great and I thank all of you for your kind words
you all are so sweet thanks alot for makeing me feel better
dmdoos I dont have a yahoo.But you could always email me if you would like
my email is shadowangel250@adelphia.net would be nice to have a friend to talk to
Oh and about my hubby gettin fixed haha we have already talked about that he said No
way hes gettin fixed he thinks hell be less of a man LOL! and hes sex drive will go away silly silly man I tried to tell he none of that stuff will happen and he would be the same as he is now but he dont listen lol I told him it would be so much easyer for him then it would for me but that dont matter lol.
after this baby is born im not gettin my tubes tied still Ill do something other then that. If he dont want anymore kids then I think he should take care of it =)
Thanks to all you for listening to me yall are great

shadowangel wrote: WOW!! you guys have made me feel so much better.
man its been so long since I have really talked to anyone
it feels great and I thank all of you for your kind words
you all are so sweet thanks alot for makeing me feel better
dmdoos I dont have a yahoo.But you could always email me if you would like
my email is shadowangel250@adelphia.net would be nice to have a friend to talk to
Oh and about my hubby gettin fixed haha we have already talked about that he said No
way hes gettin fixed he thinks hell be less of a man LOL! and hes sex drive will go away silly silly man I tried to tell he none of that stuff will happen and he would be the same as he is now but he dont listen lol I told him it would be so much easyer for him then it would for me but that dont matter lol.
after this baby is born im not gettin my tubes tied still Ill do something other then that. If he dont want anymore kids then I think he should take care of it =)
Thanks to all you for listening to me yall are great

If you need someone else to talk to, I'm a great listener & advice-giver (or so I am told, lol), and my e-mail is music_4_grace@yahoo.com. I also have a myspace page, www.myspace.com/candybrewer. Look me up sometime! You should go to yahoo.com and download Yahoo Messenger so you can keep in touch with all of us :-) We all need our girlfriends...we all need someone who will sympathize with us!!!