re: Abuse and Depression Support

Quoting Expecting _ #2:“ After the abuse the only fear i have is men.I cant be alone with a man i hardly know.When my fiancee ... [snip!] ... my mom get beat up by my dad & i went truw it to so im deffinitely scared of men & even my fiancee when we argue.”

im sorry. thats so sad. i never saw anyone abused until i was. it was throughout my pregnancy also but nothing like what happened to you. but that was also right after he first started so eventually it did get worse. i havent been in any situations with new guys yet but im sure ill feel the same. and ill be afraid they will cheat too. i had the 2 worst things, abuse and cheating.

Quoting kaitlynsp3919:“ im sorry. thats so sad. i never saw anyone abused until i was. it was throughout my pregnancy also ... [snip!] ... guys yet but im sure ill feel the same. and ill be afraid they will cheat too. i had the 2 worst things, abuse and cheating.”

yea im sorry you had to go truw it to.But yea once it started it just got worse & worse.Yea once you be in a relationship with a new guy,ull probably feel afraid.Personally i do,i get very scared.When people go truw things that really hurt them,its very hard to forget it.He also cheated on me plenty of times& it was hard but i dont fear for that.Hopefully one day we could get over the pass & move on! 

By the way your son is handsome!I see his birthday is sept,19.Mines is sept,19 to & my son to lol.He was born on sept,19 2006.

Quoting Expecting _ #2:“ yea im sorry you had to go truw it to.But yea once it started it just got worse & worse.Yea once ... [snip!] ... the way your son is handsome!I see his birthday is sept,19.Mines is sept,19 2 & my son 2 lol.He was born on sept,19 2006.”

thanks. and thats neat about the birthdays how is it sharing your bday?at first i didnt want my son on my bday cuz i was told i could early but then i was hoping i would. we would have celebrated his 1st bday and my 18th the same day

Quoting kaitlynsp3919:“ thanks. and thats neat about the birthdays how is it sharing your bday?at first i didnt want my son ... [snip!] ... bday cuz i was told i could early but then i was hoping i would. we would have celebrated his 1st bday and my 18th the same day”

ooh really..its pretty cool,but it wasnt fun pushing a baby out on my b-day lol.I was due on sept 13 but i guess he really wanted to share b-days lol.The only thing that sucks is that all the family mostly say happy b-day to him & send his b-day cards & nothing for me,lol.But its really cool, i dont know any mom who shares their b-day with their child.

as a child i was molested to this day it still effects me in everyday life. thats all i can say for now. im just not ready to go into detail just yet. but i think this was a really good idea. thanks.

I feel the need to share my story with others. I am debating on filing a lawsuit for child abuse against my father. I am 18. The first time he abused me I was 4. Trying to make a long story short, I HATED to go to his house for visitation. This peticular day I really just did not want to go. I clung to my mother begging her not to let me go (keep i mind I was only4 at the time). Well I still went, all in all. My mother was terrified of him. He walked in the door, threw me over his shoulder and told me that I would be punished that night for not wanting to come and see him. That night, he brought a chair into the laundry room and had me sit in it. He tied me to it with an extension cord and told me to sit there and think about what I had done. I don't know what time he came and got me, but it was dark out (it was summer), but it seemed like I had been there for hours. He then led me into the bathroom where he told me to take a shower. I did. He always watched, which made me unomfortable, even then. He then got me out and laid me on the floor and began to dry me off. first the towel, then his skin. I remember staring up at the ceiling waiting for it to be over, trying to think that this isn't happening to me. He then told me to get back in the shower and wash better, that I didn't do it good enough. When I got out, I couldn't find him anywhere. I put on my pajamas and went to bed. When I woke up in the middle of the night though, he was in bed with me.

My mother remembers that I was extrememly disturbed when I came home that weekened. She knows what happened, as does my grandmother. I started seeing a counselor at age 7 because of this and repeated abuse from him. My counselor knows everything and no one ever did anything. I have suffered for so long and my father has gone without the punishment that he deserves. With the support of my husbad I am filing a lawsuit againt him. I believe that this will finally give me the closure that I so desperately need and the justice that he deserves.

Well.... since this thread has Depression support as part of the name...
I suffer from some really big issues which contribute to my postpartum depression. I'm on Zoloft -even though I'm pregnant with my next, and I Hate it -but I can't get off. My husband is a pornography addict, and dealing with it is really difficult. I don't want any drama from saying that -because pornography is a very Real addiction. It is chemical just like meth or any of the other drugs, and just because people don't talk about it much -and lots of people are ok with looking and stuff, doesn't give anyone the right to make fun of this out of their own ignorance.
Believe me, I've researched it... I became obsessed with it while we were dating, and we got married early because I got pregnant and we could have gotten kicked out of our church and college had we not done Something... -I had already decided to quit because I wanted to just be a homemaker -but I got pregnant right after my last semester and he had to quit to so he could support all of us.
I hate to say it, but we kind of are being abused in a way, because what he does hurts me... He lies and oh my goodness you don't even want to hear all the crap he pulled when we were dating -that I had no clue about until I first found his stuff... but the thing is, it hurting me hasn't so far been enough for him to actively get help.
Right now I'm trying to get him in therapy -I'm in therapy finally and I like it -but have only been able to go once cuz I got sick and missed my second appt. We're still waiting for them to call him back about getting him an appt.
I've just been really hurting lately and needed to vent. I'm sick of my family being worried about me and feeling sorry for me, and I don't really have any friends to talk to -just acquaintances, so yeah... My best friend since we were 12 and I don't talk much cuz our lives have gone down completely different paths and we live in diff states now...
I just... I'm tired of hurting, and not being able to control myself enough to get off these drugs that could hurt my baby.
If anyone else has a husband or boyfriend who has a problem with porn, I'd love to talk with you, there is a support group semi near my area, but I can't go because I have no way to get there... so all I have for now is the therapy...
Sorry for getting defensive, but I'm trying to help people on here, and admitting to my own issues is kinda embarrassing and hard. I'm just so frustrated at the moment, I have nowhere else to turn...
Thanks for making this thread...

it stinks that a lot of these women had such hard times growing up in their homes. im sure it has made you stronger as people... my boyfriends mother left him when he was 10 and it really has had a negative effect on him. more than what i think he wants to admit. and it affects our relationship because he wants to me there for me emotionally. but hes not. and its especially hard because its nothing that i can be upset over, or change about him. i know he wants to be there for me, but it sucks to say that he isnt. im having a hard time dealing with this fact and knowing what to do about it..

Quoting K_Parris:“ Well.... since this thread has Depression support as part of the name... I suffer from some really big ... [snip!] ... embarrassing and hard. I'm just so frustrated at the moment, I have nowhere else to turn... Thanks for making this thread...”

Hey mama PM me anytime! Me and my usband just started goin to sex therapy for his porn addiction. He's been addicted since he was very, very young. I didn't know about it until we got married. He continued to look at it and lie to me about it and come up with so many bullshit excuses...it's just ridiculous. I know what you are going through and I am here for you 200%! We need to fight this addiction for our children's sake so they don't end up going down the same horrible road...

Much love and peace mama.

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i really think some of you will like this!

I am a mother to a wonderful 2 yr old who's father passed away from cancer while I was 6 months pregnant and now I am expecting a baby girl. Her father is highly verbally abusive and left me for keeping her. He told me that if I aborted that he would stay with me and I refused to let my guard down on my decision. Now he calls me names and says he is going to despise our daughter because of me. I am having a hard time fully letting go because before I made the choice to move away from him to keep my family safe he was extremely loving and caring. I don't know what to do about keeping my sanity and not stressing over the factor that I have to go through another pregnancy alone even though I have my family and close friends. I just don't feel that's good enough.

Quoting Suzie *Diosa Venezolana*:“ AWESOME!!!! I always wished I had someone to talk to when I was pregnant with Jasmine and her dad was ... [snip!] ... hitting me....Everyone just said to leave and no-one really told me how.....I felt like NO-ONE understood my situation......”

mine has to its hard to deal with and harder to get away from he slapped me once when i was pregnant didnt know that i was tho at the time well he went t jail for 12hrs bonded out we split up he decided he wanted to try to be better and work things out i found out a week later that i was pregnant im so sorry for u tho

Quoting BGL-4-Life:“ I was thinking we need an Abuse Support Thread. Any form of abuse is welcome be it verbal, sexual, or ... [snip!] ... another poster trying to get their feelings out there. Everything said in this thread STAYS here or you are not welcome back.”

sounds great to me! (:

I can't write my story up just yet.

But I don't want to lose this thread again so i'm posting.

i just dont know what to do... me and my baby daddy/boyfriend have been having some serioushard times in our relationship since about june. and i mean really serious. like abusive serious... i feel so ashamed for even bringing it up. i mean before i got prego whatever. but now that im 5 months youd think it would stop! but no if hes in a bad mood then i get the wrath. i love him so much but all he does is talk shit to me and call me a slut and tell me how hes never going to marry me... now with all that said i should be outta here but i cant walk away from him. i feel like ive put in too much to leave now. but im scared. scared that if i dont ill end up dead. what do i do? its so hard!