*UPDATE* 0% chance of survival. What do you do??

The doctor told us today that he is giving baby a 0% chance of survival outside the womb. Becuase I have no amniotic fluid and because of the cysts on babys kidneys the lungs will not be developed at all. Along with brain damage that they found today. So the options we were given were....

(A) Baby has a 50/50 chance of survivng in the womb from here on out. So let baby grow and when nature thinks its time, deliver and hope and pray for a miracle.

(B) Get a D&C done now, get an autopsi(sp?) done and figure out what cause all of the deformations.

I need help ladies. I am in a loss of what to do.... Since I know some of you have gone through similiar situations what did you do and how did you like the end result?? I mean do you wish you had done it different or do you feel you did it the proper way??
I am leaning more towards delivery, just becuase I want to say my proper good-bys, but my bf on the other hand doesnt want baby to suffer any longer and feels it is time for us to say good-bye and find answers to what has gone worng. So ladies....ADVICE PLEASE!!


*UPDATE* We have decideed for sure to continue this pregnancy and leave it in Gods hands. We have an induction date set for Febuary 28th if we can make it that far. They have told us most likely baby will nto survive birth and will be born sleeping, but this we shall see. Baby has been kicking like crazy today, how it does it without any fluid I have no idea but it is. Baby is jsut reminding us to not give up hope. I have my next app in 2 weeks to check for a heart rate, and every 2 weeks after that also. They decided not to put me on bedrest, becuase there is really no point to it. So we will see how things turn out.

I want to say thank you to all of the ladies that have responded to my post. Many of you had great words of advice. It has helped alot over these past few days. I feel for any of you that have had to experience anything like this or even close. Once again thank you so much. I know its not alot, but you have touched me and made me realise right from wrong. Thank you.

All I can say is that I am soooo sorry that you have to go through this...and you will be in my prayers.... 

Wow that is awful. I've never been put in that situation but I would just ride it out. What if your doctor was wrong? Too many what-ifs. I'm all for giving anyone a chance, adult or little baby fetus included.

Wow. I dont know even know what to say. I really dont know what I would do in that kind of situation. I mean, If you want to carry full term and deliver and see what happens, then do it. It will be hard, but you never know, they could be wrong and he could live...i dont know, mama. im soooo sorry

In my opinion, I'd continue the pregnancy and pray for a miracle, but that's because I don't believe in abortions aside from extreme cases.

I hope you figure out what's best for you and your BF Mama. Good luck, and I'll keep you in my prayers.

if the baby isn't suffering i'd say hold out for as long as you can and maybe the baby will be ok. if it were me i'd rather wait it out cause a dnc is almost like an abortion to me unless the baby is already dead. you've got a living baby in you so maybe things could change and they can't be sure what will happen once its born. you'll never know unless you hold out..good luck on whatever you decide and i'm so sorry you have to go through that.

I can't say what I'd do because I've never had to make a decision like this. And I don't think I'm strong enough to do so. I just wanted to say that I'm sorry for your loss (almost loss?) Maybe the doctor is wrong, though? maybe baby will survive outside of the womb? good luck with whatever you decide

If it were me I would go through with the delivery that is just me I have never been in such a situation but I know that I would go through with it. Some may call that selfish but it is what I would do. If you need someone to talk to please feel free to PM me.

Omg, I wouldn't even think of a D&C. I would wait for the worst but hope for the best. In my opinion, getting a D&C when the baby is still alive would be the same thing as getting an abortion. I am completely against abortions. You could have a completely normal baby and then you would feel like shit for even considering a D&C

Quoting ~Darby:“ The doctor told us today that he is giving baby a 0% chance of survival outside the womb. Becuase I have ... [snip!] ... any longer and feels it is time for us to say good-bye and find answers to what has gone worng. So ladies....ADVICE PLEASE!!”

If you deliver, your bf may change his mind about how he feels.
On the same note, you may want to deliver and maybe you can beat the odds, babies do it every day. good luck, I can't imagine what you are going through.

I am so sorry that you have to make a decision this difficult! I say go with you heart and deliver. I will be praying for a miracle!!!!! ((((hugs))))

i'm sorry  

i think i would wait the pregnancy out. 

My mom's friend was pregnant. The doctor also told her that her baby had a 0% chance of survival. He's now20 years old (21 later this month). I know it's hard, but just wait it out and hold onto your hope.

I could give you my opinions all day long,but in the end you have to go with what makes you feel right. Yes your b/f does have a say,but you are the one carrying this baby. All I know is it will be one of the heartbreaking times of your life and all my thoughts and prayers go out to you. 

I'm so sorry to hear about your baby..It would be so hard for me to get attached (even though you already are) and then not have it survive..I hope everything works out for you..