Baby Daddy Drama [[vent]]

In my experience the accuser is usually the one doing the things that they are accusing the other of and because they feel guilty or "trapped" they argue to get out of the situation I don't mean to make you more emotional that is just what I have learned

Quoting maminyayo:“ In my experience the accuser is usually the one doing the things that they are accusing the other of ... [snip!] ... or "trapped" they argue to get out of the situation I don't mean to make you more emotional that is just what I have learned”

but as I said.
We're together constantly, & know the other isn't cheating.
Which is why, I don't understand all of this.

Quoting Mrs.Coldren:“ but as I said. We're together constantly, & know the other isn't cheating. Which is why, I don't understand all of this.”

Then maybe he is feeling overwhelmed with baby on the way or is having cabin fever

the only reason he would be taking this out on you is because he is guilty, and trying to justify something to himself. He may be just scared about whole all the responsibilities and commitment of having a child, its alot of stress. Either that or he is guilty of cheating himself, probably if not with another person than prob porn or something like that and he feels bad about it and is taking everything out on you

tell him to shut up! lol i tottaly lost my sex drive when i got prego an now still a yr after her i bearly ever want it tell him its just a prego thing u cant help it!..

I think everything is sinking in for him, and he is reacting to his fears by taking them out on you, about other things. Insecurity in being a good father, insecurity in being a good SO to you, thinking he's not good enough for you and the baby, and fearing you might stray.

Quoting SupremeBabyMaker♠:“ I think everything is sinking in for him, and he is reacting to his fears by taking them out on you, ... [snip!] ... father, insecurity in being a good SO to you, thinking he's not good enough for you and the baby, and fearing you might stray.”

He's already got another child, whose almost 4.. That he never sees..

But I think you're on to something, about him not feeling good enough & thinking I'll find better...Because, he doesn't have a job, he's not the most ambitious & seems to have an excuse for everything.

Quoting Mrs.Coldren:“ but as I said. We're together constantly, & know the other isn't cheating. Which is why, I don't understand all of this.”

i'm not saying that all men are dogs but a vast majority of them are...so you never know !

Quoting Mrs.Coldren:“ He's already got another child, whose almost 4.. That he never sees.. But I think you're on to something, ... [snip!] ... I'll find better...Because, he doesn't have a job, he's not the most ambitious & seems to have an excuse for everything.”

I think he wants to do right by THIS child, to make up for the other one. He doesn't feel good enough for the gift that you're giving him, both you, and the baby. His fears and securities, he's showing them with anger and doubts.

Quoting Mrs.Coldren:“ I don't know what the hell to do...Or really how to feel as of right now.. My Baby's daddy & I planned ... [snip!] ... N you'd think since he claims I'm such a whore, that he'd deny my baby. But he doesn't.. I don't know any opinions? ”

wow it sounds like we lived the same life my sons father acted the same way .. exactly andlet me tell you sweetie we are no longer together there is only so much you will be able to take

Quoting SupremeBabyMaker♠:“ I think he wants to do right by THIS child, to make up for the other one. He doesn't feel good enough ... [snip!] ... for the gift that you're giving him, both you, and the baby. His fears and securities, he's showing them with anger and doubts.”

His anger has gotten horrible lately..
To the point he screams at me, like he's a fucking psycho.
& a few weeks ago, he threw me to the ground after ripping my hair out of my head...& then cried about it for 2 days, because he felt so bad..

Idk what's going on with him, but I think he needs help.

Sorry, but he doesnt sound like you have the makings of a good father or boyfriend there. If i were you, I'd work on getting your other support structure together (family and friends). I kow it's prolly too hard to hear right now.

Quoting ANGEL ROSARIO 1 24 08:“ wow it sounds like we lived the same life my sons father acted the same way .. exactly andlet me tell you sweetie we are no longer together there is only so much you will be able to take”

I used to cry & cry & cry and beg for him to stay with me & try to convince him I don't cheat & ect...Now I Just kinda say, whatever & let him do his own thing & I do mine..eventually, he texts me, and wants to be nice.

But I'm really to my wits end with all the drama.
I want my son to have a father, but I don't think he'll be in his life if we're not together...Considering, how he is with his other child.

Quoting maminyayo:“ In my experience the accuser is usually the one doing the things that they are accusing the other of ... [snip!] ... or "trapped" they argue to get out of the situation I don't mean to make you more emotional that is just what I have learned”

thats what i was going to say. so ditto