seriously thinking about relocating

i have been seriously thinking about moving back home.

my entire extended family lives near chicago. my mom lives in iowa.
the only family i have here is my dad, step mom, little (5 y o )sister, and grandparents.

both my parents have 8 or 9 siblings, all whom i am very close to.

my sister has been begging me to move with her and her husband so they could help me get on my feet. she is a sahm.

the longer i stay here, on my own, with the bills pilling up, and no end in sight, the more i think about how nice it would be to have anyone to help support me. even just emotionally, but she wants to help watch ava for me for work.

my dad and i have never been close. my grandparents are great but they offer no support. that whole family kind of never were very emotional people, thus my dad is very passive agressive. it makes a lot of things really difficult.

this is why... as some of you probably already know.. that i regularly turn to BG for emotional support.


anyways.... my point is that i am seriously thinking about packing everything up and moving once my lease is up.

i havent really thought about avas dad.. because i dont want to think about it.
i dont know if that is fair to ava or him.. but i dont know what to do.

i feel very stuck.

i could use opinions.
but im tired of being alone.

Go home! My whole family is the Chicago Land area too!! I wanna go home too! =[ Where are you from

The help you need is temporary, the hole you're digging yourself into being away with bills piling up will feel like it will take forever to get out of.

Go home, be proud that you're doing what's best for you and your little one and you'll look back on your time away as a good learning experience but realize you don't need to struggle to look respsonsible.

Do it! Go live with your sister & Get the help you need. Im not sure but if you need help that must mean Avas dad isnt helping much or at all. So tell him hes not helping you any & you cant stay there forever.

Good luck!

Go home! It will make your life so much easier and its so nice to be among family. Plus, Chicago is the best hometown EVER!

Go ahead and move if it will give you a peace of mind..The dad can always visit and you could always return if you want. Im in chicago too and family support makes everything so much better for you and your baby

I say go home hun! If your sister is willing to watch Ava for you while you work I think would be great for you

fuck ava's dad...he made a new family. ha

if he wants to see her, HE can make the effort.

you need to get on your feet. Ava needs a happy stress-free mommy. not a mommy who feels like she is drowning. ya know?

getting your ish together and being with family will benifit both you and Ava

Quoting Blankita ™ ©:“ Do it! Go live with your sister & Get the help you need. Im not sure but if you need help that must ... [snip!] ... mean Avas dad isnt helping much or at all. So tell him hes not helping you any & you cant stay there forever. Good luck!”

no, he hasnt paid anything in child support yet. its still being 'processed' what ever the hell that is supposed to mean.

ahhh I hear you!! I want to go back to Chicago so so so so so bad. It's just so hard to pack up and leave not knowing what will happen when you get there ya know? Josh and I are giving ourselves a few years then we are heading back. I would deff say do it! Maybe make a trip out there to see if you would be able to find a place to live and work and such. That would make it a lot easier! It would be a lot easier though to have family there to help you out.

Quoting Wait'n on Kennedee:“ Go home! My whole family is the Chicago Land area too!! I wanna go home too! =[ Where are you from”

my family all used to live in the south suburbs.. park forest, steger.. but since that area has been on a nice decline they have pretty much all moved towards indiana-- hebron area, cedar lake..

to be honest i love where i live. i have always thought i would stay out here.. but i miss them. i miss being included in family functions (my family gets together for ANY reason they can)

i cant stand the roads there. lol. and the traffic. and the crime.

but i think if i tried i could probably find a nice area? i dont know.

Quoting Jamie♥ BabyHayat:“ ahhh I hear you!! I want to go back to Chicago so so so so so bad. It's just so hard to pack up and leave ... [snip!] ... live and work and such. That would make it a lot easier! It would be a lot easier though to have family there to help you out.”

im going there for thanksgiving. i was thinking about looking into things a little deeper at that time.

Quoting PicturePerfect/Boy!:“ Go ahead and move if it will give you a peace of mind..The dad can always visit and you could always ... [snip!] ... you could always return if you want. Im in chicago too and family support makes everything so much better for you and your baby”

can you tell me of towns or areas that are nice and still not super expensive?

Quoting JenniferAndAva:“ im going there for thanksgiving. i was thinking about looking into things a little deeper at that time.”

ya I would deff do that if you really think you want to move back. That way you kind of have a plan when you move.