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Thanks again ladies for all your help/advice/suggestions from this post earlier! I really appreciate it!

if you want her there, take her. She wants to be apart of your baby. She will decide if she can take it.

Well on ur profile it doesn"t say anything but talk to ur husband first and then decide

If you don't mind her coming aside from worrying about her feelings, I say let her go. She needs to be the one to decide what she can handle.

Quoting a s h l e y [[ mommy-to-b:“ If you haven't read my past posts about my sister-in-law and mother-in-law, I suggest you go to my profile ... [snip!] ... MAKE HER SAD TO SEE OUR LITTLE BABY ON THE SCREEN AND HEAR THE HEARTBEAT, YOU KNOW, AFTER ALL SHE WENT THROUGH? PLEASE HELP  ”

It is up to you if you want her there tell her it is ok! But if not tell her you would like to find out alone with your husband and then when yall are ready you will tell her you and your husband want to spend that experenice alone! Tell her you are not trying to be rude but you want to exsperience it with your hubby! That you are not trying to exclude her but if she loves him she will understand if not owell!

Quoting Princess Mikayla 7/20/08:“ Well on ur profile it doesn"t say anything but talk to ur husband first and then decide”

I meant to just click on the topics I've posted... I think it shows on the bottom left hand corner my past topics. I told my husband and he says that if she wants to go then maybe we should let her come, however, I don't know how she's going to react. And this may sound selfish, but it's a thirty minute drive just to get to the town my doctor's in from where we live. I would HATE for her to have a fit at the office, either crying or aggression, if it turns out being too much for her to handle... Like I don't want to have to rush my appointment, especially a big one like that, because she thought she could handle it and then couldn't...

Quoting a s h l e y [[ mommy-to-b:“ If you haven't read my past posts about my sister-in-law and mother-in-law, I suggest you go to my profile ... [snip!] ... MAKE HER SAD TO SEE OUR LITTLE BABY ON THE SCREEN AND HEAR THE HEARTBEAT, YOU KNOW, AFTER ALL SHE WENT THROUGH? PLEASE HELP  ”

If your really worried about hurrting her by seeing your baby, then I'd talk to her mom, I mean mothers do know best...and if she has no problem with it, and you don't eithergo ahead and let her come along...

Quoting no longer empty arms:“ if you want her there, take her. She wants to be apart of your baby. She will decide if she can take it.”

See, I'm just worried that she'll THINK she can handle it, then when it comes down to us being in the room I'm scared it'll be too hard for her to handle. And as mad and hurt she's made me feel lately, I still wouldn't want to cause her to have any regrets or sadness you know? It's hard to explain.

Quoting a s h l e y [[ mommy-to-b:“ See, I'm just worried that she'll THINK she can handle it, then when it comes down to us being in the ... [snip!] ... she's made me feel lately, I still wouldn't want to cause her to have any regrets or sadness you know? It's hard to explain.”

She can leave the room. Are you and her close?

Quoting Kaiti:“ If your really worried about hurrting her by seeing your baby, then I'd talk to her mom, I mean mothers ... [snip!] ... mom, I mean mothers do know best...and if she has no problem with it, and you don't eithergo ahead and let her come along...”

I asked my mother-in-law about it just this morning, and she just looked at me like with this shocked look on her face. She said "Did you ask her if she wanted to go, or did she ask you?" And I told her that she asked ME. She didn't answer me. She got up and went in the other room?!

Quoting no longer empty arms:“ She can leave the room. Are you and her close?”

Well, we used to be really close, while her brother and I were dating. But then when she found out that I was pregnant and so was sheand thather brother and I were getting married, she started acting really ugly to me, so we drifted apart. But now, like I said in my initial post, we're "warming up" to each other again. She told me I stole her brother from her... that was before the wedding.

I think you should do whatever you're comfortable with. I don't mean to be negative but this could just be her trying to pull something else to ruin your day and your happiness. If YOU want her there then take her but if you don't, then don't take her. It's your baby and your special moment so it should be entirely your desicion. And you could always just tell her that you talked to your doctor and they won't let anyone besides your husband in the US room.

Quoting Lyndeep:“ I think you should do whatever you're comfortable with. I don't mean to be negative but this could just ... [snip!] ... you could always just tell her that you talked to your doctor and they won't let anyone besides your husband in the US room.”

This may sound really mean, but I think deep down inside I DON'T want her in there. I kind of wanted it to be a suprise that just my hubby and I would know, until we were ready to share with the family. I don't want to be rude to her and just flat out say "No, sorry, you can't come." And I think, as bad as it sounds, maybe you are right Lyndee. I wouldn't put it past her to do something like that! That's a good idea though, I think I'll just tell her that my doctor says that it can only be my husband and I in the room while I get the ultrasound.

Thanks for all y'alls opinions ladies, I think I'm going to go with Lyndee's suggestion and just tell her that the doctor says only my husband and I can be in the U/S room. That way, we avoid conflict all together. She's welcome to see the baby once (s)he's born, and I'll show her the sonogram if we get to take a copy home!