what to do?

so me and my boyfriend had a baby named planned out since before we found out what we were having. well he told his aunts and they HATED it. which in my opinion is totally rude for them to suggest other names without us asking them to. i didn't care, i wanted to keep the name. well my boyfriend i guess started feeling bad and decided he wanted to change it. i was okay with it, i support his choices. so we decided to use the middle name as his first name and his grandpa's name as his middle. but now he wants to change it back to the way it was cause he can't let go of the name. my question is, do you think it would be messed up if we told his grandpa that we're not going to use his name anymore? i know he was really happy when we told him but if we're not COMPLETELY in love with the name then should we really keep it? idk if any of that makes sense....? please help

stick to your guns! i know couples now who are refusing to tell the name until the baby is born so no one else influences their opinion, i like that idea

I dunno... If you told the grandpa you're using the name, it seems like he'd probably be disappointed if you changed it. Might be worth feeling out the situation a bit - just pretend like you're joking around and say "yeah, we though maybe we'd do this name instead!" and see what his reaction is- does he seem cool with it, sort of disappointed, etc?

This is why DH and I aren't telling anyone (other than baby-gaga-people) what name we picked because we KNOW people will make rude comments and say how they don't like it, blah blah blah, until the baby is born and then if they don't like they'll at least have the decency to say it behind our backs  

who cares what anyone else thinks. pick a name that you both love and stick with it. its no one elses choice but yours what to name your baby.

Quoting Maverick's Mom {{BBC}}:“ stick to your guns! i know couples now who are refusing to tell the name until the baby is born so no one else influences their opinion, i like that idea”

yea i wish i would have thought of that before we said anything. wellwhatever we decide on,we're not telling ANYONE for sure cause this is getting to me! i can't stand his family ALWAYS telling us what to with OUR babies. i'm about to go to craaaazy!!!

thanks everyone, i really appreciate your help!

His aunts have no right to tell you they "hated" the name. That was rude. If you still like the name, I would keep it! It's both of your child, so you should have a say in it too. If you already told his grandpa that you are naming your child after him, I think he would be sad if you guys changed it.. But, you have to love your child's name too. You're the one that's going to be using it the most. LOL.
Do you think that your minds changed b/c of what his aunts were saying?..

I would keep the name if I were you. My family and my husbands family HATED the name we picked for our baby if its a boy...but there was NO way in hell my husband was going to change it.....and actually most of them actually really like the name, I just think it had to grow on them because its not a common name like James or Joshua. Its your baby and I would name it what you want!!!

Quoting Momma Kat ♥:“ His aunts have no right to tell you they "hated" the name. That was rude. If you still like the name, ... [snip!] ... the one that's going to be using it the most. LOL. Do you think that your minds changed b/c of what his aunts were saying?..”

yea that's why my boyfriend wanted to change it. i think it hurt his feelings that his family wasn't liking the name that we picked out. i talked to him telling him that it's not their choice and if we love it then they'll have to learn to love it or just get over it.

Quoting Maria[[team BLUE]]:“ yea that's why my boyfriend wanted to change it. i think it hurt his feelings that his family wasn't ... [snip!] ... to him telling him that it's not their choice and if we love it then they'll have to learn to love it or just get over it.”

Exactly! I'm certain that his fam. will learn to love it. My fam. hated the name Dominick at first, but now they can't picture calling my son anything else. LOL.

Quoting Maria[[team BLUE]]:“ so me and my boyfriend had a baby named planned out since before we found out what we were having. well ... [snip!] ... if we're not COMPLETELY in love with the name then should we really keep it? idk if any of that makes sense....? please help”

you pick whatever name you like.. its YOUR son.. and you will be around his whole life calling him it... my aunt lost her son a few years back and she asked me if i thought about using his name for my next son... i told her id think about it... we arent going to use it.. i feel a little bad sure.. but its our son to name.. they can have their own kids or pets to name.. dont worry about what they say.. seriously.. when he is born are they going to go .. awwww ... look at the cute baby with the ugly name? no..