Would You Be Pissed? ... VENT!

Both myself and my partner are quite close to his cousin and his cousins girlfriend. Especially since we were both pregnant at the same time - (his cousins girlfriend was duesix weeks before me). Anyway while we were pregnant we used to meet up alot, and our conversations always led on to what we were going to name our child. Well by the time they had found out the sex of their baby, they still hadn't found a name. An six weeks later when I found out I was carrying a baby boy, me and my partner sat down and decided on the name- Tai' Jaé.

Later on that day we decided to go and tell them that we too were having a little boy, and that we were naming Tai'Jaé. They were like "Oh thats nice" blah blah blah, but still hadn't decided on a name for their child.

Well about a couple of weeks later, my partner gets a phone call from his cousins girlfriend, and shes like, "We've decided we are going to name the baby Tashane". Which intially did sound kind of similar, but wasn't a problem.

Now suprise, suprise, when their son was born a few weeks later, we went to see them in hospital, and a couple of times I overheard them calling their baby, "Tai". However I didn't say nothing, until later on when I got home and I told my partner.

He didn't believe me, and was like "No, they wouldn't do that", but as I kept going on about it, he decided to give his cousin a call. So when he phones his cousin, his like "What did you call your son?" and his cousins like, "His names Tashane but where calling him Tai for short".

Now anyone with any common sense would know that, my childs name would be Tai for short as his name is Tai'Jaé, so why would they go and call their child that? An its not like it even makes sense because their childs name is Tashane, nowhere in that name is the word "Tai".

So my partner goes to him, "But you guys know that where calling our child, Tai'Jaé, we told you, aswell as the rest of the family his name on the day we found out he was a boy, before you even had a name for your child". So his cousins like, "Oh, I didn't know that, it doesn't matter anyway they can both be called Tai".

So both myself and my partner was very pissed off, because not only did he basically copy our childs name, he lied about not knowing what our childs name was. We met up with them atleast twice a week throughout my pregnancy, and whenever we spoke about our bumps, from the day I found out I was having a boy, I referred to my baby as Tai. Plus his aswell as my whole family had known my childs name, so he DID know.

Well anyway, ever since they've been calling their son Tai and it does my bloody head in. I wouldn't mind if we only saw eachother once in a blue moon, but his family is very close knitted, and everyones around eachother atleast once a week, so I always have to hear them referring to their baby, whos name is Tashane as Tai. ....

Arghh, I don't know I'm just venting, but seriously girls to you think I'm in the wrong to be upset? (Sorry it was so long  )

That's messed up...I would be mad too....Makes you not want to tell anyone the baby's name

I would still keep the name .... you know in your heart you picked it first
Dont let it bother ya ... And when you refer to their baby call him by his full name and not the abbreviation ... Always refer to your own with the name you picked out . They will get the picture not to do it around you eventually

Quoting mommyluvbug:“ I would still keep the name .... you know in your heart you picked it first Dont let it bother ya ... ... [snip!] ... ... Always refer to your own with the name you picked out . They will get the picture not to do it around you eventually”

Yeah, I still kept it, there was noway I was going to change it- my sons nine weeks old now. Plus his whole family knew what we were naming our child before they decided to copy, so they look like the idiots not us.

Quoting X-Beautiful-Baby-Boy-X:“ Yeah, I still kept it, there was noway I was going to change it- my sons nine weeks old now. Plus his ... [snip!] ... now. Plus his whole family knew what we were naming our child before they decided to copy, so they look like the idiots not us.”

Thats good .. I didnt realize you were pp lol ... Mah bad. Good on ya tho and oh well for her.

Quoting mommyluvbug:“ Thats good .. I didnt realize you were pp lol ... Mah bad. Good on ya tho and oh well for her.”

Thanks  

No, I wouldn't be mad.

It's just a name. Unless you name your child something completely outlandish, there WILL be other children with the same name. My name is pretty uncommon and I still share it with some people.

I never understand why people get so upset over this.

C.

eh, it wouldnt bother me personally. Its just a name. If anything you should feel flattered that they like it.  

Quoting God:“ No, I wouldn't be mad. It's just a name. Unless you name your child something completely outlandish, ... [snip!] ... My name is pretty uncommon and I still share it with some people. I never understand why people get so upset over this. C.”

I got upset because although its just a name, and many many people around the world probably share his name. The fact is they arecousins, and they arethe same age, and are going to grow up together. I think they could of have atleast named their child something different, they knew what we were naming our child already. How abouts if your sister (assuming you had a sister) named her child the name that your child already had - because thats exactly how it is. They are going to be around eachother nearly everyday of their lives. Their wasmillionsof names they could of chose for their child, but yet they choose the exactly the same name as my child. An whats "Tai" is not even in their childs name, their childs name is TA-shane not TY-shane or TAI-shane. So why would they call him that, it makes no sense.

Quoting X-Beautiful-Baby-Boy-X:“ I got upset because although its just a name, and many many people around the world probably share ... [snip!] ... their childs name, their childs name is TA-shane not TY-shane or TAI-shane. So why would they call him that, it makes no sense.”

You said yourself they look like idiots for doing it but you are 9 weeks pp and your nephew is 15 weeks 3 months! and you're still bitching about it? I'm sorry yes initially I can understand the anger but it's been 3 months for criminies sakes it's time to get over it.

Quoting ☆ Kirstin ☆:“ You said yourself they look like idiots for doing it but you are 9 weeks pp and your nephew is 15 weeks ... [snip!] ... it? I'm sorry yes initially I can understand the anger but it's been 3 months for criminies sakes it's time to get over it.”

Alright, I am over it, well atleast I thought I was. However after being around them today and hearing them call my nephew, "Tai" it just wound me up. An as you most probably know Babygaga is like an escape, where you can just release your feelings, and thats all I was doing. Yes, I admit, it bugs me, that someone so close to both myself and my partner could do something so spiteful and then lie in our faces on top of it.

... Ugh ... If it happened to you, you'd feel different. My sons name was unique to me, I have never heard a child called that. I know of course that there are children who share his name, but for your own family to take it, an then lie about, well that does burn.

That's not necessarily true.

If it bothers you, it bothers you, and nobody is telling you you're wrong for feeling that way.

However, we don't understand feeling that way, and to say that we WOULD feel that way if we were in your situation is very narrow minded.

All people are different and react differently to different events.

C/

I think it would have bothered me a ton because they are family... but thats just me.

Quoting X-Beautiful-Baby-Boy-X:“ Alright, I am over it, well atleast I thought I was. However after being around them today and hearing ... [snip!] ... course that there are children who share his name, but for your own family to take it, an then lie about, well that does burn.”

I wouldn't really care all that much honestly. I had a close close close friend name her daughter katarina 4 months after my daughter katriina was born. Both nicknamed kat. No problem with it at all. I can understand a sudden reheaping of the coals on the fire. It seemed like through your first post you'd been simmering for months over it. I apologize for my assumption.