Guys become fathers when they see the baby, right?

My boyfriend doesn't seem to realize how important it isthat I'm having a baby.He loves our son very much but sometimes it seems like he thinks its a burden. He bitches about people asking if they baby came yet all the time. When i try to tell him stuff about my pregnancy he changes the subject. I'm hoping this will change when the baby comes. Do you think it will?

Well, you can live in hope.

Not all the time depends on the guy.

Yeah they get more attached when they see the baby. My hubby wasn't into pregnancy much, but he loves his son more than anything. 

Quoting Erin ♥'s Kota:“ My boyfriend doesn't seem to realize how important it isthat I'm having a baby.He loves our son very ... [snip!] ... him stuff about my pregnancy he changes the subject. I'm hoping this will change when the baby comes. Do you think it will?”

I guess it just depends. Most guys aren't really interested in the pregnancy... yeah they can be excited, but it's mostly just mumbo jumbo to them when we talk about it. Why don't you go to him and ask him questions?

it really depends on your guy. but amybe try to convey to him how important all this stuff is to you.

truly depends on the guy. It doesn't sink in til they see the baby but it's still a matter of maturity.

I have heard that saying before. I think its probably true for a lot of men. They aren't as connected to the whole process before hand since it hasn't been with them for 9 months.I'm pretty sure its a common saying, so I wouldn't doubt if there was some truth to it. My fiance while excited doesn't seem as excited as I feel. He seems more burdened by the stress of the process, without all the good stuff us baby carriers get along the way.  

Quoting amy plus baby.:“ Well, you can live in hope.”

It's a fun place to live.

But, OP- Why don't you ask your boyfriend why he doesn't like talking about the pregnancy? You could probably get a better answer from him than us.. And people asking if the baby has come yet is fucking annoying. Period.

Yeah i think they become a daddy when baby comes out... i mean honestly... during pregnancy they arent very involved which i think sucks... i didnt get my self pregnant... sheesh.. and yes its cuz the women carry the babies.. but its not really real to them until that baby comes out.

My fiance tells me how excited he is all the time... and he hasnt missed a single appointment. but when it comes to me saying it kicked (which is happening more and more so he gets sick of me saying it every single time lol) he's just like "cool" lol but i think its mostly because they don't get much credit and alot of involvement.. and it sucks i try to get him involved in everything!!! so he feels apart of it. and when the baby does come... he's not lost lol

Well maybe he changes the conversation because he wants to talk about something other then the baby,Maybe you guys should go out on a date and just enjoy each other and leave the baby talk to the night when you ask him to rub your belly. Try and talk to him about sports, video game.
 It is hard for a guy to get attached to the baby before birth,because remember he is not really experiencing all the things you are , but once the baby comes out and he starts taking care of it and bonding...He will fall in love!!

He seems like he doesn't want to be apart of it. He bitches about having to go to work everyday. And he was supposed to get the crib for his house four months ago and still hasn't. He complains when he has to take me to an appointment. I sure didn't get pregnant by myself so i think he should take some responsibility in this. The other day they told me i was in early labor and hes just completely changed the subject like it doesn't matter one bit. I know hes not like that with anything else. It just gets me upset. I guess i'll just hope he changes how he feels when i have the baby. I know he loves him very much he just doesn't seem like it sometimes. But thanks mommies.  

everyone is different. Most women I know all say their husbands weren't very involved during pregnancy- but loved the baby once it came. Then- just to warn you...most men aren't much help at ALL the first year- then wonderful after that. I'm about to have my 4th- and I know what a wonderful father he is to my 4 and 6 year olds, but don't have much expectation this time around for the infant. Men are just different than we are.

Quoting Erin ♥'s Kota:“ My boyfriend doesn't seem to realize how important it isthat I'm having a baby.He loves our son very ... [snip!] ... him stuff about my pregnancy he changes the subject. I'm hoping this will change when the baby comes. Do you think it will?”

When I was prego my guy wasnt that into it either, but it was because he saw what kind of state I was in and couldnt help me and knew he did it to me! When I hurt or was just so tiered or swollen or anything he knew it was his fault and had no controle to make me feel better so he just tried to stay out of it! But now that our little girl is here when he is home and has time, he always helps! But it takes men alittle longer sometimes, it doesnt mean they dont care! Just give them alittle bit, right now they might be more scared than anything but just wait cause when the baby gets older and they can play with them alittle more I am sure they will come arround better! Just give him time and talk with him! I would always ask my man for one night every week or so just to coudle and talk and let out fears, tears or what not and it worked! Thats my story hope it helped alittle!