am i that horrible of a wife?

okay so lately kevin has been working alot and thats cool, i understand but hes making me so mad because hes not really helping with the house, ive asked him 3 times to fold the laundry and he doesnt do it, it gets late and he throws it on our bed, well then we go to bed and he grabs the pile of clean clothes and throws em on the floor! he doesn't clean out the coffee pot after he makes a pot of coffee and he doesn't ever do his uniforms for work and then bitches about them not being done...well i told him that he needs to start picking up after himself and helping me out or else im going on strike... he got mad at me and told me im a horrible wife because i don't keep our house spotless... keep in mind i have an 11 month old who acts more like a 4 month old. i try my hardest but i can't just let my kid scream all day, not to mention im always going to doc appts for him... i still make dinner, i take care of connor, i try to keep the house clean... am i that bad for asking for him to help me? i mean were moving soon adn when they come pack our house i want it clean.. sorry about venting im just kinda pissed/upset/frustrated... he told me because im the stay at home mom its my responsibility to keep the house clean, and i understand i don't work and im home alot but i also take care of my son, the bills,the car, the house, medical, help him with work,and almost everything else. im just gettin tired of it!

Quoting Connor's mom♥[GD]:“ okay so lately kevin has been working alot and thats cool, i understand but hes making me so mad because ... [snip!] ... of my son, the bills,the car, the house, medical, help him with work,and almost everything else. im just gettin tired of it!”

I am in same situation. I talked to my mom and she told me part of being a wife and stay at home mom is you have to do the laundry, even put it away. My hubby and I got into a huge fight about it on Monday. I did it and was still pissed off that he got his way but am slowly getting over it and he is saying thank you now for all the work I do around the house. 

thats just it, he doesn't say thank you and he doesn't help, even when he is home i have to do EVERYTHING, dinner, the baby, the laundry, his work stuff.... i mean he can't even help a little! i asked him to take the trash out this morning on his way in to work and he said he will do it when he gets back.... hes already walking out there how hard is it to just carry a bag with you?!?,.

i get were your comming from..i do all of that too..but i never ask for help...my husband works 84 hours a week...the least i can do is everything else.... my house isnt spotless..but i try and keep it pretty clean...but i donthave an11 month old that is like a 4 mothn old...i have a 18 month old..he makes messes faster then i can clean them up.. i hope yall work it out...

i understand he works. hes military and iwas miilitary so i completely understand but its like when he gets home from work he gets a break but i don't, i always have to do everythign, i have no problem cleaning but it would be nice on teh weekends like today if he would help me, he has monday off and he said he wanted to go hang out with one of his friends when he knows my parents are coming intown to help celebrate my sons bday and he won't hel me clean

Quoting Connor's mom♥[GD]:“ thats just it, he doesn't say thank you and he doesn't help, even when he is home i have to do EVERYTHING, ... [snip!] ... and he said he will do it when he gets back.... hes already walking out there how hard is it to just carry a bag with you?!?,.”

I know my hubby tries on 10 shirts when getting ready for work and puts them on the chair and I asked him to put it away and the last load of his laundry and its still sitting on the chair. I ask him why he has to try on so many shirts who does he have to impress anyways? 

Quoting Connor's mom♥[GD]:“ thats just it, he doesn't say thank you and he doesn't help, even when he is home i have to do EVERYTHING, ... [snip!] ... and he said he will do it when he gets back.... hes already walking out there how hard is it to just carry a bag with you?!?,.”

i agree he should help when he is off... just go on strike..haha then he will be happy with the stuff you can manage to get done.

my husband doesn't do his own laundry and then gets mad when he doesn't have clean uniforms but i told him when we got married that i wasn't touching his uniforms and he said okay but now he doesn't!

Quoting We say NObama!:“ i agree he should help when he is off... just go on strike..haha then he will be happy with the stuff you can manage to get done.”

ive tried that, i went a whole week with doing nothing and the baby didn't have any clean clothes, i had to stay up till 2 in the morning doing laundry... teh only thing i washed was the baby's bottles and gtive him his bath, but no laundry got done, we didn't have any clean dishes, the trash didn't get taken out.

Quoting Connor's mom♥[GD]:“ ive tried that, i went a whole week with doing nothing and the baby didn't have any clean clothes, ... [snip!] ... bottles and gtive him his bath, but no laundry got done, we didn't have any clean dishes, the trash didn't get taken out.”

wow..your husband is hard headed..haha.. what does he say when you try and talk to him?

he says hes had such a hard day at work, when yes its hard going to work. but that doesn't mean i should have to do everything!im about to tell him to go to hawaii by himself and just take my son and go home and get a job and do it myself. i already do anyway

Quoting Connor's mom♥[GD]:“ he says hes had such a hard day at work, when yes its hard going to work. but that doesn't mean i should ... [snip!] ... to tell him to go to hawaii by himself and just take my son and go home and get a job and do it myself. i already do anyway”

if you think thats whats best then thats what you should do...but maybe you'll change your mind once you calm down.. i dont live your life so i dont know..but i know i say and do stuff i dont mean out of anger.. i hope stuff gets better... i know how overwhemling it all can be at times..i am here if you need to talk.

thank you, part of it is exhaustion, i love my son to death but sometimes i just get SO overwhelmed with all his medical stuff, and him being so delayed

Quoting Connor's mom♥[GD]:“ thank you, part of it is exhaustion, i love my son to death but sometimes i just get SO overwhelmed with all his medical stuff, and him being so delayed”

i imagine..i bet thats really hard.. i mean i think i would feel so out of control...and i cant handle that feeling.. i will keep yall in my prayers... but really i am here if you ever need to talk..haha i dont mind listening to you whine haha long as its not a 100 times a day!! lol JK. my yahoo im is tera_brown2002 and i also have a myspace..www.myspace.com/mrscraigbowman

thank you, i normally don't wine but i think im starting to worn down, and kindof depressed, connors 1st bday is coming up in november and i can't really do most stuff for his bday, i don't want to give him cake because hes only been eating babyfood for a bout a month, he plays iwth toys about 3-4 months of age,. he can't crawl,walk,roll over,sit up,hold his own bottle,feed himself. he doesn't sleep thru the night