re: ATTACHMENT PARENTING !!!

Quoting The Blissful Six:" I don't have a choice. If I don't intervene and redirect her, she starts smacking her head on anything near by including the floor. Hopefully, your lo doesn't start that."

Oh man. So what do you do to calm her?

Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:" Oh man. So what do you do to calm her?"

I pick her up and talk her through it. A lot of the times if I just redirect her before the tantrum full on erupts she calms down right away. I think in the next few months I'm going to implement a "cool down" corner.

Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... ignores those attempts of mine and proceeds to cry and put his head on the floor. Do I ignore that? Or hold and comfort him?"

I did that even at that age. I think you should be as involved as they will allow. So if he allows you to hold him, hold him. If he doesn't, sit next to him and talk. If talking makes him mad, just sit there.

It is important to stay available so they feel listened to, to vent their frustration to you.

My daughter is 3 now and I occasionally ignore her tantrums depending on the circumstances, but she is fully verbal and sometimes she -does-fake it at this point. I think at that age, even if they are fake crying, it's still important to listen because they can't tell you why so fake crying is their attempt to communicate.

Hi..
I tend to practice attachment parenting. I've never really thought about styles or anything I just always did what came natural and what worked. I did this with my daughter until she turned 3 and became more independent. I still respond to her needs.. but I had my 2nd child when she was 2 and she really grasped the big sister role. So now she's 4 and my 2nd child.. he's 2... and I have a 4 month old boy now too. I'm newly single.. somewhat. My husband took off when I was about 34 weeks pregnant and he's been gone since. So it's been 5 months... maybe a little longer. Anyway... my 2 year old has tantrums at night... when he does it startles my baby. How do I respond to them both at once?? It isn't that my 2 year old wants me.. it's that he still wants to play instead of go to sleep. I have ended up letting him cry-it-out before... but I don't know what else to do. His sister has to go to school so I can't let him have his way.. it'll wake her up... How do you practice AP with more than one child.. all on your own?? I love all my children.. but sometimes feel like I'm not doing enough. Especially for my older daughter... though I do try...

<blockquote><b>Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:</b>" Yeah, my son will cry at first and wants to put his head on the floor but then he tries to get to me ... [snip!] ... starts and he is so used to me attending to him on cue that when I don't let him have what he wants he gets confused. Ya know?"</blockquote>




I would just love on him and tell him it's okay to feel that way. Let him cry in your arms if that's what he needs. You want him to be comfortable to share his feelings with you.

hey guys.. i haven't been on in awhile but here i am pregnant with baby #2 and i am having a lot of anxiety about it. I am so focused on my daughter (She's now 4) and don't really have much help with her...she's a total momma s girl.

i'm worried about how i will be able to give her what she needs when the new baby comes and also give the new baby what i gave her which was basically my undivided attention for 2 months straight.

i plan to BF on demand just like i did with DD and co-sleep etc. how do i manage this and continue to give my daughter the attention she is used to?? my husband will be absolutely no help

So we have decided to buy and read a parenting book together....Any one know a good toddler book? N is 13 months and seems like a toddler already  

Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" So we have decided to buy and read a parenting book together....Any one know a good toddler book? N is 13 months and seems like a toddler already  "

Hands down it would be Unconditional Parenting by Kohn. If you're short on time then Growing Up In Trust.

We have been doing attachment parenting. I was raised by a single mom who was a smothering hover mother and it really held me back. How do I continue attachment parenting without being smothering?

Quoting Belle.:" We have been doing attachment parenting. I was raised by a single mom who was a smothering hover mother and it really held me back. How do I continue attachment parenting without being smothering?"

For me the whole point of AP is being in tune with your kids needs. So if you are in tune with them, you will know when they're ready to do things on their own and you'll encourage it. You'll recognize their need to do something with support they same way you recognize now when your LO needs you to do things for them. You'll meet the needs for interdependence and independence the same way you currently help them through their dependence  

If you're smothering your kid then you aren't aware of what they think, feel and want and therefore you aren't being AP, kwim?

A tread I posted got me thinking. I practice attachment parenting, I don't CIO. I tried leaving my son in the nursery at church and my plan was to have the lady text me as soon as he gets upset so he wouldn't be CIO, but it didn't work out. Anyway, without letting them CIO, how do you help your child adjust to being away from you?

Quoting BRowell:" A tread I posted got me thinking. I practice attachment parenting, I don't CIO. I tried leaving my son ... [snip!] ... be CIO, but it didn't work out. Anyway, without letting them CIO, how do you help your child adjust to being away from you?"

For me it's been about adjusting my plans and reevaluating my expectations and priorities. I weigh up my child's needs against my own needs and come to the conclusion that is most suitable. ie a baby's needs are almost always more important than our wants, because we adults and have the capacity to be flexible and understand a situation and the baby does not. The affect on the baby would change it's development, whereas the affect on us is simply not liking something. So basically it was more about adapting to the baby, rather than making the baby adapt to me. Then as the baby gets older they are more developed and therefore the choice of who's needs to meet are more likely to meet everyones needs or swing to the adults. e.g. young rush straight to a 3 month old baby regardless of whether it's difficult for you or not, but you go at the pace you can for a 3 year old because they are able to understand more.