re: ATTACHMENT PARENTING !!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:</b>" I need some book suggestions. Anything to do with raising children and babies in a gentle loving and understanding way that explains why and how it's important. Tia."</blockquote>




"Just tell me what to say"
Betsy brown Braun

Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:" Ooh thank you   And i also take back my never mind because I realized people's book reviews may ... [snip!] ... my son's need by parenting the AP way. I want helpful hints how to treat him through each month and milestone of his baby life."

Anything by Dr sears is good! We love the baby boob by Dr Sears

Quoting applelove:" Anything by Dr sears is good! We love the baby boob by Dr Sears"

Lmfao the baby boob. Classic.

I want to get some books so I can refer to them when trying to.educate the people in my sons life. So I am looking at the Dr Sears books. about how long of a read are they? I am just wondering how many I should order at a time.

Quoting lil*Mama*Bear™:" I want to get some books so I can refer to them when trying to.educate the people in my sons life. So ... [snip!] ... I am looking at the Dr Sears books. about how long of a read are they? I am just wondering how many I should order at a time."

The attachment parenting book is pretty short. The baby book is extremely long but it's something you'll be skimming for what pertains to your baby, it only took me a few days to read it.

Quoting Chim Richalds:" Lmfao the baby boob. Classic."

haha
ohh maybe because my LO first 2 words are more boob! He says More more moremore MORE BOOB! he is 12 months

Quoting lil*Mama*Bear™:" I want to get some books so I can refer to them when trying to.educate the people in my sons life. So ... [snip!] ... I am looking at the Dr Sears books. about how long of a read are they? I am just wondering how many I should order at a time."

We used the baby book as a refrence almost daily in the first few months. To look up things like is this rash normal, when to take a temp ect.. Now that LO is walking I still use it perodicly. It has a break down for what to expect for each time in the babys life. Like at 9-12 month you can now expect..... Blah blahblha, So I use it at milestones I read what to expect next. It aslo sugests games and things for each age.

It tells a lot about all medications and how much is safe for you baby.


I think its a great book as well as resource. It is very long.

I also liked his book called the vaccine book to learn more about vaccines.

I ended up getting the book "The Natural Child: Parenting from the heart". I highly recommend it if you practice attachment parenting or just parent in a gentle compassionate fashion.

Here's my question how do you respond to "temper tantrums"?
Here's an example that I need help with, my son is one btw... He loves playing in the sink sometimes I let him stand on a chair next to me while I wash dishes and he gets to "help". Now every time we walk near the sink he wants to go play but obviously we aren't going to do that. Recently he's been throwing tantrums every time he doesn't get his way and I want to know how to respond in a gentle and empathetic way while at the same time not giving in.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:</b>" I ended up getting the book "The Natural Child: Parenting from the heart". I highly recommend it if you ... [snip!] ... he doesn't get his way and I want to know how to respond in a gentle and empathetic way while at the same time not giving in."</blockquote>



Sof loves the sink too!What I try to say is 'I know you love the sink, but we can't play in it right now, shall we play with x instead?' If that doesn't work, I say 'it doesn't feel good when we really want to do something but mommy says we can't, does it? It makes us mad. When you're ready to play or talk, I'll be here for you, okay?'

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:</b>" I ended up getting the book "The Natural ... [snip!] ... do something but mommy says we can't, does it? It makes us mad. When you're ready to play or talk, I'll be here for you, okay?'"</blockquote>




Ok Ty. Is that also what you did when you lo was around one year old? I've been doing that (talking to him calmly and gently, explaining even though he doesn't necessarily understand and then redirecting) He usually just ignores those attempts of mine and proceeds to cry and put his head on the floor. Do I ignore that? Or hold and comfort him?

<blockquote><b>Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... ignores those attempts of mine and proceeds to cry and put his head on the floor. Do I ignore that? Or hold and comfort him?"</blockquote>




Give him the option. My son doesn't like to be touched when he is upset and will freak out more. But I put my hands out and ask if he wants mommy. Or see if there is something he wants. He acts out when he is tired/hungry or thirsty. So I start asking him what he needs. "do you want your baba?" If he stops and waits for it, then that's it. If not "are you hungry?" "do you wanna cuddle?" "do you wanna play with X?"

<blockquote><b>Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... ignores those attempts of mine and proceeds to cry and put his head on the floor. Do I ignore that? Or hold and comfort him?"</blockquote>




He needs to carry out his emotions, I think it's important to give them words for their emotions though. Don't force physical contact if he needs his space, all kids are different. Imagine if your SO had pissed you off and just kept getting in your face and trying to touch you, it would suck and you'd get more annoyed aha. Put a cushion under his head so he doesn't hurt himself if you can, but other than that there's not much you can do. There is a difference between ignoring it and allowing him to express it, kwim?
Now DD is talking more I try to talk to her about it after, she can tell me if something makes her sad now which is great.

Quoting lil*Mama*Bear™:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's ... [snip!] ... If he stops and waits for it, then that's it. If not "are you hungry?" "do you wanna cuddle?" "do you wanna play with X?""

Yeah, my son will cry at first and wants to put his head on the floor but then he tries to get to me and wants to be held. So of course I do but he doesn't stop crying for a WHILE. He won't nurse, play with a different toy, eat, nothing. But if I set him down it gets worse. I feel like he is very overwhelmed with emotion when a tantrum starts and he is so used to me attending to him on cue that when I don't let him have what he wants he gets confused. Ya know?

Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's ... [snip!] ... Now DD is talking more I try to talk to her about it after, she can tell me if something makes her sad now which is great."

Yes I see your point. And i just read an article about tantrums too it basically said what you guys are saying to offer support but don't necessarily take over.

Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:" Yes I see your point. And i just read an article about tantrums too it basically said what you guys are saying to offer support but don't necessarily take over."

I don't have a choice. If I don't intervene and redirect her, she starts smacking her head on anything near by including the floor. Hopefully, your lo doesn't start that.