re: ATTACHMENT PARENTING !!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama*AtoZ:</b>" i miss EBF poop! my 3 year old still has mushy diapers. I've just realised he's nursing quite a lot in ... [snip!] ... in the day atm, but even when he only nurses once, he still has some mushy poop and some 'normal'. He eats plenty solids too."</blockquote>



Huh, we'll I take back what I said then! Haha dang it!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chim Richalds:</b>" My daughter never liked her high chair ... [snip!] ... 3 meals? I eat 5-6 small meals....isn't it better to have little snacks throughout the day anyway? Plus he's only 10 months"</blockquote>




I know one reason is their teeth. They are sensitive and when they eat more often they have more time for the teeth to sit in bacteria which causes them to decay. I just got home from my son (11mo old) getting his teeth capped. Which is a surgery. There were two other kids we met in the waiting room, one is 22mo the other about 3 or 4. It's partially genes but also that babies eat so often and my son had early teeth. But they said try to feed him more, less often to avoid coming back.

<blockquote><b>Quoting lil*Mama*Bear™:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chim ... [snip!] ... also that babies eat so often and my son had early teeth. But they said try to feed him more, less often to avoid coming back."</blockquote>




Ah I will just offer three times then..although I wonder if the type of food has anything to do with it

I'm going to take LO to a public pool for the first time....what should I put him in? Also for you moms who don't vax that young or at all...do public pools creep you out? I feel like that chlorine should kill w/e but idk

Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" I'm going to take LO to a public pool for the first time....what should I put him in? Also for you moms ... [snip!] ... you moms who don't vax that young or at all...do public pools creep you out? I feel like that chlorine should kill w/e but idk"

Yes, pools scare me bad. They are nasty to me, rguardless of chlorine.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Laurnabeth:</b>" Yes, pools scare me bad. They are nasty to me, rguardless of chlorine."</blockquote>




He was so excited..he kept dunking his face in the water tho -__- and making himself choke over and over...then he would laugh and try to dunk again....crazy baby! I had to hold him up and away

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lil*Mama*Bear™:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama ... [snip!] ... Ah I will just offer three times then..although I wonder if the type of food has anything to do with it"</blockquote>




It's partly hereditary, for it to been so bad at least. But they didn't mention his diet being a factor.

Is taking pictures of a toddler while they throw a tantrum shaming? I say it is. And anytime my son gets upset I would not be worried about a camera in my hand. Someone posted on fb their so laying on the ground with a horrible sad look on his face. She is supposed to be an attachment parent who is all John and mighty, but I think this is wrong! Just want opinions on this situation.

Why did they say they were taking pictures? what was the purpose of doing that?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama*AtoZ:</b>" Why did they say they were taking pictures? what was the purpose of doing that?"</blockquote>




They just said this is what my son has been doing I think he's hitting terrible twos.

poor kid  

i think the only time it would be a possibility to record it would be for a professional to show them behaviour you were concerned about.

i definitely think it is shaming and self pitying to post videos or pictures to other people. Whilst we all moan and vent about things, there is no need to publicly show a tantrum over the internet. Then child may be too young to understand, but the adult should know better.

Alot of people are AP with infants, but somehow change the rules once their child is one or whatever. Personally my high needs kid and my personal situation meant i found parenting very hard in the toddler years, but my belief system has always remained AP and unconditional even though my actions might not have been. I guess the difference is that my intent is still positive parenting and i feel terrible for being a mean mommy. Whereas some people seem to think that once their child is 9/12/18 months that they are now too big to be listened too intently anymore and they begin the controlling and punishment stuff.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama*AtoZ:</b>" poor kid   i think the only time it would be a possibility to record it would be for a professional ... [snip!] ... months that they are now too big to be listened too intently anymore and they begin the controlling and punishment stuff."</blockquote>




But even the act of taking pictures. Your kid knows what you are doing as you hold a camera or phone to take them. That can be more upsetting. I'm sure he doesn't care and probably never will that it was posted, but he knows they we're taken. My son is almost one and knows when I'm taking a picture.

Quoting lil*Mama*Bear™:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama*AtoZ:</b>" poor kid   i think the only time it would ... [snip!] ... never will that it was posted, but he knows they we're taken. My son is almost one and knows when I'm taking a picture."

Yup, my psychopath ex used to follow my son around with a camera all the time and that was it. It was weird as smurf and not good for my son at all. The last thing they need when they're upset (or anytime really if they should be interacting with you or getting help) is a camera shoved in their face.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama*AtoZ:</b>" Yup, my psychopath ex used to follow my son around with a camera all the time and that was it. It was ... [snip!] ... they're upset (or anytime really if they should be interacting with you or getting help) is a camera shoved in their face. "</blockquote>




I take lots of pictures, and he usually likes it. But if he gets upset I stop and fix what's wrong. If he needs a hug or to be moved to a different area/activity whatever.

Quoting lil*Mama*Bear™:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama*AtoZ:</b>" Yup, my psychopath ex used to follow my son ... [snip!] ... it. But if he gets upset I stop and fix what's wrong. If he needs a hug or to be moved to a different area/activity whatever."

there's nothing wrong with pictures, but sometimes it's inappropriate. In the case of my ex, he did zero parenting and just took videos all the time. My son didn't even know who he was. It gets to be a problem when you take pics more than you speak to the child