re: ATTACHMENT PARENTING !!!

My baby is about to be 9 months. He takes 2 or 3 naps a day in my bed and sleeps with me. He has only started having solids about a month ago so he is mostly BF and I still nurse him down every time he sleeps at at 2 am. Some times at other times during the night if he wakes up.

Well I read about helping them associate something else with sleep so that they don't have to be nursed down. I thought about trying it.

Then I realized that nursing him down is not a problem for us at all and I LOVE our 2am feeding. I am a SAHM and I have been for a long time before I had a baby so I don't think that will change any time soon. He has never (and will not for a long time, unless emergency) Stay with anyone else.

So... is there any reason I SHOULD try to get my LO to fall asleep another way? What do you think?

Thanks

Quoting applelove:" My baby is about to be 9 months. He takes 2 or 3 naps a day in my bed and sleeps with me. He has only ... [snip!] ... with anyone else. So... is there any reason I SHOULD try to get my LO to fall asleep another way? What do you think? Thanks"

If YOU don't have a problem with it, then no, there's no reason to stop nursing him down. I nursed my son down to sleep until he was 26m old. Only stopped because I had another baby and was in the hospital for a week and I was ready to stop then. I told him "milky goes bye bye at night" and had DH put him to bed for a few weeks. Now I can put him to bed and he does fine.

Do whatever works best for YOU. =D

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If you're fine with it then absolutely not, I think the idea comes from selfish reasons so the mother doesn't have to help the baby get to sleep every time.

Quoting applelove:" My baby is about to be 9 months. He takes 2 or 3 naps a day in my bed and sleeps with me. He has only ... [snip!] ... with anyone else. So... is there any reason I SHOULD try to get my LO to fall asleep another way? What do you think? Thanks"

No. Embrace it, lol. My daughter WON'T nurse to sleep and it's a struggle every night, I had to bounce her forever to get her to fall asleep every single night until she was 20 months old...lol.

He'll develop other methods of soothing naturally as he grows older  .

Quoting applelove:" My baby is about to be 9 months. He takes 2 or 3 naps a day in my bed and sleeps with me. He has only ... [snip!] ... with anyone else. So... is there any reason I SHOULD try to get my LO to fall asleep another way? What do you think? Thanks"

I'm in the same situation and feel the same way you do. Why change something that obviously works for me. My DD is 13 months old now and still nurses down for naps/bedtime. I love our close bond..don't get me wrong I would occasionally like a couple hours to my self here and there...but that has nothing to do with sleep.
Keep doing what works best for you!

Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting applelove:</b>" My baby is about to be 9 months. He takes 2 ... [snip!] ... not, I think the idea comes from selfish reasons so the mother doesn't have to help the baby get to sleep every time."

Thanks for all the advise. I think that makes since. I only wanted to stop nursing him down if stopping was for some reason good for him. I think you are right though. Its not about good for the baby but about having more time for yourself. If I needed some else to put him down like if he went to daycare or something then it would make since.

Thanks again. I think I will just keep doing it until one of us wants to stop... Or I can afford a boob job  

Kidding about the boobs.

Quoting applelove:" Thanks for all the advise. I think that makes since. I only wanted to stop nursing him down if stopping ... [snip!] ... I think I will just keep doing it until one of us wants to stop... Or I can afford a boob job   Kidding about the boobs."

I wish I could after I'm done nursing....my poor boobies!!

Quoting applelove:" My baby is about to be 9 months. He takes 2 or 3 naps a day in my bed and sleeps with me. He has only ... [snip!] ... with anyone else. So... is there any reason I SHOULD try to get my LO to fall asleep another way? What do you think? Thanks"

No, i'm the same and imo absolutely not! Our bodies release sleepy hormones and our milk has specific qualities at night time designed to aid sleep, everything shows that we're designed to nurse them down. I've not had an overnight away from my toddler yet, but he used to nurse every hour for the longest time. He was such a frequent feeder and yet now he will sometimes only nurse once a day and it's at bedtime. That last nursing session is really important to us and part of our bedtime routine no matter what else we don't bother to do. I'm really happy i stuck with it, it's a beautfiul time to connect and the health benefits are really worth it too.

Quoting The Blissful Six:" I wish I could after I'm done nursing....my poor boobies!!"

ya, just don't get duff implants like mine   I'm going to have to have them redone before having another child, which i really had not wanted to do. boo

Quoting Mama*AtoZ:" ya, just don't get duff implants like mine   I'm going to have to have them redone before having another child, which i really had not wanted to do. boo"

I'll never do it! I'm to afraid to have surgery..unless I absolutely have too!
And I forgot you have to have them removed/redone. Oy!!

Yup i went for a private scan and she said with 70% accuracy no rupture, so i decided to completely ignore the issue and then as soon as M weans i'll have them removed/redone. I just hope we can get through another year or so before that happens. I really want him to nurse through this winter as last year he had a bunch of horrible illnesses and could only keep bm down for days at a time. With him being sick recently with V&D, it just shows me that breastmilk is still important for him. Knowing he coped without me for 10 hours is good, it seems like ever since then i don't know him aswel though, it's odd. Feel like my parents are taking over with him aswel as my bro. They are 'mainstreaming' him and i hate it   Making him do as he's told, follow their rules, be exceptionally polite, never speak up his opinion etc. I really dislike it. Today i sat and listened to my poor boy say "Thank You Granny" 11, yes ELEVEN smurfing times in a row - in the space of about 4 minutes. It was so OTT and horrible to listen to, like he's begging for approval and scared not to say it. They're being so conditional it drives me crazy :@... anyway... back to what i was actually saying lol.. i can now seeing not BFing in our future, i can really imagine it now.. but i'm hoping he nurses at least till next spring time. Some days he only nurses one time and i really appreciate it. I've been losing my milk for weeks now, probably since May i've had low supply, so i guess i could dry up soon anyway?!

Quoting Mama*AtoZ:" Yup i went for a private scan and she said with 70% accuracy no rupture, so i decided to completely ignore ... [snip!] ... it. I've been losing my milk for weeks now, probably since May i've had low supply, so i guess i could dry up soon anyway?!"

Hang in there! In the few short weeks you'll be staying with your parents they won't be able to do enough damage that you can't undo once you get back into your own place.

I love how powerful nursing is in protecting against illness. My terrible, horrible almost week long flu that I eventually reluctantly went to the hospital for fluids for, he threw up three times, had two days of runny poo's and was done. Lucky boy!

Quoting The Blissful Six:" I'll never do it! I'm to afraid to have surgery..unless I absolutely have too! And I forgot you have to have them removed/redone. Oy!!"

I have had to have A TON of surgery in my life... the first few times are scary but its not bad. I actually enjoy it now.

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I'm sorry they are making him "act" a certain way. That's so tough. I have no problems with teaching manners, but they sound so overboard...that it's ridiculous.

And I'm glad you're able to wait to get your boobs redone. It's like another thing you don't need right now.

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I'm sorry they are making him "act" a certain way. That's so tough. I have no problems with teaching manners, but they sound so overboard...that it's ridiculous.

And I'm glad you're able to wait to get your boobs redone. It's like another thing you don't need right now.