I was almost and Aunt...

I feel so bad for her. My hubby's sister who I have known since she was 12-13years old lost her first child. She was due January 28th 09. Wednesday, She went in for her 6mth appt and they couldnt find the baby's heartbeat. They then rushed her to get an ultrasound and still couldnt find the heartbeat. They immediately sent her to labor n delivery. I feel so bad for her. She delivered her baby girl Thursday morning. We went to see her again later that day. I feel so bad for her. She had till the end of that same day she had her to plan her funeral before they released her from the hospital... She's like a sister to me. She even told me Thursday that she was a "trooper" like me. She's refering to the part where I waited the longest for the epirdural. I wanted to bust out in tears when she said this. Her recovery room was just a few rooms down from where I recovered after having my baby girl less than 3 mths before. My fiance's mother called me today to tell me the funeral is next thursday. Should I bring my little 11wk old girl to the funeral? If so where do you find....a black dress for an infant...Im tore up about this...aww man...I wouldnt wish this on my worst enemy...

awwe i am so sorry   i can see where bringing your baby might make the situation hard on her   i had a professor last winter who had a grandbaby less than a month after i had my daughter, and she died at 4 months old, she was super premature, but was doing good, and home and everything. and the last day of class i brought my daughter in and i felt so weird, like i shouldnt or something.

That is so terrible. I'm soo sorry for her and your entire family's loss. Maybe ask her if it's ok if you bring your daughter.

She loves my daughter...we brought her with us the first day we found out. She actually wanted to hold Jazmyne that day. Jazmyne smiled at her and she smiled too. Im just not sure how her mans side feels about it...

I'm sorry and ill pray for her but do you know what happened through my whole pregnancy its been my fear and me being a little bit behind her it scares me

Ah, you got me crying. I'm so sorry for the loss....
You can check online.... with Halloween coming up there should be some black stuff around...

Quoting His Highness, Her Mommy:“ I feel so bad for her. My hubby's sister who I have known since she was 12-13years old lost her first ... [snip!] ... where do you find....a black dress for an infant...Im tore up about this...aww man...I wouldnt wish this on my worst enemy...”

I'm so sorry for your SIL   I'm glad she has someone like you for support though, she's going to need it.
I wouldn't recommend bring a baby to a funeral simply because a baby can be disruptive and that's not a good thing during any funeral. Plus, you don't want to draw attention away from the purpose, which is her baby.
Since your baby is old enough for your SIL to already know and love her, at least you don't have to worry about how she'll feel about her, considering her loss. Although, being around your baby, or any baby, might make her a bit emotional for awhile.
My step-sister lost a baby at a week old, while I was pregnant with my youngest and I wasn't sure how she'd feel about being around my son when he was born. She told me that she was fine with it, but one thing that hurt her was when people who had babies avoided her completely, like she was going to freak out or something. So keep that in mind, don't go to extremes either way, and if you feel that she can handle it, ask her how she feels about being around your baby.
Again, sorry for her loss, and for your whole family

I am sorry that your sister and family had to go through this.

This happened to my sister-in-law too! The best thing I did was cry with her.  

Quoting sweetprincess559:“ I'm sorry and ill pray for her but do you know what happened through my whole pregnancy its been my fear and me being a little bit behind her it scares me”

Well when she delivered the baby's cord was wrapped around its neck three times...ugh...

I dont have family in Tn so an old friend of my mother. My play mother Rhea, who I absolutely trust is going to watch Jazmyne that day...I dont want to be disrespectful to anyone. And Jazmyne is so young she might get a little distruptive at the funeral. And it would seem so ood to hear baby sounds and coos at a baby's funeral.